I received this email recently from a Washington state mother that I just had to share with you. This isn’t just an article that someone wrote off the top of their head. This is a parent, who battled and won her fight against the giant CPS machine that gobbles up families for breakfast. Her courage and fortitude should be an inspiration to us all.
I hate reliving that nightmare and was threatened by my own joke-of-a-lawyer that IF I ever got my child back (I never let myself doubt for a second that I wouldn’t) that I should leave the state and keep a low profile. Being the defiant one that I am, I laughed and said there was no way that I’d run and hide from anyone.
Instead, I got angry and decided I’d be even more vocal and obvious, even after I got my child home. I took her (and still do on occasion) to court hearings for other families, (this really upsets CPS workers because I am shoving it in all their faces — all their lies and bullying, right back on them and they know it). I took part in rally protests outside our courthouses, at the juvenile court and CPS buildings — my daughter even held up signs with us.
CPS preys on the weak and helpless – they rely on being able to terrorize and manipulate and coerce you, so they select their victims carefully. They have a little checklist that they go through when they get any kind of referrals etc., and if the parents have a steady income they are usually rejected right off the bat!
If parents have a strong family support system in place, they again are normally rejected. This ‘checklist’ has nothing to do with the child’s safety at all, it is about MONEY.
I have been taking college classes that include child abuse and neglect (they can’t flunk you for stating your opinion). I am sure the teacher was glad to get me out of that class. I was shocked to learn some of the things I did. If you have the time and the ability, take the class at your local college, just to check it out. Believe me, you will learn how they can pressure schools and medical staff, etc. to make reports for things that are just total bull, and why these people go along with it.
You will learn how to help the people you are advocating for as well, if you can’t, try to get someone in your group to attend. It really is worth it to learn that stuff. You don’t have to let them know a damn thing, it is a college class that is offered to anyone for any reason.
I wish I could make promises to parents that if they did this and this, then things would be all good in the end. I can’t.
I fought damn hard but I know that without faith and prayer my fight would have been lost. I refused to bow down to them. I researched and learned everything possible. I didn’t give up, even when I felt hopeless, (that’s when I pulled out my daughters pictures and focused on WHY I couldn’t just give up).
I glued her picture to all my case folders and had her face before me at all times. I put it in front of the caseworkers, attorneys and legislators too. It made her REAL to them. I never let them think of her as a court document number (that made many very uncomfortable, which is a GOOD thing).
Another very important thing is that I DID NOT give them any bullets to shoot me with. I stayed away from places that could be used against me – bars, areas known for drugs or partying etc… I stayed away from anything that could in anyway be turned against me later. They made up many lies, since they could not find anything to use against me, but I documented everything and had many witnesses to back me up, so in the end they only screwed themselves by doing that.
You CAN WIN!
It may take time and many parents will sign documents due to their belief in CPS’s lies, promising to help get their kids back quicker.
Never sign anything without your attorney
explaining the possible outcome — Never Ever!
I don’t care what CPS says, they have ulterior motives on everything and UNLESS the judge tells you or your attorney says you HAVE to, don’t do it. CPS will try to say that you are required to, or you are out of compliance — that is one of their lies they use to force parents to sign away their rights. Don’t sign anything, not for any reason.
This is SOOOO IMPORTANT. SO SO SO SO IMPORTANT. Once you put your signature to paper you give up rights and I promise this – those rights aren’t given back. CPS will push hard and the harder they push the more you can bet that they are trying to pull some underhanded B.S. on you that will come back to bite you later. That is a red flag for anyone, if they are pushing hard and if they get forceful or start making promises then you know that they are up to something bad.
In addition, parents who believe that if they just agree and go along then CPS will help them are sadly in denial and will be in much pain later. Moreover, there is NO RECOURSE after the fact. Unless you file complaints when the problem is happening or right afterwards, then you will be seen as an angry parent that is just looking to blame someone else for your own screw up.
This takes courage for sure, but believe me, waiting until you absolutely can’t deny the lies any more is too late.
I don’t care how nice the worker seems or how sincere and helpful she/he might portray themselves to be, it is an act to get you to willingly let yourself be screwed. No better then how the Jews were willingly herded to the camps – at least that is how many compare the two.
DO NOT BE AN EASY VICTIM!
Don’t be a out-of-control maniac either because that is just as harmful. Learn to be in control of your emotions, don’t allow them to know your afraid or worried or anything… even if you must pretend, always come off with an attitude of strength and determination.
ALSO DO NOT SAY ANYTHING THAT THEY CAN PROVE TO BE A LIE!
If you don’t know how to respond to something then DON’T RESPOND. I went to a required parenting class and listened to some parents just unburden themselves, thinking they were safe to vent in that group. I discovered quite by accident that one of the “parents” was actually a CPS worker, posing as a parent, to spy on another workers clients and reporting back everything she heard! I KNOW THIS FOR A FACT.
That ‘fake parent’ also attends AA and other twelve step “anonymous” meetings for the same reason. They are corrupt as hell and unfortunately naive parents that don’t know their rights become their best victims.
It makes me sick to my stomach what they do, that is why I refused to run and hide. I know that my ‘streak of defiance’ (since a child and my survival mechanism growing up) helped me but some parents don’t have that in them, and so for them I allow my case to be used at Senate hearing still and why I am okay with you posting my stuff (minus personal identifying words). I hope others can grow and learn. I am sorry that I can’t do more. I had to stop testifying myself because it was so painful to keep reliving things over and over and never allowing myself to heal, which hurt my daughter too.
My prayers are with those parents fighting for their children and those, like you, who help them. I know the pain they are going through. I hope they find the strength to fight. It is a fight for sure, especially if your children are “highly adoptable” because they bring in more money.
Sick huh? I mean, they gotta have them fancy phones ya know!! It’s much more important then actually helping a family in crisis don’t ya think? What a crock of crap!
CPS is an organized criminal enterprise, kidnapping children for human trafficking purposes with government funding! The great thing is most of them are so arrogant that they really do screw up on a daily basis and their lies can be brought to light, if people would document and question everything more.
They love to interrogate you, but boy watch them squirm when you turn the tables around. I think one of the funniest things is how they always want to force background checks on any and everyone a parent might have in their lives ‘for the safety of the child’.
Well, I turned that around on them and said “OK, then I want a background check done on you, and you and you,” and pointed to everyone in the room (which was about 12 various officials, of some sort or another). WOW, did they get their backs up fast. Lets just say that I never once had to have ANYONE I knew get a background check done! Background checks are an illegal attempt to force others to allow them into their lives in search for more victims, and I wasn’t willing to be the avenue to let it happen.
I pray that you are able to reach out and help others. You should check out Washington Families United if you haven’t already. They have really made some huge impacts at the state level that have made such incredible differences for families in our state. I think that the stronger our networks are, the more powerful our fight against CPS abuse/corruption on every level.
Oh, another hilarious tactic that has a huge impact on CPS agents, is to get some dirt on at least one CPS worker (we had a Private Investigator do work on the worse workers we knew – three to start with) and then send a copy of the information to everyone of the CPS email addresses you have, at the same time throughout the state! OMG does it cause up some chaos. The info doesn’t have to be more then a poor driving record and a bad credit report, but it still gets them upset – those who didn’t get investigated now are worried they are next! It is really quite comical.
I know that each time I found even the littlest information that brought the “BIG SCARY MONSTER” back down to realistic size, my fears became silly and I felt stronger and more capable then ever.
I hate that it took a year to get my girl home and that she suffered during that time, but I know that my case made a difference for many families and that is something I am very thankful for. Parents need to be strong, to believe in themselves (and their ability to learn and grow no matter what), and to know that their child needs THEM – not some stranger but THEM AND ONLY THEM.
I have heard some parents say that their kids were better off without them; I think that is not true at all, and would only believe that if the parent were abusive and failed to protect the child from abuse.
I struggled to believe in myself as a parent, and found tons of things that could be seen, as reasons I was not the best mom. I hate to cook, I suck at it in fact and many times, I thought that it was reason enough to prove my failure as a mom.
However, my grown sons reminded me that even though I didn’t cook, I NEVER let them go hungry or eat crap. I managed to be sure they ate good and healthy for the most part. Stuff like that can really be damaging to parents who already feel alone, worthless, and powerless. It is so important NOT to give into those lies. Children are never better off with someone else (unless they were given up for adoption at birth and never knew their natural parents anyway). They need their family, their real family.
Did you know that children are 9 times more likely to be abused in foster care than with biological family? That scares the crap out of me. My daughter never once had known abuse or neglect until she was placed in foster care and I HATE them for that. I was denied the ability to comfort and protect my child, by the same people who claimed to have taken her for her own protection! Yeah right!