After we moved to Elko, as I previously mentioned in one of my other blogs, our case worker in Vegas imposed a visitation schedule. 3 hours a week. We moved from our home to be near our daughter for 3 hours a week! It is worth it to spend ANY time with our daughter but it just isnt enough.
Ever since I have been trying to get or visits increased and I always ALWAYS get the run around. The first time I approached the topic with my case worker she said ” Well……I’d like to see you finish your parenting classes and then we will talk.” SO WE DID! and then our worker said “Well………..I’d like to see you get into counseling and then we’ll talk.” SO WE DID! Then it was “Well…….I need a progress report from your counselor and then we’ll talk” So I called him and had him giver her one. NOW we have ANOTHER situation at hand. I called my case worker and again asked for increased visitation and she said ” well there are some problems with that…..”
Apparently while at day care my daughter started crying and said ” I want my mommy but I hate her!” and now DCFS is making this HUGE deal about it. They want her to go see a child psychologist and make sure that contact with my husband and I isn’t “traumatizing” her. They refuse to increase our visitation with her until then. FOR CRYIN OUT LOUD!!!!!!! My daughter is THREE!!!!!! HATE is not a word she understands!! They automatically jump to the worst case scenario and assume that our being with her isnt HEALTHY for her??? COULD IT BE THAT SHE WANTED TO BE WITH ME AND WAS MAD BECAUSE SHE CANT BE?!?!? A three year old isn’t supposed to have such serious dilemmas so it is natural that she can’t find the right words to use to express her feelings. They are holding my daughter hostage and then cant understand why she is exhibiting signs of distress?? Have they considered that her “acting out” as they call it is the result of THEM ripping her away from us rather than US being BAD for her? No. I’m sure they haven’t.
So now our contact with our daughter hinges on what some psychologist has to say. A psychologist that we have no control over choosing ( they chose for us) , whom we dont even get to meet ( so that the Dr only has ONE side of the story) and whose report we will not see ( so DCFS can tell us anything they want!) We have done EVERYTHING asked of us, jumped through all of the required hoops to increase our visitation and still they refuse to let us have any QUALTIY time with our child! Forget unjust, this is flat out LUDACRIS!
thank you for reading my story. i have had one bad thing after another, i can relate on the being dressed properly and showerd could be depression, the cps worker and her superviser that came to my home last friday, made a comment about the way i dress, apparently because i am “appart” of the military i should be and my home should be “presentiable at all times” a pair of jeans and a plain black t just doesnt cut it, according to her i should be wakeing up at 5am with my husband every morning, showering, doing my hair, putting on my makeup, and putting on acuratly attire. and some were in there i should be wearing heals. then she proceaded to tell me that then i should be cleaning my house untill my children are ready to wake up eat breakfast bath and get ready for school. ummmm ok so if i were to be like that, to me that would be neglecting my children, for it is that wen i wake up in the morning the first thing i think of is my kids NOT PUTTING ON MY FACE IN THE MORNING. cps makes me sick. and so does this school. hopefully it will be all over with soon. i went as far as trying to beat them at there own game, safty child proof my home, and i know there going to play the whole councleing card, so i set up all this stuff before they could ask me too even encludeing child behavior classes. i just dont understand how these ppl can get away with stuff like this. i did a smart thing and i decided to hire and attorney, before this was to get out of hand. im more scared for my children than i am of my self. the school has threatend my husband’s job, and then recently i found out that there were three sepperate allogations, 3 neglect charges. the only ppl i can think of would be all from the school. what gives them the right to take over the parneting of my children. i cant want to file a lawsuit, military or not, its comming.
I can totally relate. i am going through a simialr ordeal with my 6 year old son. and the state took my kid and placed him in a worse situtation now and I can’t get him out cause the system cuz. I am sorry. have faith, it will get better.
God Bless you. You are not alone. I am the author of The Game of Civil Rape. I’m in Los Angeles. My case is on appeal – all about fraud and legal kidnappings. I would be honored to have your name and phone number. My name is Janette Isaacs. My Appeal is pending at the California Court of Appeal, 2nd Distric, Division 7. If something is not done about these legal kidnappings, we will all need to get together and stage a nationwide protest. We are already starting to organize here in California. I know your pain. I know your tears. I know your battle. My case is somewhat different in that the Judges in my case authorized a woman who I used to volunteer with at my son’s school to impersonate a Psychologist – full well knowing that she was a fraud used to rob me of my custodial timeshare. My son cried his heart out for me for almost six months. My case is not unique. Our justice system has failed us. I will continue to pray and have faith in our Nation and hope that in my case, our Appellate Court Justices will deal with the issue of legalized and inhumane custodial timeshare kidnappings. My phone number is (818) 772-6974. Hang in there and keep in touch. Give me your name and phone number.
Ciao,
Janette