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Sex Offender Registry

July 9, 2014 in California, due process, false accusation, justice

If you are like most parents, when you consider moving to a new location, one of the first things you check is the Sex Offender Registry. What you don’t know is that more often than not, people end up on the Sex Offender Registry for petty or stupid reasons.  The list is practically useless.

Sign, Wapello, Iowa. This was put up in reacti...

Sign, Wapello, Iowa. This was put up in reaction to Megan’s Law. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Some states, like California requires all sex offenders to register for the rest of the lives.  [Read about it here.]

Back in 1947 California became the first state to require sex offenders to register with law enforcement after being released from prison. Now there are just under 100,000 sex offenders on the state’s lifetime registry — most of whom can be found on the state’s public website. But here’s what a lot of people don’t know: California is one of just four states requiring all sex offenders to register for the rest of their lives.

The state board that oversees the registry believes it’s time to overhaul the registry to make it smaller and easier to spot those at high risk of re-offending. [Read more…]

I am a parent, I know how important it is to protect our children from predators but the way the list is now, it isn’t protecting anyone.  It splits up families.

One family in particular comes to mind.  The guy was 19, his girl-friend was 16.  He was prosecuted for statutory rape, put on the list and unable to spend time with his baby once it came.  I felt so badly for him.  His crime?  Falling in love with someone 3 years younger than him.  He’s still paying.

There are plenty more instances where the lives of innocent people are being ruined because of laws that make no sense at all.  Why can’t they write laws that protect people.  Innocent children are being affected by these asinine laws.  It’s time they were changed.  Learn more about the problem. Watch this video.

 

Father’s Day Special

June 18, 2014 in California, Child Protective Services, corruption, CPS

We finally have the system automated! So, in honor of Father’s Day, use the coupon code “dadsday” and Save $10! Hurry! This special is only good for two days.

Don Lyons book

“Kids For Money – Warning: The Truth About Child Protective Services and the Staggering Impact on Society

Kids for money

Kids for money

After my children were taken from me by CPS in Sacramento County, my two daughters and I became victims of “the system.” As a single parent of over twelve years I had no resources to hire a good lawyer and like most people I didn’t know how to tell a good lawyer from a bad one until it was too late. I went through two court appointed attorneys before becoming my own lawyer and fought for the return of my two daughters for 14 and 21 months respectively.

I was never alone. During the toughest fight of my life, my faith in GOD drove me to do the right thing. The Lord put people in my life to help me learn what I needed to do and teach me how to represent myself. I read thousands of pages of law to prepare but found that it was overwhelming. The more I learned, the more I realized that I did not know.

When the juvenile court case came to an end, the last report said that I had benefited from their services so that the second daughter could now return home safely. What the report did not say was that I had finished a parenting class, an anger management class, and a counseling referral in the first six months but had received no other services for fifteen months. There was no mention of how the fifteen months of separation with no services had benefited my family. Merely saying that I benefited from their “help” was the justification for returning the girls.

“Kids For Money – Warning: The Truth About Child Protective Services and the Staggering Impact on Society

Stand up and Fight!

June 10, 2013 in California, Child Protective Services, CPS, domestic violence, family court, family rights, jail, justice, Nevada

CPS in California have been accused of destroying families.

The audit plan passed the committee unanimously, and now the California state auditor, who has subpoena powers, will investigate CPS.

Assemblyman Tim Donnelly, who sponsored the bill and organized parents to speak about their experiences, said it’s a good step forward. [Read more]

Family Court

Family Court

Not only that, but now the State of Nevada is investigating the family court. You can watch the video here.

If you have an ongoing case with CPS or the family courts, please take the time to send a letter to your legislators and the governor of your state.  Make it simple and clearly lay out the facts of your case. Don’t go into details – they will get them later.  Have a friend read your letter before you send it.

If you don’t have a case.  Please write your legislators and ask them to investigate.  We all know that what happens in family court is against the law, so they exist only on the whim of the state. Show your representatives that this is something close to you and important to their constituents and they will get involved.

Finally, please watch the video and if that really makes you angry that she would sit there and do nothing, tell her about it! This woman should know better.

 

Patricia Doninger
Domestic Violence Commissioner
Eighth Judicial District Court
Family Division Administration

Family Courts & Services Center
601 N. Pecos Rd., 3rd Fl
Las Vegas NV, 89101 USA

Phone: (702) 455-2434
Fax: (702) 455-5551

Judicial Assistant: Mary Williams, Legal Secretary

Be sure to send a copy of the letter to your legislators if you live in Nevada.

You can use this service to find out who your legislators are.

This campaign will run until the 4th of July!  Our families deserve independence!

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CA to audit CPS…

June 6, 2013 in California, Child Protective Services, corruption, DCFS, Kidjacked

I was so happy to learn that California lawmakers have voted to order a long overdue audit of Child Protective Services.

We have a baby...for awhile at least

We have a baby…for awhile at least!

Child Protective Services is supposed to help children and families overcome stressful events in life, and stay together and healthy. But there are families who say that CPS does anything but that.

Family members testified before the legislative hearing that CPS actually has worked to destroy, not restore, their families. And others suggested there was a profit motive in the situation.

Parents around the state have had to deal with horrendous actions of CPS, like the Donnelly family.

One officer can be heard saying, “I’m going to grab your baby, and don’t resist, and don’t fight me, okay?”

Donnelly said he felt compelled to act, as a father, and as a legislator.

“The footage is frightening for parents everywhere to think that your children might be confiscated should CPS disagree with your parental instincts. It’s chilling to think that a government agency can take your child right back to a hospital that you as a parent have lost faith in, but it happened.”

Donnelly began demanding answers. In a letter, he asked Sheri Heller, director of California’s Department of Health and Human Services, which oversees CPS, to account for how this was allowed to happen.

Heller responded that she couldn’t share that information with an assemblyman, unless a judge ordered her to do so. Donnelly responded, “It has become clear that CPS answers to no one, but this abuse of power cannot be tolerated.”

You can read the rest of the story at: Child ‘Protectors’ Accused of Destroying Families

Was it just a coincidence that I received a letter only yesterday demanding someone investigate the Los Angeles County Department of Children and Family Services?

Department of Children and Family Services, Los Angeles County is "Shawshank"

Department of Children and Family Services, Los Angeles County is “Shawshank”

I am glad they are finally getting the investigation they need, maybe we’ll actually get some justice.

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Oregon DHS & Civil Rights

January 10, 2013 in California, corruption, DHS, Oklahoma, Oregon

Oregon Department of Human Services

Oregon Department of Human Services

I feel our civil rights have been violated by Oregon Department of Human Services (DHS), especially by the West 11th and Willamette Street Offices in Eugene, OR.

I’ve written the Governor, the Congressmen, County Officials for Lane County as well about this. DHS is making our lives hell and we’ve done nothing wrong. They are verbally assaulting us, yelling at us on the phone and in email and we’ve had enough. We are good, loving parents, and just want our kids back home where they belong. Three of our kids are special needs children, one being autistic spectrum disorder, level 50 of 60, and DHS especially Kasey Gaylon and Jordan Meyer are set on making themselves look like they are powerful and us looking like we are criminals.

I came into my fiance’s family in August of 2011. Welcomed with open arms and loving kids who adored me and my own two adult kids. Everything was going great, we decided to live together and combine two families in one. A fairy tale with hopes and aspirations.

Until that fateful day that the wicked witch of the Northwest, aka their 2nd cousin Sabrina Kinser, who calls herself their aunt started her psychophrenic rampage on our family. This woman by the way is an “escort” (prostitute), drug user, has had her own child stripped from her. You can Google her, or find her paid advertisements on backpage.com. She is now pregnant again and is trying to take our 13 year old daughter to turn her into a “mini her”, and has repeatedly asked us to adopt her from us. A little over a year ago in November, she asked for us to allow the kids to come to her house for Thanksgiving. Against our better judgment, but because of their mother who we wanted them to share the holiday with her family and get closer together, we allowed them to go spend the night with their mom’s side of the family.

Thanksgiving Holiday

BAD MISTAKE letting the kids go see their other side of the family for the Thanksgiving holiday. The “escort” went psychotic on the kids and her own family. Threw everyone out of the house, threatened to physically beat our kids and her family members, locked our 13 year old daughter in a room, told her to lie to police about things, basically kidnapped the kids. We demanded she return them home, she refused. She threatened to come kill us in our own home. We called the Lane County Sheriff’s office who would NOT assist. DHS allowed our children to stay in the home with her until they were placed with my fiance’s mother temporarily. Her own family was ringing our phone off the hook, telling us all about the rampage.

This family member wants our 13 year old daughter to start selling herself for money, telling her it’s okay, that she will make a lot of money and wouldn’t have to worry about her parents supporting her anymore. Shortly after the thanksgiving incident she had our 13 year old daughter show up at our 22 year old daughter’s home in high stripper heels, a mini skirt that barely covered, and a tube top in the middle of winter. We do NOT allow this as parents. But DHS feels it’s okay for our daughter to dress how she wants, that it’s an expression of adulthood. I’m sorry but she’s too young. That’s why we had to put her in Willamette Leadership Academy, due to grades, drug use, and peer problems in school. We made the right choices as parents, but DHS seems to disagree with us.

Not My Children: A True Story of CPS and Government Funded Kidnappers

The next morning after no sleep, we were awoken to four Lane County Sheriffs banging on our door and one case worker, Jordan Meyer . Jordan Meyer without a signed HIPAA form, accused me of things that I never did in front of my fiance. They did a search of our home without a warrant or permission by either of us, treated us like criminals and then informed us of our rights.

Charged with Molestation!

My ex-husband was arrested in Las Vegas NV and is currently serving time in Lovelock Correctional Facility in Lovelock, NV for child molestation etc. I had went to court in California at the time and gave my parents legal guardianship of my then 9 and 10 year old kids to get them away from the man, over 12 years ago! Jordan Meyer told my fiance’ without my consent or accurate information that I was the child molester, that I was a danger to kids, and that he should remove me from our home immediately.

I was a victim of my ex and so was my kids. He had tried to kill us and molested my kids from ages 1 and 2 to 9 and 10, molested his other daughter who was mentally disabled, and 8 other kids.

Why would a DHS official…

  1. Assume that without proper information.
  2. Disclose information without proper Privacy Act permissions.
  3. Threaten me and tell me to shut up when I was trying to explain that he was mistaken, even told him to look up NDOC Inmate # 1007007 to verify. He wouldn’t even allow me to get my laptop to prove it. Had an officer push me back down by my shoulders onto the couch and threatened arrest. I have spina bifoda occulta with fibromyalgia and beginning stages of arthritis from my disability. I may not look disabled but I am.

I tried telling them they were mistaken that we had called against the ex family member. They wouldn’t listen. They told us our kids weren’t coming home and that we had to be to court first thing Monday morning.

They sent the kids to my fiance’s mother’s house (I’ll get to that later about her- another horror story), and told us we could not contact or see our kids. What the hell? We were good, loving parents who kept the house clean and them well cleaned and fed and loved.

We went to court on that fateful Monday, and I was informed that my son and myself had to leave our own home, because DHS didn’t believe the CA court system that my ex was the criminal not me. I didn’t get to spend Christmas with my new family and was banned from my own home for no reason.

Allegations Founded!

Finally on January 30, 2012 right before court, they dismissed the case and I was allowed to return home to my loving fiance’ and four loving soon to be step kids. We were told by DHS they had made a mistake in regards to me, and that we had a good loving home. DHS kept their allegations FOUNDED even though the courts did not agree, and used it to open another case against us later. We were like YES its finally over. NOPE WRONG!

In May of 2012, my future mother in law coerced our 13 year old to report to DHS because she was upset that we had taken her iPod and Internet rights due to grades and bad choices she was making in her life.

West 11th DHS called us at home and informed us that they had our 13 year old and was NOT returning her home. All over a iPod and INTERNET?! For no reason they removed me from my own home again. I did nothing wrong!

My fiance’s mother had become a problem every since she moved in. She was talking to Sabrina Kinser behind our backs and making secret plans to take Jessica back to Oklahoma, and leave the boys here. We found out after the fact about all this from the other side of the family. We had exiled Sabrina from the family back in November.

We found out my fiance’s mother was behind what Jessica had told DHS, along with the cousin who had started all this turmoil in our lives. At the time, we did not know this and had asked his if things got bad with DHS, would she assume legal guardianship over the kids until this was settled. She said no, she would take Jessica and only Jessica, and let DHS take all the boys.

She was planning on kidnapping our 13 year old and going back to Oklahoma without our knowledge. When she decided to “throw our boys under the bus” but not our daughter, we told her she needed to find another place to live.

We had went to the Function for Junction that day with the boys, since our daughter was still not returned home, two days before our next court hearing, but she had wanted to stay home. We came home to a dark empty house and her gone. She went back to Oklahoma, sold her grand-kids out and abandoned them in a time of need. We had found a suitcase left behind in haste with our daughter’s clothes packed up in it but not the boys.

HIPAA Privacy Act Law

Against HIPAA Privacy Act Law, DHS worker Kasey Gaylon is allowing our kids to have contact with the escort cousin and the grandma. We never signed any paperwork allowing such contact. This cousin of the children has been seen screaming extreme vulgarities to the 5 and 4 year old and stalking our house every day all day until we were forced to move where she couldn’t hopefully find us. They are both very inappropriate people for our children to communicate with, but against our complaints, as well as the CRB, Kasey continues allowing it.

Later, In August, DHS and Lane County Sheriff showed up at our house again, arrested my fiance’ and took our 3 boys. I can’t talk about all this because it’s an on going case, but they had no reason to take the boys from their home or arrest my fiance. He is now facing criminal charges because of guess who…Jordan Meyer and District Attorney Barbara Stoll.

I was rudely talked to by Jordan, harassed by him and rudely talked to by Lane County Sheriff officers, and forced to leave my own property yet again or face being arrested also. When Jordan Meyer insisted my fiance’ to be arrested they cuffed him in front of the kids, 2 being special needs children, dragged him to the cruiser and threw him into the car.

Fighting CPS Guilty Until Proven Innocent of Child Protective Services’ Charges

In the police report, it states that they were not going to take the boys and were not going to arrest my fiance but Jordan Meyer insisted on it. My daughter, her fiance’ and two other adult members showed up and asked to keep the boys, they were refused. When he was transported to the Lane County Jail, he requested something to keep him warm, they had put him into the “fishtank” and refused to give him his seizure medication which he needed, had slammed him up against a wall, yelled at him, and told him he was a (sorry to say) piece of shit who deserved nothing.

My fiance’ stated the back of his head bounced off the cement wall. He was then thrown back into the holding tank and was given a 24 hour old sandwich to eat after 12 hours. Was told to choke on it and die because he deserved to. Is this how law enforcement is supposed to act? My fiance’ had a seizure in the holding cell and no one medically assisted him, even yelled at me on the phone when I called to tell them he needed to take Keppra 4 times a day for epilepsy. He also has a heart condition because of the seizures.

Threatened with Arrest!

Officer Gill was one of the responding officers at our house and threatened to arrest me if I didn’t leave my property immediately. He even followed my daughter to my mom’s house to make sure I was home at her house. Is this normal of the law enforcement officials? They stated our boys, who are 4 and 5 were filthy dirty and starving. This is incorrect. They had been bathed the night before and had eaten a big dinner. They did not get breakfast yet, because of them getting out of the house, which by the way was up on stilts in Marcola. The cousin who caused all this drama has been heard bragging by local Marcolians for having gotten my fiance’ arrested and that she took the boys out of their bedroom window , and that we can never prove it.

When we tell the DHS that, they call us liars and that we are delusional, making things up. There was no possible way 2 small children could have opened that heavy window on their own all the way to the top beyond their reach.

The officers waited almost 2 hours before they even went to the door, which my fiance’ did answer, thinking the boys were still in their bedroom. They yelled at him, called him a piece of shit father, etc. I had called my fiance’ every half hour from my mom’s on the home phone the night before and he had checked on the boys up until 3:00 am. I was on the phone with him when he had checked on the boys, by listening to see if they were awake yet at 7:30 and 8:30 am.

He assumed they were still asleep, but didn’t want to open the door and wake them up. Deputy Gill had stated our 5 year old autistic son had stated his genitals hurt and he had changed his diaper (which he is in diapers due to tethered cord), but instead he had forced our 12 yr old son to change his brother. He also stated wording that is not in our 5 year old’s speech usage. Our son barely speaks and mainly uses sign language as a form of communication.

Foster Care

We had went to the Serbu Juvenile Courthouse, which at the time sided with DHS and stated the kids were to be placed into foster care. Where they are currently, since May and August of last year. We were unfairly given a fact finding hearing by Judge Henry. Any and all witnesses for us were sent away, per DHS, because they were going to release the children back home and close the case, but when they sent away our witnesses, they changed their mind quickly and ruled against us, but allowed their witnesses to testify.

Even allowed my fiance’s mother to call in after we had removed her from our home prior to all this, and DHS did not notify any parties in the case that she was calling or on the phone until the last second. It was not even entered into discovery for fact finding.

Since then, everything was going fine with visits at the DHS office on 18th and Willamette. DHS worker Kasey Gaylon was moving the visits to OCP on 11th and Pearl. She had even stated if we moved to a bigger visitation room that she would consider allowing me to see the kids who I have not seen since May.

Boy did she lie! She so far has threatened us, threatened to take visitation away from my fiance’ if he served our son for a court case in regards to all this, she forced our 12 year old to leave the court house saying she wouldn’t allow him to testify, she refused them visitation with me, double dosed them on vaccinations, won’t allow our autistic son to have the surgery he needs for a tethered cord, which keeps him from feeling his bowel movements, yelled at my fiance’ both on the phone and in emails, has told me I have to move my car to the back of the building (which sorry I’m not going to do). I don’t have to move my car, it’s a parking lot and I have a handicap placard.

Isn’t that discrimination? A violation of my rights? She stated that it’s not good for the kids to see me and makes the foster parents uneasy. WRONG. The kids make hand hearts, wave to me, blow me kisses and smile when they see me. DHS admitted they were wrong about me by supervisor Nicole Sims, what the hell is their problem?

We even have a signed agreement by DHS stating they would not ever bring up my California history, or use it against me ever again, yet Kasey Gaylon violated that agreement, so did Trina who was our previous worker. Trina was corrected by Nicole Sims in a meeting about not using that against me. Still to this day they are. The signed agreement also stated that any workers are to verify with us any reports prior to opening a case, and not allow contact with the other family, which includes the cousin.

They have violated this as well, telling us that the agreement is now null and void per Kasey. DHS also in that agreement agreed to work with me as a member of this family, and to date, has not done so. I get glared at by Kasey, she talks down to my fiance’ about me, and does not allow the kids to mention me. She has exiled me from the children’s lives. Mr. Singh , one of your DHS workers, had come to our home before all this started in May, and closed the previous case against us from November, stating our home was safe and we were good parents.

Kids Playing at Childrens Playground Ship

Kids Playing at Childrens Playground

DHS worker Kasey Gaylon has stated she wants to work on reunification with the family, we have done everything that she has requested. We had to force her to give the referrals to go to CAFA, she only gives my fiance’ one hour a week, for four kids, we drive an hour to the visit and an hour back, but she has made no efforts for reunification. No updated case plans, no meetings with us BOTH to make sure the kids have a good home where we live, etc. Normal protocol is to have the kids home usually within 6 months if not less.

Inappropriate Behavior!

Our 13 year old has been out of the home since May. The CRB (Citizen’s Review Board), has told DHS Worker Kasey Gaylon that they want her to basically get off her ass and start working on reunification. Since in foster care our 13 year old daughter shoplifted from Valley River Center, something she has never done before, subsequently getting her banned from the mall, Kasey had placed her in a home with 8 other foster kids, with a family who was only doing it for the money, per them.

She allowed our 13 year old daughter to engage in inappropriate relationships with both boys and girls, which we were not allowing her to date yet, because we felt she was too young still and was still making wrong choices in her life. Kasey Gaylon also allowed the foster parents to let our daughter stay out all hours of the night and dress in clothes we did not approve of, like jeans with a hole in the crotch, low cut tank tops, etc.

She also allowed the foster parents to let our 13 year old pour bleach on her head and ruin her hair. She refused to listen to us about the children’s Dr, who we had recently switched, and gave our children shots that they had just received, causing our two younger children to become sick from the vaccinations. She refused to give our 12 year old severe ADHD son the medication he needed in order to function in school and to get along with his peers. It took calling his psychiatrist and having him call her and demand it.

She is still allowing contact with the paternal grandmother and the maternal cousin, both are bad news. Since then, Kasey has moved our 13 year old to a home with a 16 year old boy who our daughter states likes her in that way. Kasey denies this at the CRB, and stated that there was nothing she could do, it was the biological son of the foster parents. At the CRB she stated our daughter was doing well in school, but was corrected by OCP stating this was false information, that in fact our daughter’s grades were poor. She has moved our two younger special needs children three times since August.

Our last visit, DHS worker Kasey Gaylon was at OCP. She had their visitation monitored and watched my fiance like a hawk, forcing the OCP lady to sit in the room with him and the kids which made it very awkward, she was within inches of him when he took our autistic son to the bathroom or when our 4 year old wanted a book.

She (visitation supervisor ordered by Kasey Gaylon) refused to allow him to walk the boys (who are special needs btw) to the foster parent’s car to put them in car seats, and yelled at our 12 year old and my fiance’ while I was watching in the car for him to LEAVE NOW and told our 12 year old he couldn’t hug his mom or say bye to me he had to get inside NOW.

They even refused to let the children see their family dog who comes with us to the visits. Force me to sit in a cold car, not allowed to go inside and use the facilities, and glare at me when they come out of the visit to place our kids into the foster parents cars. Kasey was retaliating against my fiance because she did not want him to serve our 12 yr old, but per our legal counsel, was ordered to allow it. Previous to moving to OCP for visitation, my fiance’ was allowed with the visitation supervisor, to escort the boys out to the cars and load them into their car seats.

DHS worker Kasey Gaylon was confronted by the kids’ mom about her license which DHS was supposed to be working on getting for her. DHS worker Kasey Gaylon then yelled at her and questioned their mom as to why she was in our car talking to me. Um let’s see…We are FRIENDS, We are their parents, WE work together as a team on the parenting, and it was 29 degrees outside? I was being nice giving her a warm place to sit, allowing her to smoke, and was going to give her a ride to where she needed to go after my fiance was done with his visit.

DHS Controls Families!

Oregon DHS needs to stop trying to control families and work on their policies. They are terrible. Quit accusing people of things that they didn’t do. Especially in regards to myself and my fiance’. Kids belong home with their parents, especially when the parents are loving, caring, don’t hit them, etc. I could understand it if it was a drug home, but we are good Christian people who DHS has a bulls-eye on both our backs. Enough is enough. We want our kids home and we want them home now. We were cleared by DHS official Mr. Singh in 2012 by him stating our home was safe, we were good parents and he closed the previous case.

Children Playing

Children Playing

Now we are still fighting to get our kids back home where they belong. I seriously think something needs to be done about the DHS system especially Jordan Meyer and Kasey Gaylon. We have filed grievances against them both to no avail and also against Kelly Burns who was caught in a lie on a recording device accidentally. Our civil rights are being violated, I’m being discriminated because of being told I cannot park in a handicap spot up front of the building, when I have a legal handicap placard, and my fiance’ is being treated like a criminal and bad father. He’s not. I’m being accused of domestic violence against the kids, which never happened, DHS supposedly founded it, and they are treating me like a leper when I’ve done nothing wrong.

Kasey is going on the basis of a phone call made by my fiance’s mother, who was attempting to get me out of our home, so she could continue to live there. There was no police report filed, the boys were asleep in their room, and she is the one who brought our 13 year old daughter out of her room, into a verbal argument, which we both calmly asked Jessica to go back to her room, because we did not want her to have to be subjected to us talking about my fiance’s mother and her lack of responsibility and we were discussing visitations with the kids mom. My fiance’s mom was interjecting in the conversation, yelling at my fiance’ and then called the police.

His mother has a history of making bad choices in her life, by allowing her then 12 year old daughter to attempt sexually touching our then 5 year old daughter several years ago, and defended her 12 year old daughter by stating the 5 year old (Jessica) wanted it. Also against our wishes she has allowed them to talk to their cousin in our home behind our backs, feeding her information about what was going on in our home, after we removed her from our home, due to her lack of grand parenting skills.

We had also exiled the cousin from our home previously due to being inappropriate and discussing her “customers” with our then 12 year old. The cousin was removed from our home that day, with us in shock over her comments and told to never contact our family again or come on our property. The only contact the children are to have is with their mother, no other family members on her side of the family or my fiance’s mother is to have contact with the children because of their history. Why is Kasey still allowing them to talk to them?

We would like the in-home service plan drawn up that Kasey Gaylon has been promising, and for it to include the children coming home, for them and us to continue counseling like we did before. If she wants Maplestar or Options to come out, we do not have a problem with that, we have already completed her Options and Maplestar programs and home visits with positive results. We are also attending CAFA and are looking into counseling services etc out here in Sweet Home, which is where we reside. Court had ordered parenting classes and anger management, which we are taking together, a psych eval, and to maintain a safe home. We have done that.

Court Ordered Counseling

Now Kasey, with it not being court ordered is demanding that my fiance take counseling, per his psych evaluation, which has not even been read to him yet, due to weather conditions and rescheduling by Kasey. It was not court ordered why is she demanding it? Only to delay the children coming home longer. Kasey was placed onto this case after we had requested Trina removed from it, due to the personality issues she had and the way she was treating our daughter. We do not have a problem with them coming out once a month to do their in home visits, etc. Never had a problem with it before. We have made all efforts to do so, but Kasey chooses to ignore them. Previously to all this, we had the children in counseling at OCP, weekly visits with mentors, and family counseling with my fiance and I there. Again counselors supported us as good parents.

She does not allow us to discuss our home, the kids’ rooms, their animals, nothing. Only demands that we give her the clothes etc that they request. At Christmas time ordered us to only give our kids one gift each, and that it had to be under $50.00, refused to allow me to give the kids a gift, and refused visitation to me as well. This is ongoing with her. Her answer is I don’t want to talk about it or her.

She has deemed me unsafe in her personal opinion to be around the kids, but in a service plan it states per DHS discretion, and again in one prior it stated that I was not to be exiled from this. I’ve done nothing to the kids or to the family to warrant a founded allegation against me for domestic violence. She has one founded against me with all 4 kids. Based on hear say from my fiance’s mother. Like I said prior, I’ve been in domestic violence/anger management classes and parenting classes with my fiance’. Her evidence is still non-existent, and the courts did not agree with the founded allegation, but it is still founded.

Usually by now, parents have more than 1 day 1 hr visits, the worker is usually by now working on reunification with the family, has a In Home Service Plan drawn up , which she has told us she refuses to do, and the kids are working on coming home, but she doesn’t foresee that in the near future. If we have been doing everything the courts have ordered why not? please tell me why this is not being done by Kasey Gaylon? If her harassment and treating us like children, alienating me from the visits, etc continues, we would like to request another worker. One that has not thrown herself into the case and made it personal like she has.

My fiance’ has told her numerous times, I am part of this family, DHS has acknowledged that they are to work with me as well, and this has been ignored. “I’m not party to the case” is what we are told. I’ve been in this family almost 2 years, the children think of me as their step mom and I will continue to be part of their lives as a loving mother figure. Their biological mother agrees as well.

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