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Foster Child Speaks Out

March 31, 2014 in Child Protective Services, corruption, foster care

help3_ezrI’m a former foster child. I had suffered abuse at home with my step dad. I stood up to my abuser and asked for the help of child protective services. He confessed and was convicted for his crime and I was placed in foster care. Even though my step dad was the criminal he was released years before I was. Foster care had become such an abusive prison for me I finally ran away, homeless out on the streets, to young to work and no where to go.

Not only do I have physical scars from the abuse I received in foster care but some days I still cry from the type of mental maltreatment I received at the hands of my supposed protectors. I’d come a long way since foster care. I had worked full time and went to school at night to finish high school and continue further in my education to become a surgical dental assistant. Later, I changed my career path and began working for scholastic books. I refused to allow CPS, my therapist, and the foster parents opinions to control who I would become or to limit my future. (I was lucky to be stubborn and rebellious.)

Here recently I’ve had a great opportunity to become connected with other former foster children, and we each share our stories with each other and give each other support. But I started to notice something. The opinions and ordeals each former foster child had faced in foster care, seemed to echo the same opinion or same unacceptable situation when thrown into foster care. For example:

An ex foster child said something recently that had caught my attention. She said, “One thing that bothers me is society says parents who use drugs, abuse their kids, neglects them, and many more things, aren’t good enough to be parents and forcefully removes the children. This very same society looks the other way when we’re abused in foster care, moved several times, remain in limbo for years without any stability.

Kids in jail

We go years if not forever, waiting to be adopted by these people, but they go overseas to adopt. We get dumped out on the street and left to survive like animals when we age out of the system with absolutely nothing. Society doesn’t care what happens after we leave our unfit parents. When in some cases the unfit parents are 100% better than the numerous foster homes who have been checked out by the state and approved. Just because we leave our unfit parents doesn’t mean we live happily ever after.”

Here are some numbers found on Wikipedia that support this former foster child’s statement.

Maltreatment per 100,000 US children.

CPS    Parents

Physical Abuse           160          59
Sexual Abuse              112          13
Neglect                          410       241
Medical Neglect             14          12
Fatalities                           6.4        1.5

I’ve also had an ex foster child contact me wondering why foster kids are treated so badly and no one pays attention. His reasoning, his temporary foster parent had run him over with her truck. He was pronounced dead but then had finally been revived. He sued the state for this and somehow only ended up with $40 thousand dollars and mass long term pain (his court appointed lawyer received the bulk of the money) and he also has many bills from the doctors, him and his bio mother are obligated to pay. ( I can understand his frustrations.)

I’ve been reading many ex foster kids stories (including having my own) and what I find is more atrocities after they were removed then what they experience at home. I can not help but wonder why this agency has made such great leaps and bounds on how to manipulate, maneuver through the law, and perfect how to remove children but they themselves have no idea how to raise children. They have spent millions upon million each year for over 30 or 40 years on these state run agencies yet in general all they have produced is abused and neglected children who go on to struggle in society.

Look at these statistics copied from children’s rights.org

  • 12-30 percent struggled with homelessness
  • 40-63 percent did not complete high school
  • 25-55 percent were unemployed; those employed had average earnings below the poverty level, and only 38 percent of those employed were still working after one year
  • 30-62 percent had trouble accessing health care due to inadequate finances or lack of insurance
  • 32-40 percent were forced to rely on some form of public assistance and 50 percent experienced extreme financial hardship
  • 31-42 percent had been arrested
  • 18-26 percent were incarcerated
  • 40-60 percent of the young women were pregnant within 12-18 months of leaving foster care.

Nancy Schaefer already further summarized all of this as, “The National Center on Child Abuse and Neglect in 1998 reported that six times as many children died in foster care than in the general public and that once removed to official “safety”, these children are far more likely to suffer abuse, including sexual molestation, than in the general population. Think what that number is today ten years later!”

Senator Nancy Schaefer reported, “that poor parents very often are targeted to lose their children because they do not have the where-with-all to hire lawyers and fight the system. Being poor does not mean you are not a good parent or that you do not love your child, or that your child should be removed and placed with strangers; that all parents are capable of making mistakes and that making a mistake does not mean your children are to be removed from the home. Even if the home is not perfect, it is home; and that’s where a child is the safest and where he or she wants to be, with family;

I’ve also read countless ex foster children’s stories of how they had been medicated for one thing after another and even witnessed an adopted child so overly medicated, he could not control himself. Thankfully after talking to his adoptive parents they agreed to slowly back him off of the 10 medications he was on. (He spent a lot of time in my home during this time) he has calmed down greatly and has now been able to focus and excel in school.

Some ex foster kids talk about the long term effects these medications have caused them, long after they have finally gotten off of the drugs. Some must continue taking different types of meds to help them deal with the after effects of the medications forced upon them in foster care, (all under the guise of being in their best interest).

Here’s one former foster child’s statement of what she had been through and how the medications affected her.

“I was living in Maryville, Tennessee and was 14 years old. I was depressed but I was a really quiet kid and a laid back type. These folks decided to start me on meds for my depression (a little red pill that I don’t know what it was) shortly after, I noticed I was feeling anxious and nervous. Then I noticed that I started having a short fuse when it came to my temper and it was more difficult to calm down. I told the group home owner this, but she wouldn’t have me taken off the meds.

I started spitting the meds into a paper Dixie cup they would give me water in to take my medications and crush the cup so no one saw. I started to feel normal again, I did that for a month before I was ratted out by another kid. Any way they took me to a doctor that put me on Paxil. The night they gave me that stuff, I was wired for sound and tried to play sumo wrestling with my roommate Donelle. The medication made me constipated and I felt overly psycho, again, no one would listen to me asking to be taken off the meds.

I also noticed I had more issues than usual on concentrating on my school work and I started being mean to others, really mean, as in hitting folks and yelling, it was like I was losing control. I found myself withdrawing because of it and crying my eyes out at every turn. That’s the same year I started having panic episodes. One day decided to ditch school and just go walking… I was told that I cussed out all of the group home staff but I do not remember it… Eric blankenship could tell you a lot about that. I was picked up by the police and taken back to the group home but then I was moved to a teen psych ward.

There at the psych ward they gave me a higher dose of Paxil and added Milloril to my meds and some pill they were telling me was a vitamin but I’m sure it was a tranquilizer because not long after taking it, I could barely hold my head up.

This went on for a month solid until a caseworker (a man) showed up to take me to my next placement. I was on those meds from foster home to foster home then one day I was taken to an all girl group home in Knoxville, Tennessee where shortly after I was abruptly changed from the Paxil and Millorill, to Prozac and Trazedone. The first time they gave me the Prozac, I was 15 years old and was being given 3 Prozac a day and my head always felt like I had a chunk of lead tied to it. Schooling was hard because it was a new place and I felt crazy out of my head. I hated everyone and everything.

I felt as if my mind was working overtime and I was suicidal because i could not calm down and in that same place I was fondled by one of the men staff workers when we went on a trip to the University of Tennessee Race Track. I would scream in the night in my sleep and I would be so nervous every day. I got defiant with the staff and would cuss this one lady in particular named Deiadra. She was a reasonably nice person but I got to where nothing mattered.

Till this very day, I am a nervous type person and I still have the panic episodes that started as a teenager, I have a very hard time coming down from any emotion whether it be anger, anxiety, joy, depression, fear, etc. I know it was because of the meds because prior to the meds, I was able to keep my emotions in check. I’m angry that this has to be this way, with me but this crap has forever changed me, along with all the being passed around like a dooby. It, all has an effect on me that, will never be normal again. I still consider myself a glitch ”

For more Facts About Aging Out visit: Children’s Rights.

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TN: Marine Tells of CPS Lies!

December 23, 2013 in CPS

I am going out on a limb here and asking if your site has any recommendations. I have been a victim of the corrupt Child Protection Services out of Knoxville, TN.

We have a baby...for awhile at least

We have a baby…for awhile at least!

I am an Active Duty Marine and have fought diligently to remain a part of my son’s life despite being a state away. Over the past few monthly visits while my son is in my care, he had been repeatedly stating that he is being sexually and physically abused either by his mother or by someone who his mother knows.

I informed CPS in Knoxville about this and after conducting a 13 minute interview, they determined nothing was wrong and sent him home. Being a concerned parent and believing what my son said had merit, the last time he came to visit I informed my command and they got NCIS and CPS in the northern VA area involved which resulted in him being interviewed by a forensic team from Walter Reed Medical Facility in Bethesda, MD.

After an extensive interview, my son displayed what they called a personality shift and displayed knowledge of explicit sexual content, all stemming from what he experiences in his mother’s care. Of course the staff and myself were concerned and they advised that I take him to Children’s National Hospital in Washington, DC, where, after a short 20 minute evaluation, they admitted him into the psych ward (mind you, my son is only 5, so this, to them, was a big deal) stating he was suffering from severe trauma.

CPS and local law enforcement from northern VA and DC got with CPS in Knoxville and they were astonished and disgusted to see that he had been evaluated prior but for only 13 minutes, leaving little time for discoveries.

After being admitted for a few days, I was forced (due to a standing court order parenting plan from Blount County, TN) to return him to his mother’s care. CPS in Knoxville informed me that they wished for me to dropped him off into their custody for further evaluation (I believe they were upset that another state’s CPS was stating that there was indeed some sort of abuse going on in his mother’s home).

I did this even though my court order states I am to drop him off to his mother at a pre-designated place. I agreed, hoping that they would finally take into consideration what the other CPS offices had found. I dropped him off and, upon exiting the building, noticed that my son’s mother had already arrived but was parked behind the office with her vehicle slightly concealed. I drove my vehicle to the back of the parking lot and within 4 minutes, my son was being escorted out of the back of the building with his mother, in her custody.

Both women who were advising me that another interview was going to be conducted were there as well. I was extremely worried for the safety of my son and approached the women on foot with my cell phone’s camera recording the entire incident. I asked them if there indeed had been a follow-on interview because I believe 3-4 minutes was not sufficient time to conduct one.

They refused to answer any of my questions and instead called the Knoxville Police Department. Upon their arrival, I explained the situation to the police and they wrote down the report number but there were no citations written as there were no laws broken. The police and the CPS workers allowed my son to leave with the same woman who he alleged had been sexually abusing him!

I called CPS the following day and the CPS worker who had been involved with the exchange had stated that there was never to be a follow on investigating that they wanted to ensure the exchange of my son did not involve any violence from me. I do not have a record whatsoever of violence, domestic violence, alcohol abuse, drug abuse, anything (again, I’ve been in the Marines for over 10 years with an exceptional record).

CPS took it upon themselves to involve them in this exchange, lying to me that an interview was to be conducted and then attempting to push him out the backdoor without my knowledge. They lied and manipulated me into going against court orders and my gut instinct as a parent and involved themselves in my exchange.

Furthermore, since the incident, I have had zero contact with my son or his mother due to a restraining order she has gotten and I just recently found out, through the courts in northern VA, that CPS in Knoxville has issued an ex parte no contact order against me toward my son! I have done nothing wrong and now it seems like CPS in Knoxville has a vendetta against me!

Is there any assistance or recommendations you might have that could help me fight back at the corrupt system that is CPS?  I have recorded phone call conversations, emails, and videos of the incident all saved and archived for review. I’m in the process of seeking legal help but all the lawyers in the east TN area do not want to take my case because “CPS is against me!”

I am at a loss and fear for me son’s safety! And now, amongst the holiday season, all my court order visitation has been stripped due to CPS’ involvement! Please help!

Respectfully sent,

Staff Sergeant, USMC
Central Command Branch
Corps Intelligence Activity

“They must find it difficult: those who have taken authority as truth rather than truth as authority.” – Gerald Massey

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WA: CPS Removed Children

December 23, 2013 in Adoption, biological parents, Washington

Grays Harbor County:  CPS has taken both my babies from the hospital. I admit I needed help when they first got involved. Aug 1 2012 I gave birth to my son & tested positive for drugs.

A pregnant woman

The next day CPS came and said I HAD to sign my temporary rights away. They let me have the baby though day & night the 3 days I was in the hospital. I chose to be honest with them thinking it would help me with my case but all I did was give them what they wanted and they used everything against me.

But how was I suppose to know my rights. I’m a good person. And why would I study my parental rights with CPS. I admitted I needed the help with drug treatment and have accomplished the obstacles. I have done everything they have asked and more from day 1.

I found out I was pregnant (again) in December 2012 with 2nd baby. which sped up me getting in treatment faster to Harbor Crest that treats pregnant women. I graduated a 26 day in-patient Jan 7th 2013. I also did a nurturing parent class in treatment and completed that. I graduated Intensive Out Patient April 1,2012. I graduated Out Patient early July 5th 2013. I graduated the 18 week “The Incredible Years” parenting class in July 2013.

I started mental health counseling at BHR, when I was pregnant with first baby and got letters from my counselor saying I was fully invested with getting my children home & doing well. I am in Parent Protection Group since July & still attending. I started individual D.V./Anger classes and my instructor was an advocate at needed times.

I’m working with Dr. Shawn Andrews at Elma Family Medicine regarding my Suboxine medication. I meet with the Dr. frequently during the months and she has written me several letters to my caseworker and judge stating I was doing well and it was in the children’s best interest to be home w/me.

My second pregnancy the CPS worker made me feel like I had to choose between my unborn baby and my 1 year old.  But she didn’t bring up this baby I was carrying till May, the month before I had him. She gave me 2 options to adopt or she was filing for shelter care. Him coming home to me was not even an option.

She has threatened me, lied and so on. We had a meeting before I gave birth and she told me if I kept this baby also it would prolong my other baby coming home, which makes no sense because she has both my children. She also told me to write this baby a “good-bye letter”. And that I couldn’t take care of 2 baby’s. She was dead set on me adopting.

She had NO grounds on taking the new baby. Each reason she gave me I have documents resolving each of her decisions. Taking Kayden was premeditated. It was finalized before I gave birth. She told me the day before she was taking him, so obviously it wasn’t drugs because how could they determine if I was clean without having him born yet.

I even had a letter from my OBGYN saying I was in full compliance doing good. Something needs to happen. I want my boys home, I’ve never even gave the chance to be a mother to them so how can they judge me? How can they be for the family when you see your children once a week for 2 hours supervised.

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Federal VS State: Follow the Money

August 31, 2013 in corruption, CPS, investigation, Michigan

Many people are confused by just who has the ability to change the laws.  One reader wrote in:

My US Senator just emailed me. She said that CPS is a state agency and she has nothing to do with them. She ignores the fact that US Legislators passed Social Security Title IV, which in part, pays CPS to remove a child, even if there is no evidence of abuse or neglect. She also ignores the fact that Title IV also rewards each state that has a certain number of adoptions above the quota.

Maura D. Corrigan

Maura D. Corrigan

How do those states get enough children to adopt above the quota? They take them.

She also ignores studies, by agencies within Health and Human Services, a federal agency. The studies prove that more children are abused, neglected, raped and murdered in CPS “protection,” than are those left at home with their parents. Also, studies have shown that over time, children left at home fare better emotionally and psychologically, than those removed and placed in the system.

Maura Corrigan bragged about receiving a large adoption bonus from the State of Michigan. She also stated that Michigan returns 50.1% of children removed from the home. I find it hard to believe that 49.9% of parents are that bad that they can’t or won’t do what CPS requires for their return. What actually happens is that when a parent fulfills a requirement, CPS adds more requirements. Then CPS delays setting up a parenting plan, then tells the court the parent has not met deadlines; deadlines that were never established. Or, CPS brainwashes the children into believing their parents never wanted them.

CPS kidnapping is both a state and federal issue. We have to enforce current laws that CPS ignores. We have to change unjust laws that protect corrupt CPS workers, police and courts. We have to change laws that allow people to falsify CPS complaints and get away with it, while the family is destroyed.

This is a common misconception.  Your congressman was right.  The Senate doesn’t have much to do with HHS or CPS. You need to contact your U. S. House Representative, they approve the funding and hold the purse strings.  The states make policy, legislators make law.

Your senator can call for a hearing and investigate but they rarely do.  If CPS breaks the laws, it is the house who has the power to investigate and change things.

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Help Needed in Colorado

May 10, 2013 in Colorado, corruption, DSS

This mother has written me asking for advice, I have given it.  What is so frustrating is that people still go along with the program, until they don’t know what else to do, then they contact us.

This family did everything wrong… Do you have any advice for them now?

A 9 year old and 3 year old in Colorado using ...

On November 6, 2012, DSS took all four of my children because my 8 year old went to school and told them I gave him a black eye. Officers took my children to foster care based on the allegations of my son.

DSS sends my kids home, 20 days later after we agreed to do a parenting plan. It has been 6 months and my husband and I have complied with everything they asked, psych evaluations, individual therapy, in home counseling and CASA…

(Throughout all this we find out that our son who is 8 has Asperger’s syndrome based on a psych evaluation that DSS had done proved that my son cannot tell difference between fantasy and reality and that he doesn’t know the difference between truth and lie.)

We went into court 2 weeks ago and the judge decided that the case will be closed June 24 2013, as soon as we got resources for our son’s disability.

Last Wednesday my 8 year old goes to school with deep scratches on his neck and says his dad hit him with a baby hanger. Our worker decided without investigating that all our children were in immediate danger and had to be removed from our home. Now our case worker says if we agree to another case plan they will let the kids come home.

Me and my husband now want to fight this so our children are not ripped out of our home again. We refuse to go through any more of this. Did I mention that in one medical record that that my 8 year old admits to lying about abuse to get what he wants. Even our own case worker admits that he has lied to him about abuse.

What if anything can you do to help us? We know we have to get our side of the story on record and that by signing the agreement we are pleading guilty to abuse. Help us please!

D.V. in Pueblo, Colorado

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