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		<title>DCFS a Lifetime of unspeakable hardship</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 14 Jan 2010 01:52:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I can only talk about these events now that almost of the people who caused this hardship and deception are now deceased. This story still still brings tears to my eyes. My brother Sean died in 1984. Sean was 17 in a car accident.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I can only talk about these events now that almost of the people who caused this hardship and deception are now deceased. This story still still brings tears to my eyes. My brother Sean died in 1984. Sean was 17 in a car accident.</p>
<p>Since he is no longer with us I am here the only remaining member of my family to speak of the DCFS horror. I am here simply to tell our story.</p>
<p>In 1971, I was a 7 year old child. Sean my little brother was 5. We lived in Cannon Falls Minnesota. I went to Cannon Falls Elementary school. My teachers name was Mrs. Finnerty she was my second grade teacher. Mrs. Finnerty did not like me. She asked me to erase the chalk board. I told her no. She asked again. I told her no.</p>
<p>Standing in line with at least 10 children she came up to me raised her hand and slapped me across the face untill my cheek was red and I cried my eyes out. The teacher hauled me to the office saying I was the problem.</p>
<p>The office started to question me about my home life. The neighbors knew my mother had a mental illness and was watching me and my brother daily. The school made it look like my family was the problem. An investigation went on to my home. The state workers claimed we had no food in our home.</p>
<p>Me and my brother Sean were ordered to remain after school. Me and Sean shook with fright. I looked out the classroom window and told the teacher that my mom and dad wanted me home before dark. The Cannon Falls Elementary staff stood vigilant watching me and Sean so we would not try to escape. We remained in the room crying wanting to go home.</p>
<p>A Minnesota state employee came into the classroom and instucted the teacher to lead us to her car. Me and Sean put on our coats and were led out to the car outside the building. The state worker pulled me and Sean into her car. The car pulled away silently along with the school staff member. The staff member started waving goodbye.</p>
<p>Sean looked at me with sad tear filled eyes, and said. &#8220;Robin where are we going?&#8221; I told Sean. &#8220;Sean I don&#8217;t know.&#8221; The car drove across dark roads. I was sitting in the front seat and cound not recognize any road we were on. Sean remained in the back seat silent and crying.</p>
<p>After driving down country roads the car came to an abrupt stop. Looking outside I could see a ranch style white house. A middle aged woman approached the car. The woman from the house talked to the state worker briefly and then led us into her home. Once me and Sean were inside the home I noticed the child sitting in the livingroom was a girl that attended my 2nd grade class. She was the girl with the brown curly hair. The house was warm.</p>
<p>Several weeks went by and the house was a little cold. Me and Sean attended our classes even though our grades were slipping. I cannot remember much of this time period except the foster mother would get up at 5 am and curl her daughters hair. I repeatedly asked the mother to curl my hair but she ignored my requests. I thought she was a cold person.</p>
<p>After a while me and Sean were brought to another foster home. This foster home was on a farm. We stayed with some farmers this time. These foster parents were kinder. I remember having some fun at this foster home. I would stand by my foster mother&#8217;s front door crying for my family. The longing for my mother and father was a heart breaking tramatic memory I have even to this day.</p>
<p>Finally after about 18 months me and Sean were brought to the Cannon Falls State Courtroom. Me and Sean were sitting in a courtroom. Richard and my mother were sitting a distance away from us. I could see their lawyer talking to the judge. I saw the prosecuting attorney arguing. Then the state worker drove us back to our foster home.</p>
<p>We were told we were being returned to our parents after 2 long years. My memory is blank after this but I have memories of living with my parents again. We always feared DCFS. We finally moved to Illinois to escape the nightmare.</p>
<p>A man by the name of Doctor Mueller told my dad that their was something wrong with Sean. I remember my father being furious with the doctor. Richard told us there was nothing wrong with Sean. Sean started sucking his thumb and wetting the bed almost until he was 13 years old.</p>
<p>Later my brother portrayed reckless behavior. Sean swam in the Cannon River and almost drowned. The police were even searching for my brother in the river. Another time my brother rode his bike and got knocked out unconscious. Some neighbor called an abulance before my mother could come and see what happened. My mother got a ride to the hospital.</p>
<p>Later in years my brother started to smoke pot and drink. Sean went to a party and was brutally beaten and hospitalized for 2 months. 3 months after he was released from the hospital he died in a car accident. My mother and Stepfather died in 2001 from heart failure.</p>
<p>I believe all of their deaths were premature due to DCFS. I only pray that all the people who cause this horror will be punished when they reach their Judgement. Because eventually we all will be judged by God.</p>
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		<title>DCFS A Living Nightmare</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Dec 2008 23:11:46 +0000</pubDate>
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DCFS has been in my life for about 40 years.  I was slapped in the face at Cannon Falls Minnesota by Mrs. Finnerty in the 1970s.  She was my first grade teacher at Pine Hill Elementary School in Cannon Falls Minnesota. I was immediately taken away from my parents.  It seems to me that  the [...]]]></description>
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<p>DCFS has been in my life for about 40 years.  I was slapped in the face at Cannon Falls Minnesota by Mrs. Finnerty in the 1970s.  She was my first grade teacher at Pine Hill Elementary School in Cannon Falls Minnesota. I was immediately taken away from my parents.  It seems to me that  the school in a way, kidnapped me and my brother.   Even though it was considered legal.  They would not  let me or my brother return to our home in Cannon Falls Minnesota.  They told us we could not go home.  The school told us we were to stay put.  Later we were drove in the January bitter cold to a &#8220;foster families&#8221; house. I was terrified. I realized it was the home of a girl in my class.   I pleaded with my new foster mother &#8220;when will I see my mom and dad?&#8221;  I felt like I had been kidnapped.  I wasn&#8217;t allowed to leave their house.  I would sit for hours crying privately, with terror in my heart.   I never knew any other family than my parents.   This foster care family scared me.  They seemed so cold and uncaring. It was sub zero outside.  I was taken there in the dark.  I had no idea of where I was.  I remember waking up for school.  It was a January Minnesota bitter sub zero day.  I had wanted to dart and run out of their house.  But there would be not escape, because  it was some place that I did not recognize.  The January sub zero  tempuratures outside would not allow it.   I felt like a prisoner in a cold hell.  My foster family was my classmates  mother.  Somehow the school had arranged for me and my brother to be taken to this little girl&#8217;s family, so they could get a foster parent check.  This foster parent that I had  would curl her daughter&#8217;s hair and primp her daughter. in the cold bathroom. But she would have me used clothes and not even comb my hair.  I would watch her for minutes curling and primping her plainly daughter.  I pleaded with her to fix my hair.  She just ignored me and would not even comb my hair.    She made sure her daughter was beautiful.  I was a very pretty little seven year old girl.  I felt this foster mother did not like me because I was a lot prettier than her daughter.  The social services finally called the foster family and awarded them custody of me and my brother Sean.  They said my mother was incapable of taking care of me.  I was 7 years old.  My brother was 5.  Our child like minds could not comprehend the devastation,  a simple action could take. How could a simple slap of a teacher&#8217;s hand cause such a catastrophe.  That simple slap has caused a lot of my life to become sorrow and grief.  I cannot describe to you the hardship I have endured as a child both from my parents and DCFS.  My mother had a mental Illness.  From my 7 year old mind I felt Cannon Falls School Sytem and my neighborhood conspired against my family to take me away from my imperfect family.  Now I&#8217;ve come to realize that my 7 year old thoughts were correct. Mrs. Finnerty is deceased now.  But,  my question to you is.  Why should a school teacher get away with slapping a child in the face for not erasing the chalk board?  Then to cover up her actions call Minnesota Child Protective Services. I can still feel the slap of her hand that spun my head around.  That slap has echoes,  that project into my life, even today.  I cannot rid my life of DCFS.  Even Now, Dcfs seems to still torment me people call DCFS on me.  For example my angry ex husband in a custody dispute.  A disgrunted elderly neighbor, mad  because I would not let her make money babysitting my 6 year old.  This neighbor knows I pay well for childcare because I work, at one of the higher paying companies in the area.  I still feel like a child with flash back of memories of me standing in front of the picture window at my foster parent&#8217;s house waiting for my step father and my mother to bring me a winter coat. I can still see myself standing in the front of my new missonaries foster home.  I finally left the classmates home and went to a big farmhouse in the middle of nowhere.  Me and Sean were now miles from Cannon Falls there would be no escape.  As we drove up escorted by DCFS we saw a  two story farm house in Cannon Falls Minnesota.  I was on a farm isolated from the rest of the world.  I can still remember the pain of loss.  It felt like someone in my family had died.  I could not fathom a way to escape or to return to my parents.  I cried silently so no one could see. When I look at our childhood photos in Cannon Falls.  These were  after we were taken away by Child Protective Services.   I  see me and Sean standing solemn, with pale white faces,  pretending to smile.   I have flashbacks of standing in the front porch of my missonary foster parents.  I stood at the front of the huge farmhouse,  waiting to receive a winter coat for my November birthday.  It was a cold november day.  It was supposed to be my birthday present but my parents never came.  I would stand every weekend hoping, praying and waiting for my parents to come.  I would wait by the picture window at the front door.  The new foster parents got me a winter coat eventually.  These foster parents were much kinder. But what I hadn&#8217;t understood in my months of isolation, waiting for them to return and &#8220;Rescue&#8221; me and my brother.  Is that they were angry at me for crying after Mrs. Finnerty slapping me in the face.  My step father after nine additional months got a lawyer and won custody of me and Sean back.  In that Minnesota courtroom my parents sat opposite from me and Sean in the courtroom.  We were  sitting in a Minnesota courtroom with a room full of people awaiting the verdict.  Finally when the judge announced the verdict.  &#8220;The Children shall be returned to the parents&#8221;.  Me and Sean thought we would be returned.   But the court clerk hurried us back to our foster family, and almost instantly we drove back to the farm on Egan Ave.  But eventually, weeks after waiting and praying we were returned to Richard and Hellen&#8217;s house. I was shocked to see two grandmother&#8217;s awaited me and my brothers arrival.   They took turns helping my stepdad and mother out.  Finally Sally Konkel, Richard&#8217;s mother returned to Duluth Minnesota.   Then my Tennesse grandmother Mildred returned to her family.  We then moved to another town to escape the watchful eye of  Child Protective Services.   My stepfather blamed me for answering the school administrations questions incorrectly.   I know now that a child of seven  does not have the capacity to understand the Department of Children and Family Services questioning methods.  But regardless, I failed the&#8217;re questioning session.  And the result was a lifetime of sorrow.  My step father always blamed me for me and my brother being taken away.  I don&#8217;t know if he ever forgave me.  I&#8217;m not sure if I ever told him what really happened.  I couldn&#8217;t talk to him about what happened.  I always would get sad and depressed.  We finally got free of Minnestota Department of Children and Family Services by moving to Illinois.   Richard my step dad blamed me for me and Sean getting taken away.   Even though he stopped talking about the incident, there was always that feeling of guilt for being part of the process that destroyed my family.   Richard and Hellen were occasionaly abusive toward me.  I was always the black sheep of the family, I guess because I was not Richard&#8217;s child.  Richard could be the most abusive.  In 1980 he punched me in the face and broke my nose, with my mother telling him to do so.  I was 16 and was watching tv with my brother and sister but since I was the oldest and Richard&#8217;s step kid he blamed me for everything.  So he pulled his arm back and punched me in the face and broke my nose at 16.  I am 40 and still haven&#8217;t gotten my nose fixed because I cannot afford to do so.  But since I had so much violence and family problems in my life I went on into abusive relationships.  I got rid of the men who beat me.  But now I sit alone and happy that I do not have anyone controlling my life, even Child Proctive Services.   I was in the Minnesota Foster Care system for two years.  My brother Eddie was in the New York State Foster care system all eighteen years of his life.  He now uses herion and drinks.  My mother Hellen, Richard my stepfather and Sean my brother are all dead.  My parents died of heart failure.  My 17 year old brother Sean died in a car accident.  I blame Child Protective Services for all my heart ache and grief.  It stessed my parents out, causing heart failure.  My 17 year old brother died in Woodstock Illinois years after being a foster child in Cannon Falls Minnesota.  But the pain and suffering contributed to his reckless behavior,  that caused him to die accidently.  Any time anyone mentions Department of Children and Family Services I shudder with fear.  I suspect that I may suffer from post tramatic stress disorder.  But if you are still listening can I simply ask you.  How an agency such as child protective services have the power to hold a families future or demise in their hands.  What gives them the god given right?</p>
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