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August 9, 2014 in Child Protective Services, Connecticut, corruption, DHS, family rights

If you don’t comply they’ll Take Your Child

by: Jenni Falconer

After having been involved in my own custody battle and losing some of my children to my ex-husband due to the fact that I’m disabled, I sought support for my grief. In doing so, I met other parents who had been through the nightmare of child custody loss.

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One married couple, David and Mandy, had lost custody temporarily and told me a tale so unbelievable I wouldn’t have believed it if I hadn’t had first-hand experience of state corruption. Their custody of their newly born baby son George was taken – including their right to make medical decisions – because they went against orthodox medical advice.

David and Mandy didn’t have a child until they reached their 40’s. Mandy had an aggressive type of arthritis that required immune modulating medication; because of this they had decided it was best not to have children. As the years ticked by and Mandy got closer to menopause, she inevitably changed her mind and they managed to conceive quickly after altering the medication.

They were free spirited people, who had previously lived in a narrow boat but bought a house on learning that Mandy was pregnant. They had specific ideas for how they wanted the birth to be and for how they wanted to raise their child. They wanted to experience natural childbirth, and because Mandy was afraid of hospitals due to previous negative experiences, they hired a midwife in the hope of having a home birth.

Home Birth Hostility

Child Protective Services Survival Manual for Parents

Unfortunately the birth didn’t go to plan and they had to be transferred to hospital for an assisted delivery. That is where their nightmare began. Staff at the hospital seemed to be contemptuous because they had planned a home birth and because they were older first time parents. Their attitude only got worse when Mandy refused a forceps delivery and told them if they wanted to use forceps she would have to be sedated first. Although they complied with the unusual request, they viewed her as an oppositional patient.

The Fallacy of Informed Consent

After the birth of a healthy 8 lbs. son, they informed staff they were refusing Hepatitis B vaccine for baby George because it was a sexually transmitted disease and they knew that Mandy didn’t have Hepatitis B. The couple had been married more than 20 years and were sexually faithful to each other and the only way that George could contract the disease as a newborn was by infection during childbirth. As his mother wasn’t infected, this was impossible.

They knew that all drugs have side-effects and decided the injection was unnecessary for George. Informed consent or refusal of medical interventions is supposed to be a cornerstone of modern medical practice, but in reality, over-reaching authorities class ‘medical neglect’ as ‘not following medical recommendations’. Hostile staff informed child protective services.

They were allowed to leave the hospital with their baby but on arrival home had CPS knocking their door down. Instead of being able to enjoy their new baby, they faced a lengthy interview about their unorthodox views and were accused of ‘not trusting’ medical professionals and putting their baby at risk by attempting a home birth, delaying forceps intervention and refusing a vaccination.

Social workers questioned whether Mandy’s arthritis would make her a suitable carer for baby George since David was at work during the day. They held an emergency meeting and court hearing and decided that George should be placed in the custody of the state until the parents ‘prove’ their suitability to be his parents. Tiny George – only a few days old – was taken by force from the arms of his distraught and begging mother.

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Big Brother is Watching You

They were only allowed to visit him in a DFS center where they would be monitored to see how they were looking after the baby (something reminiscent of George Orwell’s ‘1984’) and they had to be accompanied to all medical visits where the final say was with the state (although they didn’t force the vaccination that the parents had declined).

Eventually, when no neglect or abuse could be found and they had no ‘spurious’ reason to keep George from his parents, they were given physical custody with medical custody remaining with the state. Social workers visited their home daily and controlled most of what they did. They were prevented from using cloth diapers, as the social workers said this was ‘unhygienic’ and when Mandy made George home cooked food with a blender, she was told she had to feed him commercial baby food.

It took David and Mandy until their baby was nearly a year old to regain medical custody of him and far longer than that to repair their strained marriage.

Theirs is by no means the only case. Medical care is purported to be free to refuse, but if you say no to a proposed treatment, openly challenge a medical professional or make a choice that is a little ‘outside the box’ (for instance, home birth) you could be red flagged by social services or have your child taken away from you.

The Story of Justina Pelletier

Teenager Justina Pelletier was taken from her parents when two hospitals that were treating her, disagreed over her care. Justina, a former ice skater with Mitochondrial disease, was admitted to Boston Children’s Hospital, where a junior doctor who said that mitochondrial disease did not exist and that their daughter really had Somatoform Disorder, a mental health disorder caused by stress.

Doctors at the hospital said she’d been misdiagnosed and falsely medicated. When her parents objected and said they would seek a second opinion from another hospital, child welfare workers were called in and the family were prevented from leaving the hospital. Custody was given to the state and Justina was locked in a psychiatric ward for 16 months.

She later told journalists that medical staff there were ‘so mean and nasty’ to her, accusing her of faking her illness. She was only allowed one hour a week to visit her parents.

Since getting her back in the ensuing court battle, Justina’s parents say that ‘it was all a mad psychiatric experiment’ and accuse Boston Children’s of experimenting on their daughter without consent. Although Justina is now home, because she was denied treatment for her mitochondrial disease during her forced detainment, she is now unable to walk and is confined to a wheelchair – a tragic example of what can happen if the state get their hands on your child.

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No Fault CPS! WTF?

December 23, 2013 in CPS, foster parents, investigation, Kidjacked

In 2012, my family turned  my  baby  over  to  CPS when I was  forced to go in  for treatment. Upon  my release,  two weeks later they had no choice but to return her because (& I quote) “it  was  due  to  no  fault  of your own, that she was taken from your care. “

I was kept an eye on for about six months, when I receive a letter stating that if I try to adopt or decide to become a foster parent I could not, because I had a child endangerment charge against me. I am wondering if that is because I complained about my baby coming back to me different.

I let them know the concerns I had with the home they put my daughter in. She told me that the woman had children of her own. Her son would hold my daughter down, by stomping on her with his feet. If my daughter dared to cry, the woman encouraged her son and daughter to punch my daughter in the stomach, call her names or slap her in the face.

The children then told my daughter if she told, no one would believe her because she was just a stupid foster kid.

My daughter is only five years old and this woman’s children were much older.  My baby also had a gold necklace, with a gold crucifix that the woman took from my daughter, and gave to her own.

When I contacted the worker to report this conduct I was just passed off with a question on what I was doing to ensure the welfare of my child.  As far as I know to this day nothing has been done.

Today, my child is in treatment herself and wakes up during the night crying because she is so afraid this woman and her children will find her and hurt her again. I spend quite sometime calming my baby down assuring her that she is home safe and sound and mommy would NEVER let anyone or anything hurt her ever again.

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Help bring Westin home…

July 12, 2012 in California, Child Protective Services, corruption, post parental termination

My parental rights were terminated by a referee in LANCASTER, CA on JUNE 25th 2012. I need to know if there is any way I can get my son back, or get visitation, it seems this situation is hopeless. Even if it is hopeless I will not rest until I know my son is okay.

I am trying to understand the appeal process and rehearing?  I don’t know which papers to file, and I can’t find a decent attorney that even gives a shit to even look at my case without a $10,000 retainer. I am not going to be ripped off by another whack job from honolulu that I trusted, but later find out he was never on my side all along.

I was tricked into signing a waiver of rights, and  was late for my TPR contested hearing and they proceeded to terminate my rights without me. I can’t even look at my own child’s file anymore. I will not give up! If I have to I will die fighting this unjust system.

We were not even granted a “goodbye visit.”   I never got the chance to explain to him what was going on, let alone talk to the judge throughout this whole case to tell my side of the story. The social worker would cut visits off if I even started to explain to him or tell him that I love him and will never give up on him, that was considered details of the case which we were never allowed to talk about.

Wes is 5 years old and was taken from me in Sept 2009. I’ve been fighting for 3 years to get him back.  But I am only a mother, one person against all these wolves. They don’t play fair, and I  didn’t go to any law school, and all this rules of court, welfare code, is a different language to me. My brain feels like it wants to explode. My heart feels shattered, and my soul is handicapped from the piece that is missing.

His father is in prison until 2014 and has only been established as the “alleged father” Because I had no idea he didn’t have rights until paternity was established, and I don’t have any clue on how to go about doing that.

I went through the rehab and parenting classes, and the grief counselling, and whatever else I understood the court asked me to do. And then they yanked everything I had been working for the past 9 months with one missed test. And with only a couple month to do what it had taken me almost a year to do, the Court ordered me to do it again.  My life has been hell ever since, even more now that I am not allowed to see my son anymore, and I don’t know if they have moved him again with another strange family.

Please do not excuse my pleading for help as just a request from another worthless drug addict that can’t take care of her kid, because that is what the record seem to look like and what society pictures when I try to explain the situation.

I now realize that they were building my character in the record from day one and the lies they told to make me look crazy to restrict visitation, so they could make visiting miserable only under their supervision.

My son is everything in my life, and they can’t deny that. Every visit up until the end was explained as excellent, and well planned for. In that alone should of been evidence enough to grant the “parent and child bond that would be detrimental to terminate”… but nobody seems to care about anything besides the money.

The department did not make “reasonable efforts” There is nothing reasonable about this whole thing. The department and adoption company “PennyLane” have put us both through hell, and set up obstacles to sabotage reunification. If you don’t believe me, just ask any parent that has been forced to prove themselves to the California juvenile court.

There was no evidence that this mother physically or emotionally abused her children, or neglected the children as to feeding, clothing and maintaining his health. Additionally, when initially contacted, and before intervention by the CPS, mother owned her own home, was not on public assistance, and the child was up to date on all immunizations, and thriving in the home.

I don’t know what evidence I had to show to these people to prove that. It would of been obvious to anyone that actually took the time to personally assess the situation, but it seems that this case is nothing but a file to be pushed on to the next guy, and just another number.

This is my sons life, and my life, and our family has been torn apart by this crazy system. It just almost seems unreal.

Can you please help me in the appropriate steps that I need to take for justice to be served? If you don’t believe that you can help please pass my information to anyone that might be able to help me.  I’ve got another promised date to enter another rehab in a couple weeks. Not sure if it will  do any good, since my rights have already been terminated.

I need the best appeal lawyer I can find as soon as possible that will not take no for an answer and he needs to have heart. I also need someone to personally explain all this procedure. Also, I wish for anyone to go over this case and find errors that are appealable. I also need a miracle.

Thank You for your time and concern, and God bless.

Respectfully,
Paula, California

Believe in your Miracle

November 14, 2011 in jail, justice

When the unthinkable happens, we have a tendency to wonder… “Why me, Lord?”

It is during these turbulent periods in our lives that we learn and grow, if we are paying attention. This is similar to how a marathon runner or a weight lifter must exercise daily, to build up strength and endurance, if they intend to come out a winner.

Just because you can’t see your way out of a situation, does not mean that you are in an impossible place, it simply means the solution hasn’t presented itself yet. If you continue to work toward your goals, pray and have an ounce of faith. We should all be inspired by Jackie Carpenter…

How Faith Made A Mother Take Her Bible Into Court Knowing She Would Rather Offend A Juror Than Offend God

The Bridge: Between Cell Block A and a Miracle in Psalm 91Ellaville, GA, November 14,  2011 – Jackie Carpenter describes herself as a businesswoman, volunteer and reluctant author because she never intended to become an author, nor expected to be a resource for people facing a crisis in life. But she took the worst crisis in her life and the miracle that stemmed from it and wove it into a dramatic and heart-wrenching story.

The Bridge: Between Cell Block A and a Miracle is Psalm 91 (Xulon Publishing) is the powerful and compelling story of the terrifying journey that began the morning she received a frantic call from her son’s wife telling her that he had been arrested for felony murder, and it did not end until the jury returned its verdict ten months later.

Jackie Carpenter was living the true American Dream. She had good health, a beautiful home, married to a wonderful man, and had two married sons and four grandchildren – she honestly believed life could not get any better.

It was then she discovered it could get a whole lot worse. The Bridge tells the frightening chain of events that occurred after her son, the victim of copper thefts on his construction job sites, was guarding his property on the advice of a deputy. In the early morning hours of June 27, 2008, he attempted a citizen’s arrest when his gun accidentally fired, wounding one of the alleged thieves. Hours later when the man died from the wound, the deputy recanted his advice and her son Jason was taken into custody and charged with felony murder and four other serious charges.

At a time when Jackie Carpenter’s world was turned upside down she did the one thing she knew how to do – she turned to God. It took ten long months, many visits to her prayer closet, and the help of Psalm 91 for the author to build her faith to the point where she believed God would perform a miracle. And on April 16, 2009 at 3:40 p.m. she got her miracle when her son went from being on Cell Block A (where murderers are housed) to freedom after the jury returned a verdict of “Not Guilty!”

While The Bridge is the story of her walk of faith, the sequel Georgia Justice: A Story To Faith, acts as a guide for building faith in the face of tragedy or grief and tells how a tormented mother made the critical decision that allowed God to deliver such a miracle. It is a powerful testimony to the spiritual strength this small-town girl found in the promises of Psalm 91 and how she built her faith up during the tormenting ten months leading up to her son’s trial.

When this Georgia mother made the fateful decision to carry her Bible into the courtroom, against the wishes of her son’s attorney who felt a non-believing juror could be offended and hold it against her son, she made a huge leap of faith by deciding she would rather offend a juror than offend God – she got her miracle in the form of an acquittal!

Jackie Carpenter has made numerous appearances on television, in radio interviews and in newspaper articles and her books will be produced into a motion picture that will be in theaters the fall of 2012. For more information on this author and her miraculous story of faith, hope and love that brought her to victory, please visit her website at: www.bridgetoamiracle.com.

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What the critics say?

Bob Etier, Blog Critics:  “The Bridge is a book for people who believe in miracles.  It is also for people who need to be reminded that during troubling times, God is not the guilty party. Even devout Christians sometimes need to be reminded that their strength is in the Lord, and The Bridge serves as that reminder.”

Emory Daniels, Book Reviews: “The Bridge clearly demonstrates that God still performs miracles in the 21st century.  A key point is that when bad things happen it’s better to trust God than to blame Him. The story also reveals that it is certainly possible to survive a tragedy without losing faith.”

Monique, Book Pleasures: “This is a good, inspirational story…you can absolutely see the conviction in her (Jackie’s) heart that God’s love and grace alone brought her through this difficult time…she simply wants to share her miracle with you.”

 

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Demand Return of Parental Rights

June 17, 2011 in Child Protective Services, corruption, justice, parental rights

Father’s Day is this Sunday. We know that Mother’s Day is really rough for those with children living in foster homes. Let’s not forget that Father’s grief the loss of their children too. Please join me in praying that this father finds answers and is reunified with his child.

Choosing The Right Key

Choosing The Right

I am a good father of 6-year-old twins (a boy & a girl) and stepfather of an 8-year-old girl. I want to withdraw my consent to services and even my submission in our juvenile dependency case. Between the kids mother and myself we were both coerced, threatened, and tricked into assigning our signatures to consent forms, submissions and services. Our six month review hearing approaches.

I am convinced that fraud, deceit, lies, deception, and unfair law practices are at work and I know that I am be led to slaughter by the system. How do I withdraw? I know I wont participate any longer, knowing that service is submission. What steps can I take on August 6th, to insist that the courts return my parental rights?

M.D.,
Father-at-large

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