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Demand Return of Parental Rights

June 17, 2011 in Child Protective Services, corruption, justice, parental rights

Father’s Day is this Sunday. We know that Mother’s Day is really rough for those with children living in foster homes. Let’s not forget that Father’s grief the loss of their children too. Please join me in praying that this father finds answers and is reunified with his child.

Choosing The Right Key

Choosing The Right

I am a good father of 6-year-old twins (a boy & a girl) and stepfather of an 8-year-old girl. I want to withdraw my consent to services and even my submission in our juvenile dependency case. Between the kids mother and myself we were both coerced, threatened, and tricked into assigning our signatures to consent forms, submissions and services. Our six month review hearing approaches.

I am convinced that fraud, deceit, lies, deception, and unfair law practices are at work and I know that I am be led to slaughter by the system. How do I withdraw? I know I wont participate any longer, knowing that service is submission. What steps can I take on August 6th, to insist that the courts return my parental rights?

M.D.,
Father-at-large

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No Where To Turn

April 13, 2010 in Adoption, Child Protective Services, foster care

Most states have safe haven laws on the books, permitting a new parent to drop off an infant at a local fire department or hospital without repercussions. This is a laudable service that I am certain has had a positive impact on more than one infants life over the years.

What I cannot for the life of me understand is why more services are not available for older children. Are infants more deserving of our help? Are they more valuable to society?

We spent billions of dollars each year on foster care “services” paying strangers, who have been licensed by the state (Which should mean the state is responsible for their actions but doesn’t always.) to care for children placed in their care by other strangers, who really do not have a clue what that child needs. However, does that really matter?

Apparently not, because it happens every day.

I am not denying that not every mother or father is a good one, drugs can mess up a family in a hurry, turning an otherwise okie dokie parent, into a total loser and often, worse. Nevertheless, that is another story.

I know one mother personally; she is what I like to call a yeller. She is not abusive, she loves her child but she yells so much that the kids cannot hear a word she says. The son started smoking marijuana around the age of 13. He refused to observe his curfew, refused to attend school and to make matters worse the police were not any help at all.

She tried to find help. This mother-spent weeks calling around, trying to find some kind of help for her son and her family. She heard the same story repeatedly; her husband made too much money to qualify for any help and they did not make enough money to afford the help he needed. She was beside herself trying to figure out what she was going to do.

This is true of many families – especially in today’s economic crisis. Money problems bring on stress related illnesses; add a job loss or a medical emergency and the stress levels only escalate. Many individuals are not equipped to handle these kinds of stress levels. The may turn to illegal drug use, alcohol, marijuana, and even prescription painkillers for relief. Prescription pain medication can become the drug of choice, simply because state medical benefits cover doctors’ visits and pain medication. Prescription pain medications are easy to get and can often be obtained at no cost to the patient.

Drug use leads to illegal activity because – well, money was already short – now there simply isn’t any money left. Those hooked will even sell their food stamps, putting the children in crisis too.

What we see is a general spiral downward, each bad decision leads to another, creating a crisis situation that even the most skilled individual would struggle to find a solution to. Removing the child is rarely the best solution, foster care, and adoption are not the answer and I’ll tell you why. It is the rare exception to the rule, when an adopted child assimilates into their new surroundings. Many adoptees spend years searching for their “real parents’ and even if they find them, they are often ill-prepared to deal with reality.

My stepson was adopted by his natural mom’s second husband, he was only 18-months old at the time. His adopted father was the only father he had ever known, yet, he never felt like he belonged with our family, so we sent him to live with his natural mother. He did not do well there either. Today this boy is over 30 and still searching for his natural father.

My late husband was adopted as a child; he spent years searching for his natural parents. When he found them, he was not prepared to deal with what he found. Not only were his adoptive parents alcoholics, but so were his natural parents. He had nine brothers and sisters by six different fathers and none of them were what you would call law-abiding citizens.

I have several other individuals in my close family who have been adopted and not one of them grew up happy and well adjusted, and I find that very sad.

There are children out there who are able to be helped and it grieves me – it should grieve us all when a child is needlessly harmed.

Years ago, when I was in foster care, foster parents were not allowed to adopt a child who had been placed there. It seemed like such a stupid rule at the time but today I can see why we had that protection. Foster parents who are interested in adopting a child would have the opportunity and motive to manipulate a child who is solely under their control.

These same foster parents could provide false or damning accounts of the natural parents to child protection authorities, causing them to have their rights terminated falsely. Foster parents are paid keepers. If they have a problem with a child, they have access to just about any type of services you can imagine. The money all comes out of our social security funding. Oh, you thought that money was only doled out to retirees – think again.

What is a parent to do when…

  • you have finally found work but you have a five year old at home and no one to watch him?
  • you find yourself homeless and you have a 12 year old to care for?
  • you are married to an abusive spouse and you have four children, the oldest is 8 years old?
  • your son stays out all night partying with his friends and refuses to attend school. The school has scheduled a truancy hearing and you will lose your job if don’t show up for work.

These are everyday worries that parents are forced to deal with, often with no help at all. Why is it that foster parents are entitled to the help a natural parent can’t possibly obtain for a child that desperately needs help. This is a gross inequity and just exactly what we can expect when the state is footing the bill. You know the old adage, “He who pays the piper calls the tune.”

  • What if we wrote a law that required professionals to assist families in need rather than simply report them to the authorities?
  • What if each state mandated specific services be provided, to a family before a child could be removed from the home?
  • Why can’t we provide clean, affordable housing to families in crisis?
  • Why can’t we offer training, counseling services, parenting classes, and drug rehab that doesn’t take an act of God to get into?
  • Why can’t we provide 24-hour safe houses, where a parent can obtain emergency services such as babysitting, meals and real help?
  • Why isn’t everyone mad as hell over this greedy, God forsaken mess we call “Child Protective Services”.

I don’t have all the answers but I have some really good questions, without good answers. Why are we throwing away our tax dollars on a system that we know damages children – many are scarred for life from the experience.

I know that if our communities would come together and make helping families their priority; we could help these innocent children by aiding their needy parents. We can heal our nation by lending a helping hand – one family at a time.

Please write, call or visit your state and federal representatives. Ask them the hard questions. Then ask them again. Don’t stop until you get real answers. If we aren’t willing to stand up for the children and our families, no one else will.

Please participate in the Mother’s Day protest or silent vigil. Let your voice be heard.

Nationwide Mother’s Day Protest

March 24, 2010 in Child Protective Services

Help bring national attention to CPS abuse, legal kidnapping, child trafficking, and corruption of epic proportions. Participate in a national event to put CPS on the media hotseat.

When: May 9, 2010 — Mothers Day
Where: Your City Court House sidewalk

If you live in the capital city of your state, go to the State Capital Building, or better still, join us at the White House.

What: Take a baby doll, stuffed animal or teddy bear to your local courthouse or state building and drop it on the sidewalk, as a memorial to our lost generation of children. Attach a note with a summary of your own story (or a friend’s story).

It is our goal to make a public statement and attract publicity on Mother’s Day nationwide. Therefore, we need dolls piled high in order to attract the press city to city and coast to coast.

Nationwide Mother's Day Protest!

Please spread the word.

  • Alert your local television and radio stations.
  • Send bulletins on all your social networks, forums and blogs.

We have 8-weeks to put this together, so please, move on this right away.

Thanks to all for your support. If all across the country on the same day – Mother’s Day — dolls show up on every courthouse sidewalk, representing our stolen children the reporters will come.

Mother’s Day at the White House

Please join us on Sunday May 9th, 2010 at 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue, NW Washington DC to ask Obama to meet with our delegates and investigate the family courts.

If you fear judicial retribution, please make a scarf and wear it over your face. You can embroider the names of your children/grandchildren in the scarf.

On your own, you can make a sign to explain why your face is covered. “I fear judicial retaliation for trying to protect my child (grandchild).”

For additional details and to get involved contact:

Survivors Helping Victims
P.O. Box 1365
Clifton Park, NY 12065
(518) 605-1637

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