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It’s just not a Merry Christmas when…

December 14, 2010 in Kidjacked, parent-child relationship

Let’s face it, when the state waltzes in and turns your life upside-down; Kidjack’s your child and devastates you emotionally, financially and yes, even, spiritually — It’s simply not the makings of a very Merry Christmas.

This can be the most difficult time of the year to face — alone.

Those who manage to get through it in good spirits are those who can maintain a good attitude, inspite of the bleak outlook in their current circumstances. I’ve experienced a great deal of loss in my own life — and I’ll admit it — I’ve spend the majority of the past two days in tears — all for no apparent reason.

My Grandmother always had good advice to dole out. She always used to say, “Whatever doesn’t kill you, will make you stronger.” She was right. I’ve always managed to gather strength during my struggles — it’s the actual struggle that builds strength, stamina and perseverance. All, important qualities to possess.

I recently learned a new adage that also makes perfect sense to me, “Pain is our bodies way of letting us know, we are still alive.”

The secret is to keep busy. When I’m in pain, I like to read a good humorous book, especially those by Erma Bombeck, she just tickles my funny bone. (Be careful, you don’t want to be laughing if you have stitches, for instance.)

Here are some helpful tips for getting through the holidays – alone.

  • Do something for someone else – Doing for others will help keep our mind off our own troubles.
  • Take up a new hobby – Learn a new craft, take up sewing, learn to play golf, learn to knit, take up hiking — anything to keep your mind busy.
  • Listen to soothing or upbeat music – Depending on your mood, something mellow and sweet might bring back those feel good memories. Something with a nice beat might be just the thing for dancing.
  • Keep a Journal – Just taking the time to take good notes, keep a journal, create an accurate timeline or simply writing some short stories, or keeping up with a blog can be enough to inspire you. It may help you find a creative way to fight for your kids. The act of writing often works as a release for pent-up emotions.
  • Get Physical– Physical exercise is good for the body and the mind. Building strong muscles can also help to keep your mind sharp. Try it.
  • Make a new friend – Friends and family can make nice sounding boards, they can be there when you are feeling down and help lift you back up again. Just remember your friend might need an ear from time to time as well.
  • Don’t wallow in self-pity – Allow yourself 15 minutes a day to think about your children and to cry and grieve for their loss. Set a timer, when it goes off, put those thoughts away and get moving. Don’t give in to the temptation to climb into bed and never get up again. We’ve all been there.

I’d like for us to take the time and remember the children who have been stolen by the state — paid for compliments of the U.S. Taxpayers and our federal government. It is wrong to place a bounty of the heads of children. Our children are not for sale.

If you have wrongfully had a child Kidjacked by the state or if you know of a child who has been been removed from their loving parents — please leave a comment below. Give the child’s name (include his or her age, if you wish) and your Christmas greeting or wish. We want all of our children to know they have not been forgotten and that they still have parents waiting for their return. Once you’ve added a child’s name to the list, please share the link with your friends and family.

Please remember the children and families in your prayers, especially during this holiday season.

I wish each and everyone of you a Christmas reunion with your child.

God Bless the little children!

CPS Inflicts Pain

July 1, 2009 in caseworker, Child Protective Services, CPS, foster care, investigation, Washington

CPS Prevents Mother From Being With Dying Child

My name is Haley; CPS stole my children on April 30, 2009.

How It All Began

On March 2, 2009, my daughter Emma Grace passed away she was 11-months-old. My husband and I were not home at the time of her death, we were at the hospital visiting our new daughter Chloe, and she had been born 2 months early.

At 12:30 p.m. on the 2nd of March 2009, we received a call from our landlord saying we had to come home that our daughter Emma Grace was dead, we rushed home, which was one hour away. Our uncle was watching all the kids (we had 5 children at the time).

CPS Inflicts Pain!

As Our Child Was Dying

When we got to our home the police were there, they said our daughter had been taken to the hospital but they refused to tell us if she was okay. They kept us there for 90-minutes questioning us, and then they finally allowed us to leave to go to the hospital.

Now this entire time they still would not tell us if our daughter was okay, they would not let us call the hospital to check on her. When we finally got to the hospital, they told us our daughter had passed away. We were robbed of her last few minutes of life.

When they told me that she had passed, I fell screaming to the floor, I was hysterical, it was like a horrible nightmare that I could not wake up from. I kept screaming at God for taking my baby.

CPS Investigates

We were kept at the hospital for 6-hours and the entire time the police were at our home, "investigating." When they finally let us go home, the neighbor said, CPS was here and they said that you cannot have your kids back.

I took my children anyway and went to my mother’s home, the next morning I was a wreck I had to go to the CPS office.

I asked then what is going on. They said, "We need to know where your kids are." I said, "Why?"

They said you can either cooperate with us by doing voluntary services with us or we will take custody of your children. Now keep in mind, my daughter had just passed away — it had not even been 12-hours and they were threatening us.

They bullied us into doing voluntary services with them, we did not know our rights, and we honestly thought that they had made a mistake and that they would leave us alone. We felt we had done no wrong. We know we are great parents, we do not believe in spanking or yelling at children.

We have never taken illegal drugs or drank, we attended church regularly and we had only moved twice in 7-years.

They came to our home constantly, always surprising us never calling us. We thought everything was going fine, then we found out our home had an infestation of black mold. So, we decided to move because we had heard that black mold can cause health issues.

No News Is Not Good News

Now with all this stress happening CPS still came out unannounced all the time. Then on April 13th, we stopped hearing from them. They did not call or come to our home at all. We called and left several messages, but we did not hear back from them.

Then on April 30th, we were at my mother in laws home and CPS came with the police and took our children. The only reason they gave was that in the social workers opinion I had mental health issues due to the grief of our loss.

She did not believe that we could parent our children. It was a ridiculous notion. Yes, I was and still am grieving the loss of my baby, what parent wouldn’t?

Grief A Cause For Removal?

But according to the social worker I was grieving too much and crying too much. The social worker is only 21-years-old; she has no kids — not even a husband. So what makes her such an expert?

She cannot even begin to fathom the depth of my feelings for my children, and this whole thing makes no sense if she was so concerned about my children then why didn’t she call me or come check on them for over 2 weeks?

Caseworkers Violate Court Order

We went to the shelter care hearing and the judge court ordered all 4 of my children to be placed with my mother and father, but they still to this day have only placed the 3 oldest with my parents, they have not placed my baby with them.

We were court ordered to do all these services that CPS was supposed to pay for, but they still have not sent me the referrals, so I went and paid for them myself.

Our baby is still with a "foster family" we had a family team meeting on the 5th of June. What a joke that was! The foster family who has my baby were there and they said that they wanted to adopt my baby!

I said there is no way!

Speedy Trial? Fat Chance of That

We had court today the 9th of June it was all nonsense. They asked for a continuance and of course the judge granted it. Since this all began I have only got to see my baby twice.

I cannot afford an attorney, but they have nothing on me. They tried to say I was a drug addict, so I went and did a UA (urine analysis) every day and paid for it out of my own pocket; It of course came back negative — no drugs or alcohol. This is the most senseless thing I have ever heard of.

CPS Inflicts Pain!

Protesting Illegal Actions of CPS Workers

We are protesting with a lot of families at the CPS office with signs and banners, the news team from Channel 5 and other news stations will be here in Everett, Washington at 840 North Broadway (the CPS office).

We need to all stand together on this. They are taking our children for money. They get money each time they steal a child and each time they place a child with adoptive parents.

We need to all unite and become one voice for our children. We need 2000 signatures to get a bill passed at the legislature. Please come sign our petition and help us reunite families torn apart.

Terrorist Among Us

You know the real terrorists are CPS and the lawyers who work with them, as well as the judges. They are violating our kids and us. This is supposed to be America the land of the free, that is not true anymore. No longer do i see my country through rose-colored glasses.

Now I see it for what it really is, greedy, conniving, thieves, liars, terrorists.

So, please share this post with all the people you know, we need to set up rallies and get petitions signed. We need to change the laws for our children and the sake of their future.

Stand With Us

Don’t forget starting Friday the 12th of June every day from 7 a.m. to 7 p.m. at 840 North Broadway, in Everett, Washington. Be there! We can as one make a difference.

If you have any questions, or advice, please call me, we can use all the advice and support we can get.

Today we went to our preliminary hearing and the "lawyer" the court assigned to us still does not know if she wants to take it to trial. I gave her two psych evaluations and of course they claim they cannot find them. I gave them depositions from a lot of family and friends and of course once again they claim they cannot find them. This is so frustrating.

CPS Inflicts Pain!

I honestly do not feel as if this is America anymore. This is no longer the home of my birth, the land of the free the home of the brave. Yea, right more like the land of if-you-have-money-you-can-do-anything-you want, but if not, then guess what, you have no more rights then women over in Iraq who are persecuted all the time. This is the most outright wrongful thing I have ever been through. If I had not gone through it myself, then I would not have believed it, but I will never give up I will get my babies back.

One strong honest voice is louder then a screaming crowd. We all need to unite together, not just us parents going through this but all Americans — all true Americans. We stood together against England to fight for our rights and know we need to all stand together, against those who try and take away our God given rights as parents.

How can anyone tell us we are not fit to be parents? I carried my children for 9-months and I have been raising them for 10-years. I am a wonderful mother. I would give my life for my children. I would gladly rip my heart out of my chest to save my babies from even one moment of pain.

In the Best Interest of the Children?

This is killing my children, my son is 2, every time I go to see my kids at our scheduled visits, when I tell him I love him he starts crying, hysterically, because, he thinks I am leaving. This is hard on us but it is even harder on our children.

I know, there are many of hundreds of thousands of us parents out there, please call me anytime day or night or email me, if we all stand together we can and will prevail. You are all in my prayers remember never give up, these are our children our future we are fighting for.

Cell (425) 328-6869
Everett, WA 98201

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