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Help Needed in Colorado

May 10, 2013 in Colorado, corruption, DSS

This mother has written me asking for advice, I have given it.  What is so frustrating is that people still go along with the program, until they don’t know what else to do, then they contact us.

This family did everything wrong… Do you have any advice for them now?

A 9 year old and 3 year old in Colorado using ...

On November 6, 2012, DSS took all four of my children because my 8 year old went to school and told them I gave him a black eye. Officers took my children to foster care based on the allegations of my son.

DSS sends my kids home, 20 days later after we agreed to do a parenting plan. It has been 6 months and my husband and I have complied with everything they asked, psych evaluations, individual therapy, in home counseling and CASA…

(Throughout all this we find out that our son who is 8 has Asperger’s syndrome based on a psych evaluation that DSS had done proved that my son cannot tell difference between fantasy and reality and that he doesn’t know the difference between truth and lie.)

We went into court 2 weeks ago and the judge decided that the case will be closed June 24 2013, as soon as we got resources for our son’s disability.

Last Wednesday my 8 year old goes to school with deep scratches on his neck and says his dad hit him with a baby hanger. Our worker decided without investigating that all our children were in immediate danger and had to be removed from our home. Now our case worker says if we agree to another case plan they will let the kids come home.

Me and my husband now want to fight this so our children are not ripped out of our home again. We refuse to go through any more of this. Did I mention that in one medical record that that my 8 year old admits to lying about abuse to get what he wants. Even our own case worker admits that he has lied to him about abuse.

What if anything can you do to help us? We know we have to get our side of the story on record and that by signing the agreement we are pleading guilty to abuse. Help us please!

D.V. in Pueblo, Colorado

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Is Our Society Prejudiced Against Children?

January 10, 2012 in child abuse, family rights, parent-child relationship

We have to begin to address the root of the problem. I think a lot of these so called new diagnoses are nothing more than environmental responses. Our children are being experimented on. From the GMO (genetically modified organisms) cereal in their breakfast bowl to the innocent looking vaccines they tell us are good for us.

Is Our Society Prejudiced Against Children?

Young-Breuhl, an analyst, political theorist and biographer, calls attention to the way human rights of children are threatened. Childism is defined as “a prejudice against children on the ground of a belief that they are property and can (or even should) be controlled, enslaved, or removed to serve adult needs.”

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Elena’s story offers a microscopic view of the macroscopic phenomenon Young-Breuhl so brilliantly articulates. Following the history of the field of Child Abuse and Neglect (CAN) studies, she finds that “from the start [this field] took attention away from abusers and their motivations; and it implied that children could be helped without their abusers being helped.”

Furthermore, she describes Child Protective Services (CPS) as a “rescue service-a child saving service-not a family service supporting child development generally and helping parents…” Rather than setting up a system of treatment, CPS became “an investigative service…a situation in which bad families suspected of making their children bad will be invaded and infiltrated.”

Young- Breuhl has empathy for both parent and child, arguing that failure to support families is a manifestation of childism.

Can the children all be helped? No, but we must do the right thing. Frankly, some parents should just walk away. They should never have become parents in the first place. But the reality is that children are being removed from perfectly good parents, parents who are struggling either emotionally, physically, or financially.

These are issues best served locally. They cannot be addresses federally because each area will have its own issues and they will vary from community to community. I am pleased that someone else recognized these inherent problems with a top-down, one-size-fits-all approach.

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Are you a sociopath?

October 18, 2011 in caseworker, Child Protective Services, DSS, parent-child relationship, parental rights

I would like to publicly thank Carolynn Middleton for posting her letter: Caseworkers- Are You Contented? We’ve all asked ourselves the same questions, in a nutshell we want to know what kind of animal could be so cruel to another human being?

I would like to print this letter off and get it into the hands of every caseworker in America.

Caseworkers- Are You Contented?

We all like to think of ourselves as righteous, noble, honorable, and ethical, with dignity and self respect. But, in cases where there is no abuse/neglect, or where indications of abuse/neglect are quite questionable, how do you sleep at night. How do you live with yourself knowing that, earlier in the day you tore a family apart? How do you look at yourself in the mirror in the morning, knowing that you apprehended a child(ren), taken them away from their parents, and left a family devastated, and maybe you really didn’t need to?

Think for a moment…

Whether you are a religious person or not, this is a pretty good Personal Rule, “Do onto others as you would have done onto you.” With that in mind, how would you feel if someone came along and hurt your children, your spouse, and your family, without good reason, even though they may have thought they had good reason?

In many or our planet’s animal species, the mother will die trying to protect her offspring from would-be predators. I know there are cases where children need to be taken into custody to protect them. 

But what about all of those children who’ve been apprehended who don’t need to be?

  • Are you a narcissist?
  • Are you a sociopath?
  • Do you take delight in causing someone else pain?
  • Or is it that you just don’t think about it?
  • Or is it that you really don’t care?

I know many people who got into the field of social work because they wanted to help others. That is a very noble sentiment. But how does unnecessarily devastating a family and tearing it apart, help? How does dragging parents into court and through a long and drawn out bureaucratic process help? Certainly if a child is being seriously abused/neglected- then they need your help, and the important thing here is to try and help them.

But many foster homes are either inadequate or run by people I wouldn’t trust to care for my pet rock. [Continue Reading…]

Whether you mail it, email it or hand deliver it, doesn’t matter. What matters is getting CPS Agents to examine their own motives. I’ve personally spoken with caseworkers, investigators, even supervisors who staff child protective service offices and many of them are feeling guilty about the work they do. Any worker worth their salt knows she is causing more harm than good.

Perhaps, we can give them a little shove in the right direction. This is not about simply collecting a paycheck. We are dealing with the lives of millions of children. The entire makeup of the country is being changed – hardly a single life has been left untouched by the vultures at the Department of Health and Human Services. The family unit is being destroyed and our nation will never be the same.

We should refer to this generation as The Lost Generation. You don’t have to be a statistician to realize the significance of the numbers. I am involved with family rights issues on a daily basis. I consider myself very informed on the issues and these numbers even freaked me out. I’m devastated by these numbers. I’ll let you draw your own conclusions.

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Kinship care vs Fostering

October 15, 2011 in California, DCF, DCFS, DHS, family rights, foster parents, grandparents rights, Idaho, Michigan

I’ve had several people in the past few weeks tell me that they wish to care for their own family members – as opposed to having them placed in foster care, with strangers. These grandparents, aunts, uncles and other close relatives are being told they must become certified foster parents.

Advocating for Children in Foster and Kinship Care: A Guide to Getting the Best out of the System for Caregivers and Practitioners Federal law requires that state social workers attempt to find suitable placement for “at risk” children, who are removed from their home. In many cases the state is merely paying lip-service and doesn’t actually follow the law.

This is a violation of federal law and the state can lose their federal funding. You should always report such violations of federal law to your U.S. House Representation. Call and request an investigation. You will need to provide them with a legal release form, along with the facts and any supporting documents.

Just today the Idaho Press-Tribune ran an interesting article:

In Idaho, more grandparents still in parental role

Many grandparents who take in grandchildren qualify for a $300 Temporary Assistance for Needy Families grant. The amount is the same regardless of the number of children in a family.

Grandparents also can become certified as foster parents, and take in their own grandchildren through the state system. That means more financial support. Monthly foster payments per child in Idaho range from $274 to $431 based on age; payments increase if children have special needs. Foster children get Medicaid cards and other benefits.

But many families don’t want to do that, Perry said. Some bristle at the idea of giving the state that much control over their families, even temporarily.

“They feel taking care of their own family is their responsibility,” he said.

Tracee Crawford, one of the leaders of the Grandparents as Parents of the Treasure Valley, a Southwest Idaho support group, said grandparents sometimes hesitate to ask for help of any kind, afraid that if they make trouble, their children will take the grandchildren away.

Becoming a legal guardian, another option, comes with its own complications, including steep legal costs, said Crawford.

She became part of a kin-care family when her daughter had cancer. Crawford cared for her and her grandson until her daughter died. She’s been in long legal battles with her former son-in-law over visitation rights with her grandson.

“To become a legal guardian, you have to prove a parent — your child — is unfit,” she said. “That’s really hard to do” — factually and emotionally.

Each state is different, which makes it difficult to know exactly what the law is your own state.

In my own case, I was shocked to find that while I was getting monthly kinship care checks from the State of California of ($357 – back in 2002), at the same time, another relative had a sibling to my grandson. The only difference was that they lived in Michigan; her checks from the State of Michigan – $123.  I felt bad for her because this child has autism and even in Michigan $123. doesn’t go far.

Be sure you check into your own states law, make a few phone calls, talk to an attorney and check out a few state websites before you sign anything. The choice you make could make a big difference in just how much help you are entitled to.

On that note, let me just remind you that if you accept money from the state, you accept all the strings that go along with that money, but it’s better than starving — maybe. We didn’t like giving up so much of our privacy, so we stopped received state funds many years ago – as soon as we could stand on our own two feet.

Knowledge is Power! Exercise your brain.

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Threats, Lies and Trickery

June 21, 2011 in Child Protective Services, Washington

I received this email recently from a Washington state mother that I just had to share with you. This isn’t just an article that someone wrote off the top of their head. This is a parent, who battled and won her fight against the giant CPS machine that gobbles up families for breakfast. Her courage and fortitude should be an inspiration to us all.

Annette,

Children Walking on Trail

Threats, Lies and Trickery

I hate reliving that nightmare and was threatened by my own joke-of-a-lawyer that IF I ever got my child back (I never let myself doubt for a second that I wouldn’t) that I should leave the state and keep a low profile. Being the defiant one that I am, I laughed and said there was no way that I’d run and hide from anyone.

Instead, I got angry and decided I’d be even more vocal and obvious, even after I got my child home. I took her (and still do on occasion) to court hearings for other families, (this really upsets CPS workers because I am shoving it in all their faces — all their lies and bullying, right back on them and they know it). I took part in rally protests outside our courthouses, at the juvenile court and CPS buildings — my daughter even held up signs with us.

CPS preys on the weak and helpless – they rely on being able to terrorize and manipulate and coerce you, so they select their victims carefully. They have a little checklist that they go through when they get any kind of referrals etc., and if the parents have a steady income they are usually rejected right off the bat!

If parents have a strong family support system in place, they again are normally rejected. This ‘checklist’ has nothing to do with the child’s safety at all, it is about MONEY.

I have been taking college classes that include child abuse and neglect (they can’t flunk you for stating your opinion). I am sure the teacher was glad to get me out of that class. I was shocked to learn some of the things I did.  If you have the time and the ability, take the class at your local college, just to check it out.  Believe me, you will learn how they can pressure schools and medical staff, etc. to make reports for things that are just total bull, and why these people go along with it.

You will learn how to help the people you are advocating for as well, if you can’t, try to get someone in your group to attend. It really is worth it to learn that stuff. You don’t have to let them know a damn thing, it is a college class that is offered to anyone for any reason.

I wish I could make promises to parents that if they did this and this, then things would be all good in the end. I can’t.

I fought damn hard but I know that without faith and prayer my fight would have been lost. I refused to bow down to them. I researched and learned everything possible. I didn’t give up, even when I felt hopeless, (that’s when I pulled out my daughters pictures and focused on WHY I couldn’t just give up).

I glued her picture to all my case folders and had her face before me at all times. I put it in front of the caseworkers, attorneys and legislators too. It made her REAL to them. I never let them think of her as a court document number (that made many very uncomfortable, which is a GOOD thing).

Another very important thing is that I DID NOT give them any bullets to shoot me with. I stayed away from places that could be used against me – bars, areas known for drugs or partying etc… I stayed away from anything that could in anyway be turned against me later. They made up many lies, since they could not find anything to use against me, but I documented everything and had many witnesses to back me up, so in the end they only screwed themselves by doing that.

You CAN WIN!

It may take time and many parents will sign documents due to their belief in CPS’s lies, promising to help get their kids back quicker.

Never sign anything without your attorney
explaining the possible outcome  — Never Ever!

I don’t care what CPS says, they have ulterior motives on everything and UNLESS the judge tells you or your attorney says you HAVE to, don’t do it. CPS will try to say that you are required to, or you are out of compliance — that is one of their lies they use to force parents to sign away their rights. Don’t sign anything, not for any reason.

This is SOOOO IMPORTANT.  SO SO SO SO IMPORTANT. Once you put your signature to paper you give up rights and I promise this – those rights aren’t given back. CPS will push hard and the harder they push the more you can bet that they are trying to pull some underhanded B.S. on you that will come back to bite you later. That is a red flag for anyone, if they are pushing hard and if they get forceful or start making promises then you know that they are up to something bad.

In addition, parents who believe that if they just agree and go along then CPS will help them are sadly in denial and will be in much pain later. Moreover, there is NO RECOURSE after the fact. Unless you file complaints when the problem is happening or right afterwards, then you will be seen as an angry parent that is just looking to blame someone else for your own screw up.

This takes courage for sure, but believe me, waiting until you absolutely can’t deny the lies any more is too late.

I don’t care how nice the worker seems or how sincere and helpful she/he might portray themselves to be, it is an act to get you to willingly let yourself be screwed. No better then how the Jews were willingly herded to the camps – at least that is how many compare the two.

DO NOT BE AN EASY VICTIM!

Don’t be a out-of-control maniac either because that is just as harmful.  Learn to be in control of your emotions, don’t allow them to know your afraid or worried or anything… even if you must pretend, always come off with an attitude of strength and determination.

ALSO DO NOT SAY ANYTHING THAT THEY CAN PROVE TO BE A LIE!

If you don’t know how to respond to something then DON’T RESPOND. I went to a required parenting class and listened to some parents just unburden themselves, thinking they were safe to vent in that group. I discovered quite by accident that one of the “parents” was actually a CPS worker, posing as a parent, to spy on another workers clients and reporting back everything she heard! I KNOW THIS FOR A FACT.

That ‘fake parent’ also attends AA and other twelve step “anonymous” meetings for the same reason. They are corrupt as hell and unfortunately naive parents that don’t know their rights become their best victims.

It makes me sick to my stomach what they do, that is why I refused to run and hide. I know that my ‘streak of defiance’ (since a child and my survival mechanism growing up) helped me but some parents don’t have that in them, and so for them I allow my case to be used at Senate hearing still and why I am okay with you posting my stuff (minus personal identifying words). I hope others can grow and learn. I am sorry that I can’t do more. I had to stop testifying myself because it was so painful to keep reliving things over and over and never allowing myself to heal, which hurt my daughter too.

My prayers are with those parents fighting for their children and those, like you, who help them. I know the pain they are going through. I hope they find the strength to fight. It is a fight for sure, especially if your children are “highly adoptable” because they bring in more money.

Sick huh? I mean, they gotta have them fancy phones ya know!! It’s much more important then actually helping a family in crisis don’t ya think? What a crock of crap!

CPS is an organized criminal enterprise, kidnapping children for human trafficking purposes with government funding! The great thing is most of them are so arrogant that they really do screw up on a daily basis and their lies can be brought to light, if people would document and question everything more.

They love to interrogate you, but boy watch them squirm when you turn the tables around. I think one of the funniest things is how they always want to force background checks on any and everyone a parent might have in their lives ‘for the safety of the child’.

Well, I turned that around on them and said “OK, then I want a background check done on you, and you and you,” and pointed to everyone in the room (which was about 12 various officials, of some sort or another). WOW, did they get their backs up fast. Lets just say that I never once had to have ANYONE I knew get a background check done! Background checks are an illegal attempt to force others to allow them into their lives in search for more victims, and I wasn’t willing to be the avenue to let it happen.

I pray that you are able to reach out and help others. You should check out Washington Families United if you haven’t already. They have really made some huge impacts at the state level that have made such incredible differences for families in our state. I think that the stronger our networks are, the more powerful our fight against CPS abuse/corruption on every level.

Oh, another hilarious tactic that has a huge impact on CPS agents, is to get some dirt on at least one CPS worker (we had a Private Investigator do work on the worse workers we knew – three to start with) and then send a copy of the information to everyone of the CPS email addresses you have, at the same time throughout the state!  OMG does it cause up some chaos. The info doesn’t have to be more then a poor driving record and a bad credit report, but it still gets them upset – those who didn’t get investigated now are worried they are next!  It is really quite comical.

I know that each time I found even the littlest information that brought the “BIG SCARY MONSTER” back down to realistic size, my fears became silly and I felt stronger and more capable then ever.

I hate that it took a year to get my girl home and that she suffered during that time, but I know that my case made a difference for many families and that is something I am very thankful for. Parents need to be strong, to believe in themselves (and their ability to learn and grow no matter what), and to know that their child needs THEM – not some stranger but THEM AND ONLY THEM.

I have heard some parents say that their kids were better off without them; I think that is not true at all, and would only believe that if the parent were abusive and failed to protect the child from abuse.

I struggled to believe in myself as a parent, and found tons of things that could be seen, as reasons I was not the best mom. I hate to cook, I suck at it in fact and many times, I thought that it was reason enough to prove my failure as a mom.

However, my grown sons reminded me that even though I didn’t cook, I NEVER let them go hungry or eat crap. I managed to be sure they ate good and healthy for the most part. Stuff like that can really be damaging to parents who already feel alone, worthless, and powerless. It is so important NOT to give into those lies. Children are never better off with someone else (unless they were given up for adoption at birth and never knew their natural parents anyway). They need their family, their real family.

Did you know that children are 9 times more likely to be abused in foster care than with biological family? That scares the crap out of me. My daughter never once had known abuse or neglect until she was placed in foster care and I HATE them for that. I was denied the ability to comfort and protect my child, by the same people who claimed to have taken her for her own protection! Yeah right!

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