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Help bring Westin home…

July 12, 2012 in California, Child Protective Services, corruption, post parental termination

My parental rights were terminated by a referee in LANCASTER, CA on JUNE 25th 2012. I need to know if there is any way I can get my son back, or get visitation, it seems this situation is hopeless. Even if it is hopeless I will not rest until I know my son is okay.

I am trying to understand the appeal process and rehearing?  I don’t know which papers to file, and I can’t find a decent attorney that even gives a shit to even look at my case without a $10,000 retainer. I am not going to be ripped off by another whack job from honolulu that I trusted, but later find out he was never on my side all along.

I was tricked into signing a waiver of rights, and  was late for my TPR contested hearing and they proceeded to terminate my rights without me. I can’t even look at my own child’s file anymore. I will not give up! If I have to I will die fighting this unjust system.

We were not even granted a “goodbye visit.”   I never got the chance to explain to him what was going on, let alone talk to the judge throughout this whole case to tell my side of the story. The social worker would cut visits off if I even started to explain to him or tell him that I love him and will never give up on him, that was considered details of the case which we were never allowed to talk about.

Wes is 5 years old and was taken from me in Sept 2009. I’ve been fighting for 3 years to get him back.  But I am only a mother, one person against all these wolves. They don’t play fair, and I  didn’t go to any law school, and all this rules of court, welfare code, is a different language to me. My brain feels like it wants to explode. My heart feels shattered, and my soul is handicapped from the piece that is missing.

His father is in prison until 2014 and has only been established as the “alleged father” Because I had no idea he didn’t have rights until paternity was established, and I don’t have any clue on how to go about doing that.

I went through the rehab and parenting classes, and the grief counselling, and whatever else I understood the court asked me to do. And then they yanked everything I had been working for the past 9 months with one missed test. And with only a couple month to do what it had taken me almost a year to do, the Court ordered me to do it again.  My life has been hell ever since, even more now that I am not allowed to see my son anymore, and I don’t know if they have moved him again with another strange family.

Please do not excuse my pleading for help as just a request from another worthless drug addict that can’t take care of her kid, because that is what the record seem to look like and what society pictures when I try to explain the situation.

I now realize that they were building my character in the record from day one and the lies they told to make me look crazy to restrict visitation, so they could make visiting miserable only under their supervision.

My son is everything in my life, and they can’t deny that. Every visit up until the end was explained as excellent, and well planned for. In that alone should of been evidence enough to grant the “parent and child bond that would be detrimental to terminate”… but nobody seems to care about anything besides the money.

The department did not make “reasonable efforts” There is nothing reasonable about this whole thing. The department and adoption company “PennyLane” have put us both through hell, and set up obstacles to sabotage reunification. If you don’t believe me, just ask any parent that has been forced to prove themselves to the California juvenile court.

There was no evidence that this mother physically or emotionally abused her children, or neglected the children as to feeding, clothing and maintaining his health. Additionally, when initially contacted, and before intervention by the CPS, mother owned her own home, was not on public assistance, and the child was up to date on all immunizations, and thriving in the home.

I don’t know what evidence I had to show to these people to prove that. It would of been obvious to anyone that actually took the time to personally assess the situation, but it seems that this case is nothing but a file to be pushed on to the next guy, and just another number.

This is my sons life, and my life, and our family has been torn apart by this crazy system. It just almost seems unreal.

Can you please help me in the appropriate steps that I need to take for justice to be served? If you don’t believe that you can help please pass my information to anyone that might be able to help me.  I’ve got another promised date to enter another rehab in a couple weeks. Not sure if it will  do any good, since my rights have already been terminated.

I need the best appeal lawyer I can find as soon as possible that will not take no for an answer and he needs to have heart. I also need someone to personally explain all this procedure. Also, I wish for anyone to go over this case and find errors that are appealable. I also need a miracle.

Thank You for your time and concern, and God bless.

Paula, California

A Child’s Best Interest

December 28, 2007 in Colorado, foster care, parental rights, post parental termination

An open letter to Julie Shawley urging her to act in the best interest of a child she has been charged with protecting.

Grand Jury Investigation Request

To: Julie Shawley, LCDHS
2555 Midpoint Drive
Ft.Collins, CO 80525

Dec. 7th, 2007
Pearl Harbor Day

Hello Julie,

I understand that this is difficult for you to comprehend. I would imagine that most of the problem is communication. You don’t know me from Adam. I have never met you. All you know about me is hearsay from your sources. I am trying to help you to help Connor.

We are both bound by the same laws. Everyone has to act "in the best interest of Connor." I am NOT asking you to divulge information about Connor – and I know you can’t. What is needed is for the Department of Human Service to review the information that I have, and that the department, and the COURT does not posses.

There is no way I can explain this to you with a phone call. I don’t think I can even explain this in one simple letter. I don’t mean to belittle you. I do not know how knowledgeable you are about Connor’s situation, but you are his caseworker so I am offering this to you. I am going to guess that you not going to do anything about this, or you feel that you can’t.

I have in my possession roughly four years of child therapy notes from Connor’s sessions dating back to 2002. I also have some personal articles that Connor brought from his stay at the first foster care home he was in. I also have a videotape of Connor at the Child Advocacy center in Fort Collins.

If you will take some time to review the child’s information you will find that Connor was in the departments custody and in the care of Bob and Jan Elshoff. The court granted me Custody of Connor in July of 2004 – right?

In April of 2005, the department regained custody of Connor under the “suspicion” that he was sexually abused because of disclosure he made to his therapist-right? I was or am listed as the perpetrator – right?

The department terminated my parental rights in A civil lawsuit because I had sexually abused my own child. – Wrong!

Julie, I am not in jail. I am not a criminal. I have not abused Connor. Before you get disinterested in this letter. The documents I have from the Larimer center for mental heath clearly and distinctly show that Connor had made disclosures of sexual abuse in 2003 while he was in the care of Bob and Jan Elshof before the court granted me custody separately from the child’s mother.

It is not that the child’s relatives or even myself do not believe that Connor was sexually abused. We believe he has. It was not perpetrated by me.

It cannot be in the child’s best interest to receive mental heath treatments for abuse conducted by his biological father, when the abuse was not conducted by his biological father. It cannot be in Connor’s best interest to be instructed that his biological father has done this to him. It cannot be in the child’s best interest for him to be educated or parented by anyone who has been informed that he has been sexually abused by his biological father. It cannot be in his best interest that Connor believes that his biological father has abused him.

I have already contacted law enforcement about Connor disclosures about Jan and Bob Elshof, because that what’s I was instructed to do by the District attorney’s office first. I also attended a lecture by a family court Judge offline. Reading some of the content of Connor’s therapy notes is grossly disturbing. The court needs to review it. So here is the problem, as I understand it by an attorney that acts as child guardian ad litem. I do not have ready accessibility to the court in this matter because my parental rights were terminated, but you do as his caseworker, and because you have custody.

So, if I do not bring forth this information, and act in Connor’s best interest it is against the law. If you do not act in Connor’s best it is against the law. I do not have access to him but you do. I am going to make several copies of Connor’s information including electronic storage.

How do you propose that we both "act in the best interest of the child?"

Darin Barrett
2814 W. 13th Street,
Loveland, CO 80537

Grieving Mom Seeks Direction

July 6, 2007 in Adoption, grandparents rights, post parental termination

Boys eat too many sweets

Nothing compares to the sorrow a mother feels without her child. Sara grieves the loss of her boys.

My two sons were taken in 1996. The proceedings were conducted like a witch-hunt. I knew at the time if I got hold of the court transcripts (as is my right) that I would have a sure win case. I exhausted all avenues to acquire the transcripts and everyone gave me the run around. I was pushed aside at all turns.

Eventually I gave up and gave in. Pursuing this issue made the pain unbearable. I was too devastated. This occurred in the state of Maine. I found out afterwards that Maine is among the top 3 offenders regarding "stealing" children.

At this time many others were suing Maine for issues similar to mine and winning. Many of the cases were the instances of abuse by caseworkers and foster homes in the local newspapers at this time.

I have felt my loss everyday. Even now it is difficult for me to see your site because I get so sad for my loss the only way I’ve dealt with it is to lock it up and try not to think of my boys. My arms feel empty all the time and I have no closure.

Here is my question for you; is it too late for me to seek any kind of justice? I want to actively do anything I can, (even if it only helps others.)

My sons have been adopted out. My "father" has contact with them and their so-called new "parents." This is all well and good.

Recently, I found a recent picture of my eldest son in my father’s photos. My son looked generally healthy but it was obvious that he has not brushed his teeth in what, years? The white gunk on his teeth breaks my heart yet again. What else is he not being taught?

I am a very bitter person because of my experience. Maybe the information I seek is already here on your website but there is so much of it here and I don’t want to reopen old wounds for nothing. Is it too late for me?

Also, is there anything I can do to further the cause on a national scale? Point me in the right direction please. I’ve never used a forum and am new at this type of communication.

Thank you again and God bless you for your website.


Post Parental Termination

July 4, 2007 in family court, post parental termination, TPR

Lost Forever to her Family

I am trying to find out information on couples having more children after they have had involuntary parental termination. In other words, if they have more children, will they automatically loose those children or not.

Can the state, that stole their children through Termination of Parental Rights (TPR) process, then take action to abduct subsequent children, even if the parents move to another state to have children?

Even if you don’t know the answer, would you have any ideas on how to find this information, as I have searched the web and can find nothing on post TPR.


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