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It’s just not a Merry Christmas when…

Let’s face it, when the state waltzes in and turns your life upside-down; Kidjack’s your child and devastates you emotionally, financially and yes, even, spiritually — It’s simply not the makings of a very Merry Christmas.

This can be the most difficult time of the year to face — alone.

Those who manage to get through it in good spirits are those who can maintain a good attitude, inspite of the bleak outlook in their current circumstances. I’ve experienced a great deal of loss in my own life — and I’ll admit it — I’ve spend the majority of the past two days in tears — all for no apparent reason.

My Grandmother always had good advice to dole out. She always used to say, “Whatever doesn’t kill you, will make you stronger.” She was right. I’ve always managed to gather strength during my struggles — it’s the actual struggle that builds strength, stamina and perseverance. All, important qualities to possess.

I recently learned a new adage that also makes perfect sense to me, “Pain is our bodies way of letting us know, we are still alive.”

The secret is to keep busy. When I’m in pain, I like to read a good humorous book, especially those by Erma Bombeck, she just tickles my funny bone. (Be careful, you don’t want to be laughing if you have stitches, for instance.)

Here are some helpful tips for getting through the holidays – alone.

  • Do something for someone else – Doing for others will help keep our mind off our own troubles.
  • Take up a new hobby – Learn a new craft, take up sewing, learn to play golf, learn to knit, take up hiking — anything to keep your mind busy.
  • Listen to soothing or upbeat music – Depending on your mood, something mellow and sweet might bring back those feel good memories. Something with a nice beat might be just the thing for dancing.
  • Keep a Journal – Just taking the time to take good notes, keep a journal, create an accurate timeline or simply writing some short stories, or keeping up with a blog can be enough to inspire you. It may help you find a creative way to fight for your kids. The act of writing often works as a release for pent-up emotions.
  • Get Physical– Physical exercise is good for the body and the mind. Building strong muscles can also help to keep your mind sharp. Try it.
  • Make a new friend – Friends and family can make nice sounding boards, they can be there when you are feeling down and help lift you back up again. Just remember your friend might need an ear from time to time as well.
  • Don’t wallow in self-pity – Allow yourself 15 minutes a day to think about your children and to cry and grieve for their loss. Set a timer, when it goes off, put those thoughts away and get moving. Don’t give in to the temptation to climb into bed and never get up again. We’ve all been there.

I’d like for us to take the time and remember the children who have been stolen by the state — paid for compliments of the U.S. Taxpayers and our federal government. It is wrong to place a bounty of the heads of children. Our children are not for sale.

If you have wrongfully had a child Kidjacked by the state or if you know of a child who has been been removed from their loving parents — please leave a comment below. Give the child’s name (include his or her age, if you wish) and your Christmas greeting or wish. We want all of our children to know they have not been forgotten and that they still have parents waiting for their return. Once you’ve added a child’s name to the list, please share the link with your friends and family.

Please remember the children and families in your prayers, especially during this holiday season.

I wish each and everyone of you a Christmas reunion with your child.

God Bless the little children!


  1. Kidjacked Editor

    Tyjay in Michigan — Merry Christmas Tyjay! The whole family loves and misses you so very much. Grandma Sue sends her love. Our one wish is that we could spend Christmas with you.

  2. Melissia

    Katherine Marie age 15 , Shirley Ann, age 9 and Sadie Nicole age 5 !

    Merry Christmas to my 3 Beautiful Girls ! I will never forget your smiling faces 🙂 May all your Christmas wishes come true from now until I can hold you in my arms again.

  3. Mostfiercemommy

    My dearest babies, Sirena,Aurora Tori and Daylon, there are no words to describe how much I miss you. I have never been apart from you during this time of year and I pray it will be the only time making all the future times that much more precious.

    You are my reason for going on, I know the truth will come out. There is nothing I would not do for you. I am your mother and NOTHING will change that.

    Your lonely mommy

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