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Blogging Tips

April 19, 2010 in Kidjacked

I try to check out each of your blogs every month as part of my regular maintenance of the site. We will be giving the site a face lift very soon along with a lot of new features.

Did you know that you can change your blog template? My wonderfully hubby chose a beatiful default theme for our users but as many of you have already discovered, there are many more to choose from. We have enable a large selection of themes that my husband has checked out, in which all the features offered actually work.

Be sure to check out the alternative templates.

The landing page will be changed and look significantly different very soon. Be sure to explore the site and features. I know you will be pleased and amazed. If you want your blog to be seen, you need to post as often as possible; daily is ideal but even weekly will improve your search engine presence.

A few additional tips today:

  • Space is good – break up your posts into paragraphs. Using smaller paragraphs makes online reader much easier on your readers. Believe it or not many people have trouble reading long articles with no breaks.
  • Use sentence case type. Authors who write in all caps are considered YELLING, in the online world. I personally think those who write in all lower case are simply too lazy to use good writing habits. Both are hard on your readers.
  • Keep it short. The ideal blog post is between 500 to 800 words. That’s not to say they can’t be longer or shorter but you should target your blog for this range for maximum readablity.

That’s it for day. Keep writing. I’ll have more tips for you next week.

~Annette

Why CPS exists!

May 29, 2009 in child abuse, CPS, Indiana, Kidjacked

I received the following e-mail today, from someone who obviously has her head stuck in the sand. Please respond to her post and help educate this naive person.

Dear Kidjacked,

So you have all of these stories posted about how children are abused and neglected and you think that CPS shouldn’t be there to protect these children?

Well if the parents aren’t doing their jobs then someone has to pretect the kids. CPS doesn’t get involved with families for no reason.

It sickens me to think that their are groups like yours who are against protecting kids. This is the very reason why CPS does exist.

Leah
from Indiana

WA: Infant Stolen by CPS

May 1, 2009 in CPS, foster care, Kidjacked, Washington

My name is Kathy A., I live in Tacoma, Washington with my husband. In 2006 I involuntarily lost my rights to my daughter to C.P.S.

The thing is I turned my ex-husband in for child abuse and they took my baby girl from me.

Now, 3-years later I got together with the love of my life and we had a handsome baby boy in May and 21-hours after he came home, C.P.S took him from us. He is still in foster care.

We received a letter 2-weeks later from the caseworkers supervisor. We have done nothing wrong. Our little guy will be 1-year-old on May 18th and he is only 19-pounds and does not crawl, and is not trying to walk. Because of them he is 3-months developmentally behind.

Do you have any suggestions for us God bless?

Attachment Parenting Lost

August 29, 2008 in False Allegations, foster care, Kidjacked, Maryland

How long does it take for a traumatized child to recover? Who can and should be held accountable for inflicting undo stress and emotional abuse on innocent children? These are questions that must be answered. How many children must suffer before our government takes action?

Attachment Parenting Opportunity Lost

My son is 13-months-old. He turned 13-months-old while in foster care. My home has always been a very “attached” home. I believe in extended breastfeeding, positive reinforcement, baby wearing, and co-sleeping, to name a few of the child care practices in my home. I have two other sons, ages 7 and 6 years old. I have no history of abuse/neglect allegations, nor do I have any history of any interaction at all with CPS before this incident.

My son came home from an overnight visit with his father (only the 2nd overnight visit to take place) on Monday, August 11, 2008 with a small bump on his head. As he’s just learning to walk, the occasional bump is to be expected. I did not immediately seek medical attention, as there was nothing to lead me to believe that this was an abnormal injury.

On Wednesday, August 13, 2008, the small bump on his head became swollen, and felt soft when I touched it. I called our pediatrician, described the bump to him, and told him how the baby’s behavior had not changed at all. Our pediatrician told me to go ahead and wait until our previously scheduled appointment the next morning. I was not entirely comfortable with that answer, so I called the triage nurse at the local emergency room and went through the same conversation with her. She gave me the same answer, to wait till the appointment with the pediatrician the next day. I still wasn’t comfortable with that answer, as my son’s head is not supposed to be soft, so I took him to the hospital, when it became obvious to me that this was not a normal bump on the head.

A trip to the ER

After having him examined at the emergency room, I was told that he has a ‘hairline skull fracture’. He was admitted to the pediatric ward of the hospital, where I stayed with him the entire time he was there.

The police were called, and I was questioned, interviewed, and accused of hurting my son by the detective that was handling the case. CPS was called. I was interviewed, questioned, and (I felt) accused by the social worker that was handling the case. The decision was made to remove my youngest son (but not the older two) from my care.

My youngest son, Charlie, was placed in the care of my father and stepmother over the weekend, but they were unable to continue providing care for him, due to the number of hours per week that they both work. In court, a decision was made to hold “the child” (not once has anyone official used my son’s name when referring to him) over in foster care for 30-days while an investigation was completed. My son is a breastfed baby, although he does eat solid foods also.

Family denied contact

I presented to the workers the name, phone number, and contact information for everyone involved. I provided the contact information to the person that witnessed that my son came home with the bump on his head. This same person was present with me in the emergency room, and has been present with me every day, while I am afraid for my child. I have not been permitted to visit him, to see pictures of him, to speak to him on the telephone, or even to know where he was placed. I am afraid for my baby, and nobody is giving me any information to reassure me that he is OK.

Broken laws

In Maryland, when a decision is made to place a child in foster care, the parents have the right to suggest individuals with whom the child is already familiar with, as possible foster care placements. When a parent suggests a possible placement, CPS is required by law to investigate that placement within 3-days.

When my son was placed into foster care on August 18, 2008, I suggested a neighbor as a possible placement, who happens to be a licensed foster care worker, so that I would be able to continue to visit with my child, who is very attached to me and to his brothers, and so that my child would continue to be able to breastfeed. The judge agreed with this person becoming a possible placement, and recommended that CPS investigate them “As soon as possible.”

No investigation

An investigation has not even begun into the neighbor that I suggested, and my son has been in foster care for 11-days. By law, in the state of Maryland, a home visit is required when CPS is investigating someone, and I was told that there would be no home visit ‘unless the child is being returned’. Again, by law in the state of Maryland, CPS is required to provide a minimum of one visit per week to parents and siblings. I have not been able to visit with my Charlie, his brothers have not been able to visit with him, nor have his father, or his father’s child been able to visit with him.

I am writing this today in hopes that I can possibly use the media attention to prompt the Department of Social Services to follow the laws, begin and complete the investigation that they are to complete, and allow me the visits with my child that they are required to allow.

My older children are devastated by having their baby brother taken from them. My 7-year-old child cannot stop crying, whenever he sees or hears a baby, or anyone mentions his brother. My 6 year old is so stressed out over what’s been going on, not knowing when he’s going to see his brother or if his brother is going to come home, that he cannot stop vomiting.

He’s also very angry, so angry that he cannot even bear to talk about his baby brother. My 13-month-old son has never been away from me for even 24-hours, and now he has been away from me for 11-days, with literally no contact. I am afraid that he feels abandoned by his family, I am afraid that this will leave lasting emotional scars, not only on my youngest child, but on my older children as well.

What has been done to my family by this department is unacceptable, and I want someone to please help me force CPS in Baltimore City to follow the letter of the law, allow my child to visit with his family and begin the reunification process that the department is constantly boasting about.

Thank you,
Elizabeth O’Brien

Contact the Baltimore office of DSS at (443) 423-6300. Ask why an investigation hasn’t been completed, under Maryland law and why this child hasn’t been returned home. Please be polite and respectful.

Additional Contact Information:
Interim Director, Brian Wilbon (443) 378-4600
Legal Services (443) 378-4100

Baltimore City Department of Social Services
P.O. Box 17466
Baltimore, Maryland 21203-7466

Please Help!

July 28, 2008 in Adoption, DSS, foster care, Kidjacked

An Open Letter To President Bush

Mr. President:

All across our great nation there are millions of grieving parents — they have lost their children and our government, in what was an original effort to help children, is stealing them for money! Unfortunately, this all revolves around the “Improved Adoption Incentives and Relative Guardianship Support Act of 2008” — S.3038. We are asking that S.3038 be allowed to sunset and that the Departments of Social Services across the nation be thoroughly reviewed and reformed. We are the people and we are hurting.

The problem is readily apparent in the title of this act. As this act currently stands it stresses adoption and minimizes helping families in need. Because it is more economically feasible for DSS to adopt (and thus receive federal funding), than it is to maintain a family that is either under severe stress or simply has problems that can be easily remedied with proper interventions. Unfortunately, the act provides little, or substantially less, financial support to the states to help sustain the family.

What is more unfortunate is that most of the families suffering are not affluent or well spoken, exist from paycheck to paycheck, are usually not well educated, and are easily victimized by an All-Powerful Department of Social Services. They are trusting families who understand that Social Services are “there to help” are “honest and caring”, only to find out that frequently they are guilty as soon as DSS knocks on their door and, because they are “guilty”, DSS “needs” to adopt out their child[ren] as soon as possible.

They come from many diverse areas of this country, from the cities, suburbs, and rural areas, but one thing they all have in common is the unfailing love they have for their children. Perfect they are not, but loving, caring parents they are.

There are of course real cases of abuse and some of those require foster care and adoption. However, the American Public Welfare Association (APWA) conducted a special survey of child welfare agencies in 1986 and “actual percentage of ‘founded’ cases was 26 percent.” That means one in four cases actually result in a ‘conviction’ of some sort. Considering that for a ‘founded’ case, the only thing required for a ‘conviction’ is a ‘preponderance of evidence’. Simply put; there is a bruise, someone put it there, it can’t be easily and readily explained as caused by anything else, so it is [substantiated] abuse.”

Even when the child is an actual victim of abuse, according to a study highlighted by the National Coalition for Child Protection Reform, “many children … in foster care would be far better off if they remained with their own families even if those families got only the typical help … commonly offered by child welfare agencies.”

Please, we need you to help us to save our children. We are imploring you to call for and appoint a commission to hear from the people and review the practices of DSS. The impact of the wrongs of the IRS is nothing compared to the impact of a society where legalized kidnapping for money ruins families and children. This was highlighted by Georgia State Senator, Nancy Schaefer, in her address to the Senate on December 5, 2006.

Feel free to peruse Kidjacked.com for some very heartbreaking stories. Child abuse is real, but with the incentives this bill provides, real child abuse will never be prevented. Recent news stories are replete with stories of children dying from the lack of DSS action. Yet, our children are being taken and the funding is unlimited to keep them and adopt them out.

One recent post to kidjacked put it very well.

“In this county [in Arizona] social workers get $10,000 bonus for every adopted child, so instead of reunification, they push adoption, with a 90% adoption rate in the whole court, 100% in our courtroom. Another judge ordered that we could see our children and speak to them as often as we wanted, however the social worker again has threaten to remove the children for [another] reason if we [try] to see them.”

All I am asking is that you help us to help ourselves, please, help us to save our children and the integrity of the family.

C. Hampton,
Manassas, VA

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