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Jumping Through Hoops

April 11, 2016 in child abuse, Child Protective Services, CPS

Please pray for this family.  This is so unfair.

I am currently in the midst of a life destroying case with the Hamilton CPS. The man who is overseeing this is named Tom Irvine. This man is not looking out for what’s best for my children or myself, I am being treated like a criminal and drug addict even though I have zero history with the law on both accounts. I would like to tell you my story and request please that this man’s job and professionalism be looked into. Or at least my case be handled by someone with a heart and better logical outlook.

cps-meme In November, my boyfriend of 4 years picked my children up from daycare and took them to his house. This is not unusual because Gabe (my boyfriend) cares for my children 40% of the time my children all call him daddy. An incident happened and Gabe had to punish my youngest son. I’m not condoning what he did and if I was there things would have went differently but I was not there. We do not live together nor do we even live in the same town. Gabe struck my child on his face and left a nasty bruise. My youngest was questioned at school and he said that his daddy did it and Gabe got arrested.

Then CPS decided that that was not enough apparently and refused to allow me to then go home with my own children they were accusing me of knowing of the abuse and turning a blind eye when I had done nothing but cooperate with them the entire day. I had to either have my children stay at my mom’s or have someone sign a protection order and volunteer to be with me every second I was with my children for the next 30 days or my children had to go to foster care.

Fight Child Protective Services and Win I was irate, how dare they treat me like I had struck my child myself and/or watched as Gabe did it. Like I said I wasn’t even in the same town when it happened. I reluctantly agreed and found a friend with no life but to supervise me with my own flesh and blood. The 30 day protection order was done December 24th. My friend who signed up for this his name is James and is the only other person in the meeting with the CPS besides myself.

CPS never once said anything to me or him about this continuing beyond the 30 days. I never received any emails or calls or paperwork on anything else, nobody contacted me beyond December. Both of us believed that I had fulfilled my half and it was over on my end. (Why would we think otherwise.)

In January, CPS gave Gabe back his visitation rights with his own biological child as long as he had a friend sign on, to be there to supervise, why would they do this if they thought Gabe such a threat? This also says out loud to the rest of us that the case is slowly starting to be over on his end as well.

In February, I became wicked sick and was unable to care for myself let alone my children. I did not know at the time but I had beginning stages of pneumonia, I have asthma on top of that and could not breath well enough to even make it down my hallway. Gabe has been my only support forever he is not a bad person just doesn’t know what to do with his anger sometimes. He called the cps office many times trying to get them to hook him up with parenting classes, anger management, something so that he could get his family back and nobody would help him.

He looked this stuff up online himself, he called the anger management and enrolled himself and was there every Monday evening doing homework, (Gabe does not do homework). He begged me to give him another chance to let him show me that he can change. I have known Gabe for a long time and I have never seen him like this a shell of the cocky tall standing man that I once knew.

How To Get My Kids Back From Child Protective ServicesWe had a family and life together, bills and assets intertwined and I agreed to let him help me. So in February, when I became so sick Gabe came over to help me just like he would have at any other times. He made supper washed and tucked the kids in bed said prayers and everything was perfect. The next morning he got up early and packed the kids cold lunch and dropped them off at school.

My youngest then proud said to his teacher look my daddy made me cold lunch. The police then came and arrested Gabe and the next day cps came and removed my children. Now if that’s not crazy enough on that day was the first day this Tom Irvine had ever met me before in his life, he comes into my home with another lady planning on giving me a drug test right then and there as they are removing my children.

I was volatile and uncooperative, but what do you expect when you are stripping away my reason for living. The drug test was not done, I would have refused anyway based on the fact that I have zero drug history with the law and this is an abuse case not a drug case. The next day or so he tells me that if I come in and sign papers and agree to treatment that this would all be over faster. “Treatment for what?” I ask him. He doesn’t answer.

I’m not voluntarily going in and saying yes I’m on drugs just because you say it will look good on my behalf like I’m cooperating or something. How does that make sense? That can only screw me further. I will take a pee test and it will be clean there is no reason for treatment. I have never been arrested nor in jail for anything ever and do not appreciate being treated like a criminal from the get go.

They branded me as being non cooperative and forced my children into saying things that they wanted to hear and then they used my own children against me and nothing in my life has been more heartbreaking than that. If you dig enough into any body’s lives your going to find indiscretions they dug up and said terrible things about me. Letters were send to my kids elementary school to daycare and to my son’s physical therapy. I can’t pick them up, I can’t drop them off, I can’t even be seen alone with them.

Any amount of reputation I have created since moving to Montana was destroyed in an instant. Why am I being treated like I abused my children myself. The elementary school told me that if I call them again it’ll be considered harassment. Just two weeks previous to that I was in that school sitting around the table with the principal that counselor another counselor and my daughters teacher, I was a great mom then my daughter was taking leaps and bounds above where she started out everything was going fine and we were all patting ourselves on the back for a job well done and now they are having my kids write their valentine’s cards to grandma like mommy no longer exists. I can’t even breathe this is so unreal.

My lawyer then became super sick and had to have emergency surgery is was unaware of this all in knew is that I could not get a hold of her. Tom knew this, he told my lawyer that he would tell me of our upcoming court date. He then took liberties with my children and myself that I do not think would have happened if my lawyer had not been in the hospital.

He called me in for a meeting and I sat with him for a half hour hashing our case out and he never once said anything about my lawyer being in the hospital nor did he tell me of my upcoming court date. He did ask me please, “He said do not contest this in court because it will only make it worse.” You don’t want me to fight for my children I ask?

That makes no sense mostly because I have never done anything wrong in my life and I feel like this is a great injustice. And my children are my only life without them in have nothing of course I’m going to fight for my reason to breathe. He explains to me how he is 100% sure that they are going to win and that I should just cooperate.

I explain to him once again that it’s not just taking temporary custody from me it’s taking everything from me. If I loose temporary custody I loose my son’s social security, I loose child support, therefore and I’m not exaggerating I loose my home, I loose my car I literally loose everything that I have. Is it your policy to render people homeless? I beg for an alterative the crime does not fit the punishment. Tom will not listen he is so focused on winning this case that it is overlapping what should be common human decency. And by not telling me of my upcoming court date I would have missed my court appearance and CPS would have won by default. That is simply unprofessional.

Since my lawyer is recovering from surgery she requested that we push forward our court date once again. Now my court date is going to be after Easter weekend and I’m devastated. I asked my mom to ask this Tom guy, (because he won’t work with me on anything) if I can have my children for Easter weekend I wish to take them to the Easter egg hunt. I have been begging to let the same person that signed on for the 30 to sign on again to be my supervision for whatever amount of time they decree and he won’t even discuss it.

We ask if this person (James) can sign on for Easter weekend at least and now Tom said no, because they believe that James knew that I was sneaking Gabe in and did not report it — an outright lie. Tom knows that James is my only person who can do this for me and he also knows that James is my only witness that I have that is going to stand up in court saying that CPS never once informed me that they would take away custody if I let Gabe in my house past that 30 day protection order. But most of all Gabe and James are competing for the same woman and have never been in the same place at the same time.

Now that they have eliminated James from the equations I have nobody and they know it. Also it’s Easter weekend do I not have any basic emotional rights. If I myself was not the person to strike my child then why can I not be alone with them they are my children my blood my family and nothing in this world is more important to me. I just want this to be over I just want to celebrate Easter.

My youngest birthday is in two weeks and I’m crying right now just thinking about what kind of crap they are going to pull for that as well. I am not a criminal the only thing I am guilty of is being under informed and I feel like the Hamilton CPS office should then be guilty as well for not doing their job correctly. Please I do not deserve to loose everything I have over something that I did not do. My children just want to come home.

 

Monique B.
Ravalli County, Montana

 

Kansas Grandma Needs Help

February 25, 2015 in CPS

I was just wondering if you know of anyone that could help us in Kansas?

My grand daughter was taken because she missed 5 days of school. We are trying to figure out what medicine will work best for her and if she’s Bi Polar or not. She was late and missed the day school started again, after Christmas break, the judge took her from us without taking into consideration that she had just started a new medication and was still adjusting to it to see if she was bi polar or not.

While in state custody 5 weeks now she has attended school 1 week and now is in a psych hospital where they won’t even allow her to talk to her mother or her grandmother.

The system is failing and she’s escalating out of control and we are helpless to save her.  Please if you have any information that we can use it would be greatly appreciated.  We need to get her home and get back to Idaho, where she and our other children can be safe and get the actual treatment that she needs.

Thank you,
Tina Stone

Gunpoint Medicine

August 9, 2014 in Child Protective Services, Connecticut, corruption, DHS, family rights

If you don’t comply they’ll Take Your Child

by: Jenni Falconer

After having been involved in my own custody battle and losing some of my children to my ex-husband due to the fact that I’m disabled, I sought support for my grief. In doing so, I met other parents who had been through the nightmare of child custody loss.

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One married couple, David and Mandy, had lost custody temporarily and told me a tale so unbelievable I wouldn’t have believed it if I hadn’t had first-hand experience of state corruption. Their custody of their newly born baby son George was taken – including their right to make medical decisions – because they went against orthodox medical advice.

David and Mandy didn’t have a child until they reached their 40’s. Mandy had an aggressive type of arthritis that required immune modulating medication; because of this they had decided it was best not to have children. As the years ticked by and Mandy got closer to menopause, she inevitably changed her mind and they managed to conceive quickly after altering the medication.

They were free spirited people, who had previously lived in a narrow boat but bought a house on learning that Mandy was pregnant. They had specific ideas for how they wanted the birth to be and for how they wanted to raise their child. They wanted to experience natural childbirth, and because Mandy was afraid of hospitals due to previous negative experiences, they hired a midwife in the hope of having a home birth.

Home Birth Hostility

Child Protective Services Survival Manual for Parents

Unfortunately the birth didn’t go to plan and they had to be transferred to hospital for an assisted delivery. That is where their nightmare began. Staff at the hospital seemed to be contemptuous because they had planned a home birth and because they were older first time parents. Their attitude only got worse when Mandy refused a forceps delivery and told them if they wanted to use forceps she would have to be sedated first. Although they complied with the unusual request, they viewed her as an oppositional patient.

The Fallacy of Informed Consent

After the birth of a healthy 8 lbs. son, they informed staff they were refusing Hepatitis B vaccine for baby George because it was a sexually transmitted disease and they knew that Mandy didn’t have Hepatitis B. The couple had been married more than 20 years and were sexually faithful to each other and the only way that George could contract the disease as a newborn was by infection during childbirth. As his mother wasn’t infected, this was impossible.

They knew that all drugs have side-effects and decided the injection was unnecessary for George. Informed consent or refusal of medical interventions is supposed to be a cornerstone of modern medical practice, but in reality, over-reaching authorities class ‘medical neglect’ as ‘not following medical recommendations’. Hostile staff informed child protective services.

They were allowed to leave the hospital with their baby but on arrival home had CPS knocking their door down. Instead of being able to enjoy their new baby, they faced a lengthy interview about their unorthodox views and were accused of ‘not trusting’ medical professionals and putting their baby at risk by attempting a home birth, delaying forceps intervention and refusing a vaccination.

Social workers questioned whether Mandy’s arthritis would make her a suitable carer for baby George since David was at work during the day. They held an emergency meeting and court hearing and decided that George should be placed in the custody of the state until the parents ‘prove’ their suitability to be his parents. Tiny George – only a few days old – was taken by force from the arms of his distraught and begging mother.

Cover of "Nineteen Eighty-Four"

Nineteen Eighty-Four

Big Brother is Watching You

They were only allowed to visit him in a DFS center where they would be monitored to see how they were looking after the baby (something reminiscent of George Orwell’s ‘1984’) and they had to be accompanied to all medical visits where the final say was with the state (although they didn’t force the vaccination that the parents had declined).

Eventually, when no neglect or abuse could be found and they had no ‘spurious’ reason to keep George from his parents, they were given physical custody with medical custody remaining with the state. Social workers visited their home daily and controlled most of what they did. They were prevented from using cloth diapers, as the social workers said this was ‘unhygienic’ and when Mandy made George home cooked food with a blender, she was told she had to feed him commercial baby food.

It took David and Mandy until their baby was nearly a year old to regain medical custody of him and far longer than that to repair their strained marriage.

Theirs is by no means the only case. Medical care is purported to be free to refuse, but if you say no to a proposed treatment, openly challenge a medical professional or make a choice that is a little ‘outside the box’ (for instance, home birth) you could be red flagged by social services or have your child taken away from you.

The Story of Justina Pelletier

Teenager Justina Pelletier was taken from her parents when two hospitals that were treating her, disagreed over her care. Justina, a former ice skater with Mitochondrial disease, was admitted to Boston Children’s Hospital, where a junior doctor who said that mitochondrial disease did not exist and that their daughter really had Somatoform Disorder, a mental health disorder caused by stress.

Doctors at the hospital said she’d been misdiagnosed and falsely medicated. When her parents objected and said they would seek a second opinion from another hospital, child welfare workers were called in and the family were prevented from leaving the hospital. Custody was given to the state and Justina was locked in a psychiatric ward for 16 months.

She later told journalists that medical staff there were ‘so mean and nasty’ to her, accusing her of faking her illness. She was only allowed one hour a week to visit her parents.

Since getting her back in the ensuing court battle, Justina’s parents say that ‘it was all a mad psychiatric experiment’ and accuse Boston Children’s of experimenting on their daughter without consent. Although Justina is now home, because she was denied treatment for her mitochondrial disease during her forced detainment, she is now unable to walk and is confined to a wheelchair – a tragic example of what can happen if the state get their hands on your child.

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Kidjacked, accessed July 23, 2014,
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Disabled Parenting Discrimination in Family Courts

July 9, 2014 in due process, family court, family rights

I am a disabled parent who had five beautiful children. I was born at only 24 weeks gestation and had brain damage that caused cerebral palsy. I grew up enjoying a normal childhood in farming country, building dens, playing in hay stacks and having a free run of our village.

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A collection of pictograms. Three of them used by the United States National Park Service.

I married my childhood sweetheart at the age of 18, gave birth to a son. After five months, I took an evening job as a receptionist to support us as my husband went through university. A few years later and after giving birth to four more children and helping out in my husband’s electrical store, he dropped a bombshell, he didn’t want to be married anymore, he’d tied himself down too young by being with me. I thought at the time that was the worst day of my life but it was nothing compared to the custody nightmare that was about to follow. After obtaining a residency order in my favor, he locked me in our home and left with all our children, including my three week old newborn baby. I was absolutely frantic and called the police.

Police Discrimination

I showed them my court order but they informed me that as I had married the father of my children, all they were prepared to do was do a ‘safe and well’ check, despite the fact that my newborn was totally breastfed and dependent. After leaving, telling me rather curtly that ‘There’s more than one way to feed a baby’, I was forced to beg my ex-husband on the telephone for the return of our children. 24 hours later, he returned only my two year old and newborn, keeping my older children at an unknown location.

CPS Interrogation

From the moment the police had been called, CPS got involved and that was the start of a two year harassment campaign from them, most of it centred around my disability. They asserted incorrectly that I was not able to bath my babies because I had refused to answer what I viewed as discriminatory questioning about my parenting skills and I was told I had to consent to a social worker coming in to bath my children every day and if I didn’t, they’d be removed from me.

On one occasion they broke down my front door when I had gone out. People would turn up unannounced to ‘spot check’ me and they kept this up for a two year duration. I was court ordered to attend a parenting class but I refused to comply, saying that I had successfully cared for my children for years while my husband was working and didn’t need any classes. I asked why my able bodied husband was not asked to attend a class and I was told he didn’t need one as he didn’t have my disabilities.

On meeting me for the first time, the first words from the guardian ad litem’s mouth were “Oh goodness, how do you cope?” Not hello, or nice to meet you . I knew from that point that I was in for a rough ride.

Court Bias

When the case went to court, I discovered that the police had failed to honor my court order because ‘there were disability issues’. I was shocked and appalled that in the 21st century, people could still be deemed unfit to be a parent because they are disabled.

By the time all the interviews had been conducted, more than seven months had passed so when it finally went to court, the judge said the older children had been with their father for months and it would be cruel to move them so he awarded him custody – a delay that only happened because of the fact that I had to prove myself fit to parent and as a disabled woman I had higher standards to meet than your average able parent.

Fast forward a whole decade and my ex-husband was still pursuing me through the courts for custody. After being diagnosed with ankylosing spondylitis in 2010, my health deteriorated. I had to have major surgery. This was brought up in court and it was asserted I was not ‘fit’ enough to be a mother, despite having hired help. I was also accused of abusing prescription drugs because I had to take medications. It was inferred by the Guardian ad litem that my children may be acting as ‘carers’ for me, in spite of my assistant’s employment with me. Shockingly, the court allowed all these accusations to be levelled against me. I was informed I had to answer questions about my disability because my health was the reason my ability to parent was under scrutiny.

I was allowed to keep my two youngest children but I shouldn’t have had more than a decade of my life trying to defend my right to be a parent just because I was born disabled.

No Disabled Parents Rights

I found out that there is no law to protect the relationship between a disabled parent and their children. The American’s with Disabilities Act doesn’t have a section on parenting and two thirds of dependency statutes allow a court to determine that a parent is ‘unfit’ on the basis that they are disabled.

Disabled parents frequently struggle to retain custody and are the only group of people where it is legal to discriminate against them. Up to 80% of parents with an intellectual disability will have their children removed. For physical disabilities the rate is 40% or higher and for those with physical disabilities going through custody disputes, 13% will be treated unfairly on the basis of disability. Parents who have psychological disabilities such as bipolar disorder or anorexia will very often have their children removed if they come under the radar of the authorities. In addition – sometimes a disabled parent will be denied the right to any visitation because of court judgements that are stereotypical and the court assumption that children will be forced into ‘caring’ roles with their parent, a view that doesn’t support what researchers have found.

After my experiences I have launched an official complaint with the government and I hope to create amendments to disability discrimination laws so that child custody cannot be decided on the basis of disability. I also hope to outlaw interrogation about disability so that in the absence of any real child protection concerns, disabled parents shouldn’t have to ‘prove’ they can be parents.

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No Fault CPS! WTF?

December 23, 2013 in CPS, foster parents, investigation, Kidjacked

In 2012, my family turned  my  baby  over  to  CPS when I was  forced to go in  for treatment. Upon  my release,  two weeks later they had no choice but to return her because (& I quote) “it  was  due  to  no  fault  of your own, that she was taken from your care. “

I was kept an eye on for about six months, when I receive a letter stating that if I try to adopt or decide to become a foster parent I could not, because I had a child endangerment charge against me. I am wondering if that is because I complained about my baby coming back to me different.

I let them know the concerns I had with the home they put my daughter in. She told me that the woman had children of her own. Her son would hold my daughter down, by stomping on her with his feet. If my daughter dared to cry, the woman encouraged her son and daughter to punch my daughter in the stomach, call her names or slap her in the face.

The children then told my daughter if she told, no one would believe her because she was just a stupid foster kid.

My daughter is only five years old and this woman’s children were much older.  My baby also had a gold necklace, with a gold crucifix that the woman took from my daughter, and gave to her own.

When I contacted the worker to report this conduct I was just passed off with a question on what I was doing to ensure the welfare of my child.  As far as I know to this day nothing has been done.

Today, my child is in treatment herself and wakes up during the night crying because she is so afraid this woman and her children will find her and hurt her again. I spend quite sometime calming my baby down assuring her that she is home safe and sound and mommy would NEVER let anyone or anything hurt her ever again.

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