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March 31, 2015 in CPS

Your kids are precious and always will be. So, you want to take care of them. You teach them what to do in case of a fire, a tornado or flood but have you taught your kids about CPS?

Since I was raised in and out of foster care, I taught my child never to trust CPS. Do your children know that the good people at Child Protective Services will try to guide your children into saying things they don’t mean. They are very manipulative in their interaction with children.

I know this first hand.  They wanted to charge my mother with neglect but they couldn’t without lying because I wouldn’t finger her.

Do your children know where to go?  What to say?  How to behave if questioned by CPS? These are things you need to discuss with your kids, just like you were planning for any other emergency.  If the kids know that you love them and are fighting for them, it will give them reason to hope and to fight.

Develop a family plan, practice it. Our son is now 18, but I don’t think a month went by that we didn’t discuss all kinds of emergencies and this was one, being kidnapped was another.  Practice your plan, make sure everyone knows what to do in case of emergency.  Everyone’s plan will be different.  Our son was told climb out his window if they came to the house and run as fast as he could to his grandfather’s house (4 miles away).

Kids are Kidjacked all the time.  Is your family ready?


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WA: CPS Removed Children

December 23, 2013 in Adoption, biological parents, Washington

Grays Harbor County:  CPS has taken both my babies from the hospital. I admit I needed help when they first got involved. Aug 1 2012 I gave birth to my son & tested positive for drugs.

A pregnant woman

The next day CPS came and said I HAD to sign my temporary rights away. They let me have the baby though day & night the 3 days I was in the hospital. I chose to be honest with them thinking it would help me with my case but all I did was give them what they wanted and they used everything against me.

But how was I suppose to know my rights. I’m a good person. And why would I study my parental rights with CPS. I admitted I needed the help with drug treatment and have accomplished the obstacles. I have done everything they have asked and more from day 1.

I found out I was pregnant (again) in December 2012 with 2nd baby. which sped up me getting in treatment faster to Harbor Crest that treats pregnant women. I graduated a 26 day in-patient Jan 7th 2013. I also did a nurturing parent class in treatment and completed that. I graduated Intensive Out Patient April 1,2012. I graduated Out Patient early July 5th 2013. I graduated the 18 week “The Incredible Years” parenting class in July 2013.

I started mental health counseling at BHR, when I was pregnant with first baby and got letters from my counselor saying I was fully invested with getting my children home & doing well. I am in Parent Protection Group since July & still attending. I started individual D.V./Anger classes and my instructor was an advocate at needed times.

I’m working with Dr. Shawn Andrews at Elma Family Medicine regarding my Suboxine medication. I meet with the Dr. frequently during the months and she has written me several letters to my caseworker and judge stating I was doing well and it was in the children’s best interest to be home w/me.

My second pregnancy the CPS worker made me feel like I had to choose between my unborn baby and my 1 year old.  But she didn’t bring up this baby I was carrying till May, the month before I had him. She gave me 2 options to adopt or she was filing for shelter care. Him coming home to me was not even an option.

She has threatened me, lied and so on. We had a meeting before I gave birth and she told me if I kept this baby also it would prolong my other baby coming home, which makes no sense because she has both my children. She also told me to write this baby a “good-bye letter”. And that I couldn’t take care of 2 baby’s. She was dead set on me adopting.

She had NO grounds on taking the new baby. Each reason she gave me I have documents resolving each of her decisions. Taking Kayden was premeditated. It was finalized before I gave birth. She told me the day before she was taking him, so obviously it wasn’t drugs because how could they determine if I was clean without having him born yet.

I even had a letter from my OBGYN saying I was in full compliance doing good. Something needs to happen. I want my boys home, I’ve never even gave the chance to be a mother to them so how can they judge me? How can they be for the family when you see your children once a week for 2 hours supervised.

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Georgia CPS Kidnap Child – No Reason Given

November 13, 2012 in California, Child Protective Services, Georgia

My family and I just moved to Georgia less than 4 months ago due to our home burning down in California. We have three children 2 of them on college and a 12-year-old handicap child.

Since moving here, we have fought the school system for her basic federal right to an education. The school has violated her FAPE fights and her IDEA rights as well as harming her to the point were they called us to come pick her up.

We took her to the hospital. I signed a paper for her to have a 72-hour evaluation at which point Child Protective Services (CPS) came and took her before without notification or reason. It took us a week to find out where our child was and what had happen. When we asked as to why they had removed our little girl, they said it was not due to neglect or abuse yet refused to give us a reason. This freaked us out, so I called the police. I actually believed she had been kidnapped.

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They were no help, as you can imagine, once they found out CPS was involved. All rights educational, medical, and financial have been removed. They refused to allow us to appear in court for her. CPS withheld the location and time of her hearing. After 2+ weeks I was finally allowed a supervised visit, my child who immediately told me she had been spanked. She had what looked like a cigarette burn on her face and a large wound on her neck (3 inches long and 1 inch wide) – both wounds were fresh.

They refused to allow me to take pictures of her wounds. The caseworker only said, “We will look into it,” regarding the spankings she is receiving while in foster care.

When she left our care her skin was fresh, clean, dry and in good shape. The school had also mistreated her allowing her to become dirty and covered in food. I had asked them many times to respect her dignity over these matters and other issues. Yet she would come home from school crying daily for being punished at school because she would ask questions regarding her work.

The main reason I am writing is to obtain help. CPS has broken many laws in regards to our handicap child she has multiple handicaps and cannot speak well, but her mind is “normal” and she knows sign language fluently.

Neither CPS nor school has provided a translator to aid in communication for her. They have also failed to provide her vitally needed medical equipment, which was on loan to the school and never returned.

I know it doubtful this email will realistically get any help or results, but I just had to get this off my chest. Our family is in fear that they will kill her or do great bodily harm, not knowing her intense medical needs.

They actually sent her home to die as an infant. We had told them we wouldn’t allow that to happen, if at all in our power. She is now 12 going on 13. She is very smart and has over come just about all her complex medical issues. She can walk, run, play, learn, sing – she loves to sing (even though most of which is unintelligible) to the common person. Her favorite band is Big Time Rush, which is age appropriate (and cute) anyway.

Shealynn is our joy, our reason for living our life. She has never been abused in any form at home. The fact that I cannot protect her now rips my heart out. A hole has been, ripped through our souls by an entity, which seems too big for us to battle, but we will give it our all – although I am doubtful of winning. I feel it in my heart, that feeling a mom gets when something’s wrong with her child, its magnified by 20,0000.


S.Y., in Georgia

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It’s just not a Merry Christmas when…

December 14, 2010 in Kidjacked, parent-child relationship

Let’s face it, when the state waltzes in and turns your life upside-down; Kidjack’s your child and devastates you emotionally, financially and yes, even, spiritually — It’s simply not the makings of a very Merry Christmas.

This can be the most difficult time of the year to face — alone.

Those who manage to get through it in good spirits are those who can maintain a good attitude, inspite of the bleak outlook in their current circumstances. I’ve experienced a great deal of loss in my own life — and I’ll admit it — I’ve spend the majority of the past two days in tears — all for no apparent reason.

My Grandmother always had good advice to dole out. She always used to say, “Whatever doesn’t kill you, will make you stronger.” She was right. I’ve always managed to gather strength during my struggles — it’s the actual struggle that builds strength, stamina and perseverance. All, important qualities to possess.

I recently learned a new adage that also makes perfect sense to me, “Pain is our bodies way of letting us know, we are still alive.”

The secret is to keep busy. When I’m in pain, I like to read a good humorous book, especially those by Erma Bombeck, she just tickles my funny bone. (Be careful, you don’t want to be laughing if you have stitches, for instance.)

Here are some helpful tips for getting through the holidays – alone.

  • Do something for someone else – Doing for others will help keep our mind off our own troubles.
  • Take up a new hobby – Learn a new craft, take up sewing, learn to play golf, learn to knit, take up hiking — anything to keep your mind busy.
  • Listen to soothing or upbeat music – Depending on your mood, something mellow and sweet might bring back those feel good memories. Something with a nice beat might be just the thing for dancing.
  • Keep a Journal – Just taking the time to take good notes, keep a journal, create an accurate timeline or simply writing some short stories, or keeping up with a blog can be enough to inspire you. It may help you find a creative way to fight for your kids. The act of writing often works as a release for pent-up emotions.
  • Get Physical– Physical exercise is good for the body and the mind. Building strong muscles can also help to keep your mind sharp. Try it.
  • Make a new friend – Friends and family can make nice sounding boards, they can be there when you are feeling down and help lift you back up again. Just remember your friend might need an ear from time to time as well.
  • Don’t wallow in self-pity – Allow yourself 15 minutes a day to think about your children and to cry and grieve for their loss. Set a timer, when it goes off, put those thoughts away and get moving. Don’t give in to the temptation to climb into bed and never get up again. We’ve all been there.

I’d like for us to take the time and remember the children who have been stolen by the state — paid for compliments of the U.S. Taxpayers and our federal government. It is wrong to place a bounty of the heads of children. Our children are not for sale.

If you have wrongfully had a child Kidjacked by the state or if you know of a child who has been been removed from their loving parents — please leave a comment below. Give the child’s name (include his or her age, if you wish) and your Christmas greeting or wish. We want all of our children to know they have not been forgotten and that they still have parents waiting for their return. Once you’ve added a child’s name to the list, please share the link with your friends and family.

Please remember the children and families in your prayers, especially during this holiday season.

I wish each and everyone of you a Christmas reunion with your child.

God Bless the little children!

Welcome to Town!

December 9, 2010 in Alabama, Child Protective Services, family rights

Just today, an agent of the state child-snatchers came to the door. She (it’s almost always a woman) started asking questions about children. I asked who and what she was. She told me that she was with the children’s services. I asked her for her business card. She said she didn’t have any.

I said I needed to see her official identification. It was clipped to her jacket. She held it out for me to see. I asked her why she was here.

She said “they” had a report that children from age 2 to 18 were seen walking around the town. I asked, “18? Aren’t they considered adults for most purposes?” She said that, yes, they were.

I said, “I see high school, middle school, and grade school children walking around town every day. Is there some problem?” (Always ask a question. If a statement has to be made, finish up with a question.) She went on that, they had a report and that she needed to see my wife and our children.

I answered that we would be “glad” to submit to an interview in the presence of our attorney.

Now, our attorney has advised us that the moment you state that you need to have your attorney present, the government officer is supposed to STOP, right there, and say nothing further but, “What is your attorney’s name and phone number?” Or, “Please have your attorney contact my office. Here’s my card.” Instead, she went on, asking why I wanted an attorney present.

I said that our attorney had advised us that none of us should ever submit to an interrogation without our attorney present. “Do you have a problem?” She said that she was not investigating us criminally, that that wasn’t her department. She went on to say that, she could have the police come.

I responded that mentioning the police showed that she was investigating us criminally and that we needed our attorney present before going any further. She at that point gave up and I followed her out to her car, where she gave me her business card.

Liar — she had just told me that she didn’t have any.

We’re being investigated because children, not even definitely any of mine, were seen walking? Walking? Come on. Can’t children walk to school, to the library, to the store? We live in town; the library and the store are only a couple of blocks away. There are sidewalks. Are they just for decoration? Pretty lame excuse if you ask me.

Editor note:  We wonder why so many children are obese. Hasn’t anyone told these people that walking is a good form of exercise?

The following Monday she came back with a plainclothes cop. My wife answered the door and stepped out, closing the door and storm door behind her (I had long ago taught her never to leave the door standing open). One of the children came and got me. The cop said the social worker said in her report that our children appeared “malnourished.”

I think these state agencies are afraid they are going to suffer funding cuts with all the revenue shortfalls. The child-snatchers have to show that their caseload is so heavy that they just cannot have their funding cut. In fact, they need more. More money. More agents.

Previously in another state we were attacked because we are “strict,” “religious” and “homeschoolers.” That goon (she looked like a man at first) went through the same garbage about me needing a lawyer, even threatening to have the police torture us into answering her questions. She later threatened to put us on the national child abuser registry.

A year later, after the state agency finally (8 months after the legal deadline) admitted that they never had any reason to investigate us, another contact was made, by sticking a pink card in the door of the house where we had been living. It bore a threat to arrest my 3-year-old son for not showing up for some hearing whether or not he received the note.

That turned out to be someone who did not even work for the office that the card came from (the child support office of the juvenile court). No one there knew anything about it; there was no case in their records.

Next, when we went to the house 18-months later, another goon (this one really looked like a man – even her voice was masculine) came and immediately began threatening us. My 16-year-old son brought out a camcorder and she skedaddled. Our attorney does say that the case has not been officially closed, so they could reopen it if they find any of us within their grasp.

Our attorney said that the legislature has granted these kidnappers virtually total immunity so that suing them rarely gets anywhere unless the abuse is particularly egregious. Like perhaps, a child is killed while in their custody.

When I was in Wichita, a couple of years ago, I recall a news item about a 16 year old girl, who remarked to a friend at public school, laughing, that her Dad had gotten irritated with her because she disobeyed him. He gave her a swat on the rear. A couple of hours later the kidnappers came and grabbed her at school.

The father wasn’t able to find out why his daughter didn’t come home from school. Days later, he was arrested and charged with assault and child abuse. Eventually the charges against him were dismissed. It took him two years of fighting with the agency and court, trying to regain custody of his daughter (by then she was 18 and they had to let her go). She had been raped in foster “care” several times, was pregnant and had a venereal disease.

I called our attorney, (which I should have done when she first came as my cell phone was in my pocket) but could not get to him. His secretary took a message.

On Saturday, we received two letters, one certified and one ordinary. My wife, without consulting me, signed the certified receipt. I would have called our attorney before accepting either letter.

I scanned both in and e-mailed them to our attorney.

At about 2 pm Monday, a plainclothes police officer came to our door. My wife answered and went outside. She sent one of the children to tell me that “someone” was at the door. I went and she was talking to him. He said that the social worker had told him that we didn’t show up for the meeting at 1 pm. I hadn’t opened either letter pending instructions from our attorney.

He said the social worker said we were reported because our children appeared to be “malnourished.” Either the social worker lied about the whole thing or some busybody gave a false report to FCS. Our children are all well within the “normal” range of weight to height given on a number of children’s health websites. Several are above average weight for their height.

I said we had been advised by our attorney not to answer any questions or give any information without consulting with him. I called his office and was patched through to his cell phone. He asked if I had any problem with letting the social worker see the children.

I said I would follow his advice, that I have no problem with letting them be seen if he so advised me. He said that if I didn’t let them see the children that the social worker would get a warrant and get into our house, where she might see any of many things she might use against us.

I told the attorney that our children walk all over town. They go to the library, a nearby restaurant, to church, they play in the back yard (which is visible from a side street across a vacant lot), to Wal-mart and the Piggly-Wiggly. As well as Fred’s, Dollar General, Family Dollar, and go for walks with their mother. The entire neighborhood is familiar with our children, so anyone could see them if they were around the area.

 He then advised me to bring the children outside so the social worker could see them.

It was chilly (50s), so to avoid “frightening” the Alabaman social worker, who was dressed like she was going to the Arctic, we got the children all coated, mittened and mufflered up. We have spent winters in north Idaho (7′-12′ snow), Montana, North Dakota and South Dakota (where I walked to and from work in -36o –40o weather), where it was hard to get them to wear shoes out in the snow. I filed them out in birth order.

The social worker started asking names and birth dates. She wanted to know about a bruise on our youngest daughter’s eye (our youngest son had dropped a cup on her) and our youngest son’s eyelids (he has congenital ptosis (drooping) of the eyelids, inherited from my father, my grandfather, my great-grandfather, and me). My wife told her about it (the social worker didn’t know what ptosis means), that he had been seen by a pediatric ophthalmic plastic surgeon and we were advised that nothing should be done until he was 3-4 years old, as he was able to open his eyes, though not widely without raising his eyebrows.

The social worker was scribbling in her pad. She probably had a recorder hidden on her. The pad scribbling is a cover for illegally recording without informing you that you are actually being recorded. Otherwise, how could anyone remember a conversation among four people THAT accurately?

I suspect that she’ll use the girl’s bruise as an excuse to come back. Then the boy’s ptosis as an excuse for continuing “follow-up” visits.

The social worker is obese, so perhaps she thinks anyone who isn’t wider than they are tall is starved?

She comes to the public library on occasion. Several of our children walk to the public library, which is 3 blocks from our home on the same side street (which has sidewalks) we live on. One said he had seen her car parked in the staff area of the library, so it is likely that she has seen most or all of our children at one time or another.

We cooperated only to the extent our attorney advised. His main interest is to get the social worker away from the house. He has  (in another state) advised us to GET AWAY before the social worker came back. He commended us for having done just that the first time, we were approached by a social worker, who threatened to have us and our oldest son tortured by the police until we “consented” to submit to an interrogation (which they call an “interview”).

~Al Grayson
Roanoke, Alabama
(334) 663-6297

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