1
June
2009

More Outrage!0

I started this blog with some background on the case I’m dealing with. Things grew decidely worse this past week at the last court review. Not for me or my child….but in certain facts coming out about my child’s father. Now, mind you, up until last week the monster had been given contact with the child…contact I had not been giving due to the fact that my child had told me about his dad having sexually abused him (along with documented physical abuse). Guess what….at the court hearing further contact was banned for the monster…because it turns out that he had been arrested for possession, distribution and viewing of child pornography! This arrest was back in February! Had the dectective for the sheriff’s department done the criminal background check he was supposed to have done, my son wouldn’t have had to face his molester for the last 3 months…this is outrageous! All because a CPS social worker decided (back when the report of the SA was made) decided NOT to believe us.

26
May
2009

OUTRAGE!0

OK, so one of the big news stories of the week has been that 13 year old boy who, with his mother, took off to avoid court ordered chemo. The latest, if you’ve been keeping up with this is that they have returned to comply with the court order. Now, I don’t necessarily agree with the decision they made to NOT take the chemo, but I DO agree with the family feeling that they have the right to decide…or rather the kid has the right to decide. After all, in many states a 13 year old girl can walk into a “reproductive clinic” and get on “the pill” or even have an abortion without her parents even knowing about it…but this 13 year old young man isn’t “mature” enough to decide for himself whether or not to undergo some pretty major treatment for his cancer. It just doesn’t make sense, does it?

The government needs to stay out of the concerns of families…..period. Unless there is clear and evident abuse and/or neglect, keep your (the government) noses out of our buisness!

1
May
2009

On Psych Evals and Parenting Assessments0

If you have ever been a victim of the Children’s Services agencies throughout this “great” nation of ours, you probably have had to undergo a psychological evaluation and/or parenting assessment (which supposedly gives the “system” an idea as to how good your parenting skills are.  There are a number of problems with these tests.  First of all you have to realize that the results are pretty much subjective, and the interpretation of the data collected is totally up to the person administering the tests.  In my case, I was fairly lucky in that I found a psychologist who shares my religious beliefs (Christian).  Because of that, my answers, which were more Biblical in attitude than not, were interpreted along those lines.  I hate to think of what a secular psychologist would have done with the same results! 

There were, however, a couple of things that I wasn’t happy seeing.  One of the “assessments” administered had to do with how much conflict there was with my spouse in the household.  That’s fine except for my spouse doesn’t live with me…we have been separated for over 3 years now due to his drug use and abuse of my child and me both.  So in answering the questions, of course I saw no conflict with him because he’s not there to have conflict with.  The interpretation of the test indicated that I saw no conflict within my home period.  Now, I am realistic enough to admit that there is conflict in my home with my child at times (sometimes a lot of times), but that is NOT what the questions were asking. 

The other problem that came up was that I was noted to have “low energy levels” that could indicate depression.  Folks, I am going through the “change”, have type 2 diabetes (and problems with my blood sugars going either too high or too low WILL lead to low energy levels), and go through nights of sleep disturbances caused by PTSD (which is the result of the abuse I suffered at the hands of my estranged spouse).  Of course my energy levels are at times low!  But there are a few people involved in this process that want to think that it could only be caused by depression.  And I AM NOT depressed.  Angry, yes.  Frustrated with a system in which actions that should be illegal are allowed?  Definitely.  But depressed…hey, if there is any at all it is totally the result of the actions taken by this agency that is designed to tear families apart.

21
April
2009

A Little Bit of Good News0

Might not seem like much to some, but to me it just might be the start of righting this wrong.  On my last visit with my son, his therapist let me know that he has started talking about the things his dad did to him.  He wouldn’t tell me though because he was afraid it would make me cry and he doesn’t want me to cry.  Why is this good news?  Go back to my first blog and read how this all started because one of our CPS workers refused to believe that my son had told me that his dad had molested him.  Hopefully the day will soon come when that will be shoved right back in this worker’s face.

15
April
2009

This agency must be stopped!0

Ever feel like someone was out to do you serious harm?  OK, it might sound paranoid of me, but seriously, I almost feel as if this agency is trying to totally destroy my life.  They unjustifiably took my child, which cost me the only income I had, which means I haven’t the ability to pay any of my bills (like rent and utilities), which means that at some point I could very well end up homeless, which means it will be almost impossible to regain custody of my child.  Like I said in my first blog, it all stems from having pointed out some serious mistakes made by this agency in another case.  The fact that this agency has the power to destroy lives simply to cover their own you know whats has got to be stopped.  No parent is safe from them.

13
April
2009

Retaliation for pointing out mistake!1

OK, so it all started with my child blurting out that his dad, while we were still together, molested him on the way to school in the mornings (this was during the 2005-2006 school year).  I was advised by a CPS worker in my county to “hotline” it, which I did.  Unfortunately, the worker that came out to investigate took the attitude that I was just another b**** making a false accusation.  In fact, when he sent out the determination report, he had included information that was not true, was misleading, and that should not have been included in a report going out to the alleged perp (there were big time violations of HEPA laws).  Additionally, the response given by the perp were accepted as gospel truth!  Had this investigator contacted me, I could have pointed out the lies this monster told so that they might be more willing to do more of an investigation.  So, naively, I decided to contact this investigator to talk to him about this notice.  And what was their response?  The very next day…THE VERY NEXT DAY…Child Services, along with a Deputy Sheriff, came out to my home with an emergency removal order (issued not by a judge but by the deputy sheriff who came into my home). 

The report was pretty messed up.  Because the paperwork didn’t have an apartment number on it, this deputy went first into the apartment in front of me.  He found pretty deplorable conditions there…the gal living there was pretty bad when it came to housework.  He stated that there were dishes piled up in the sink with old food on them…dirty laundry and trash strewn all over the apartment floor…and animal feces all over the place.  I was pretty dismayed while reading this because it was NOT my apartment he was describing…I had a few dishes in the sink (lunch dishes that would have been washed that evening), I had just been to the laundry mat the day before and had no dirty clothes, & the only mess on my floor was my child’s toys.  The fact of the matter was that this so called professional had gone into an apartment that was not mine and reported her conditions as being in mine.  In fact, this so called professional was actually seen entering that apartment first!

My child is now in a children’s home, with the monster who abused us both being given visits with him!  I am being forced to jump through the hoops they are requiring of me (believe it or not, my own lawyer won’t even deal with the fact that this was done for the reason it was), and am limited to seeing my child once a week.

And all this because I had the nerve to point out some serious mistakes made by a CPS worker in another matter all together!  It’s just not right that this agency has so much power to kidnap kids legally and tear up the lives of parents.


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