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Teach Your Kids

March 31, 2015 in CPS

Your kids are precious and always will be. So, you want to take care of them. You teach them what to do in case of a fire, a tornado or flood but have you taught your kids about CPS?

Since I was raised in and out of foster care, I taught my child never to trust CPS. Do your children know that the good people at Child Protective Services will try to guide your children into saying things they don’t mean. They are very manipulative in their interaction with children.

I know this first hand.  They wanted to charge my mother with neglect but they couldn’t without lying because I wouldn’t finger her.

Do your children know where to go?  What to say?  How to behave if questioned by CPS? These are things you need to discuss with your kids, just like you were planning for any other emergency.  If the kids know that you love them and are fighting for them, it will give them reason to hope and to fight.

Develop a family plan, practice it. Our son is now 18, but I don’t think a month went by that we didn’t discuss all kinds of emergencies and this was one, being kidnapped was another.  Practice your plan, make sure everyone knows what to do in case of emergency.  Everyone’s plan will be different.  Our son was told climb out his window if they came to the house and run as fast as he could to his grandfather’s house (4 miles away).

Kids are Kidjacked all the time.  Is your family ready?

 

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TN: Marine Tells of CPS Lies!

December 23, 2013 in CPS

I am going out on a limb here and asking if your site has any recommendations. I have been a victim of the corrupt Child Protection Services out of Knoxville, TN.

We have a baby...for awhile at least

We have a baby…for awhile at least!

I am an Active Duty Marine and have fought diligently to remain a part of my son’s life despite being a state away. Over the past few monthly visits while my son is in my care, he had been repeatedly stating that he is being sexually and physically abused either by his mother or by someone who his mother knows.

I informed CPS in Knoxville about this and after conducting a 13 minute interview, they determined nothing was wrong and sent him home. Being a concerned parent and believing what my son said had merit, the last time he came to visit I informed my command and they got NCIS and CPS in the northern VA area involved which resulted in him being interviewed by a forensic team from Walter Reed Medical Facility in Bethesda, MD.

After an extensive interview, my son displayed what they called a personality shift and displayed knowledge of explicit sexual content, all stemming from what he experiences in his mother’s care. Of course the staff and myself were concerned and they advised that I take him to Children’s National Hospital in Washington, DC, where, after a short 20 minute evaluation, they admitted him into the psych ward (mind you, my son is only 5, so this, to them, was a big deal) stating he was suffering from severe trauma.

CPS and local law enforcement from northern VA and DC got with CPS in Knoxville and they were astonished and disgusted to see that he had been evaluated prior but for only 13 minutes, leaving little time for discoveries.

After being admitted for a few days, I was forced (due to a standing court order parenting plan from Blount County, TN) to return him to his mother’s care. CPS in Knoxville informed me that they wished for me to dropped him off into their custody for further evaluation (I believe they were upset that another state’s CPS was stating that there was indeed some sort of abuse going on in his mother’s home).

I did this even though my court order states I am to drop him off to his mother at a pre-designated place. I agreed, hoping that they would finally take into consideration what the other CPS offices had found. I dropped him off and, upon exiting the building, noticed that my son’s mother had already arrived but was parked behind the office with her vehicle slightly concealed. I drove my vehicle to the back of the parking lot and within 4 minutes, my son was being escorted out of the back of the building with his mother, in her custody.

Both women who were advising me that another interview was going to be conducted were there as well. I was extremely worried for the safety of my son and approached the women on foot with my cell phone’s camera recording the entire incident. I asked them if there indeed had been a follow-on interview because I believe 3-4 minutes was not sufficient time to conduct one.

They refused to answer any of my questions and instead called the Knoxville Police Department. Upon their arrival, I explained the situation to the police and they wrote down the report number but there were no citations written as there were no laws broken. The police and the CPS workers allowed my son to leave with the same woman who he alleged had been sexually abusing him!

I called CPS the following day and the CPS worker who had been involved with the exchange had stated that there was never to be a follow on investigating that they wanted to ensure the exchange of my son did not involve any violence from me. I do not have a record whatsoever of violence, domestic violence, alcohol abuse, drug abuse, anything (again, I’ve been in the Marines for over 10 years with an exceptional record).

CPS took it upon themselves to involve them in this exchange, lying to me that an interview was to be conducted and then attempting to push him out the backdoor without my knowledge. They lied and manipulated me into going against court orders and my gut instinct as a parent and involved themselves in my exchange.

Furthermore, since the incident, I have had zero contact with my son or his mother due to a restraining order she has gotten and I just recently found out, through the courts in northern VA, that CPS in Knoxville has issued an ex parte no contact order against me toward my son! I have done nothing wrong and now it seems like CPS in Knoxville has a vendetta against me!

Is there any assistance or recommendations you might have that could help me fight back at the corrupt system that is CPS?  I have recorded phone call conversations, emails, and videos of the incident all saved and archived for review. I’m in the process of seeking legal help but all the lawyers in the east TN area do not want to take my case because “CPS is against me!”

I am at a loss and fear for me son’s safety! And now, amongst the holiday season, all my court order visitation has been stripped due to CPS’ involvement! Please help!

Respectfully sent,

Staff Sergeant, USMC
Central Command Branch
Corps Intelligence Activity

“They must find it difficult: those who have taken authority as truth rather than truth as authority.” – Gerald Massey

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Help Needed in Colorado

May 10, 2013 in Colorado, corruption, DSS

This mother has written me asking for advice, I have given it.  What is so frustrating is that people still go along with the program, until they don’t know what else to do, then they contact us.

This family did everything wrong… Do you have any advice for them now?

A 9 year old and 3 year old in Colorado using ...

On November 6, 2012, DSS took all four of my children because my 8 year old went to school and told them I gave him a black eye. Officers took my children to foster care based on the allegations of my son.

DSS sends my kids home, 20 days later after we agreed to do a parenting plan. It has been 6 months and my husband and I have complied with everything they asked, psych evaluations, individual therapy, in home counseling and CASA…

(Throughout all this we find out that our son who is 8 has Asperger’s syndrome based on a psych evaluation that DSS had done proved that my son cannot tell difference between fantasy and reality and that he doesn’t know the difference between truth and lie.)

We went into court 2 weeks ago and the judge decided that the case will be closed June 24 2013, as soon as we got resources for our son’s disability.

Last Wednesday my 8 year old goes to school with deep scratches on his neck and says his dad hit him with a baby hanger. Our worker decided without investigating that all our children were in immediate danger and had to be removed from our home. Now our case worker says if we agree to another case plan they will let the kids come home.

Me and my husband now want to fight this so our children are not ripped out of our home again. We refuse to go through any more of this. Did I mention that in one medical record that that my 8 year old admits to lying about abuse to get what he wants. Even our own case worker admits that he has lied to him about abuse.

What if anything can you do to help us? We know we have to get our side of the story on record and that by signing the agreement we are pleading guilty to abuse. Help us please!

D.V. in Pueblo, Colorado

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Parenting a Liar…

November 1, 2011 in foster care, foster parents, Kidjacked, parent-child relationship

Do you have a child who lies for no apparent reason? You aren’t alone and you could be a big part of the problem, which means you can help.

A woman typing on a laptop

Foster kids need computers too

Before you get all indignant, please understand, I believe some children have what I think of, as a “lying gene,” and lying simply comes natural to these children. Children who have been moved around from foster care home to foster care home, will often take on a new identity, when they realize they are living with complete strangers and can become anyone they wish. In these cases, lying becomes a way of life.

These foster children are the ones the system likes to label as RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder) children. Children in foster care soon learn to keep people at a distance and will have trust issues. Who can blame them? You can’t wear your heart on your sleeve without having it repeatedly broken by a heartless uncaring system, where the individual gets chewed up in the grinding of the system.

I can remember carrying everything I own in a paper bag. I’m certain many foster care children are thrilled to receive suitcases from churches, schools and other charitable organizations that have donation drives for foster kids. It would be wonderful if more could be done for these children. It’s too bad most foster care children never receive the benefits of things done in their name — such as donations for laptops.

Just how long do you think a child alone, left to the mercy of the system, will be able to keep a $1,000 laptop — or even a $250 notebook? If they aren’t stolen by a foster family member or foster parent, the temptation to sell it for cash or even drugs (if they are an issue) is great.

Getting back to the child with the imaginary “lying gene”

Learning how to better approach the child, can drastically increase his or her truth-telling. If you have one child, this is much easier, because you know who “did it,” you don’t have to play investigator. So, insteading of asking the child, “Who left the toilet seat up?” You simply say, “Please don’t leave the seat up on the toilet.”

As parents of a child with lying issues, it’s easy to get into the bad habit of asking questions that we already know the answers to. When we learn to rephrase our questions, or avoid asking a question all-together, we can help avoid the temptation to lie.  Often with a little thought and an attitude change, you can help your child feel better about his or herself and break the cycle of lying.

It is up to the parent to demonstrate good moral fortitude. Be sure your child hears you being honest. Take the time to continually express the importance on honestly. The Bible can serve as a useful tool in training your child in honesty. Ask your child to read, memorize, copy and recite from this list of scripture verses on honesty.

You can choose to tolerate your child’s lying, which can and often will continue as a pattern into adulthood or you can choose to change your parenting style and address the issue — the earlier the better. If you have a child who is constantly lying, don’t give up — get help.

 [Download: Bible Lesson on Truth and Lies (pdf)]

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