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Help Needed in Colorado

May 10, 2013 in Colorado, corruption, DSS

This mother has written me asking for advice, I have given it.  What is so frustrating is that people still go along with the program, until they don’t know what else to do, then they contact us.

This family did everything wrong… Do you have any advice for them now?

A 9 year old and 3 year old in Colorado using ...

On November 6, 2012, DSS took all four of my children because my 8 year old went to school and told them I gave him a black eye. Officers took my children to foster care based on the allegations of my son.

DSS sends my kids home, 20 days later after we agreed to do a parenting plan. It has been 6 months and my husband and I have complied with everything they asked, psych evaluations, individual therapy, in home counseling and CASA…

(Throughout all this we find out that our son who is 8 has Asperger’s syndrome based on a psych evaluation that DSS had done proved that my son cannot tell difference between fantasy and reality and that he doesn’t know the difference between truth and lie.)

We went into court 2 weeks ago and the judge decided that the case will be closed June 24 2013, as soon as we got resources for our son’s disability.

Last Wednesday my 8 year old goes to school with deep scratches on his neck and says his dad hit him with a baby hanger. Our worker decided without investigating that all our children were in immediate danger and had to be removed from our home. Now our case worker says if we agree to another case plan they will let the kids come home.

Me and my husband now want to fight this so our children are not ripped out of our home again. We refuse to go through any more of this. Did I mention that in one medical record that that my 8 year old admits to lying about abuse to get what he wants. Even our own case worker admits that he has lied to him about abuse.

What if anything can you do to help us? We know we have to get our side of the story on record and that by signing the agreement we are pleading guilty to abuse. Help us please!

D.V. in Pueblo, Colorado

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Are you a sociopath?

October 18, 2011 in caseworker, Child Protective Services, DSS, parent-child relationship, parental rights

I would like to publicly thank Carolynn Middleton for posting her letter: Caseworkers- Are You Contented? We’ve all asked ourselves the same questions, in a nutshell we want to know what kind of animal could be so cruel to another human being?

I would like to print this letter off and get it into the hands of every caseworker in America.

Caseworkers- Are You Contented?

We all like to think of ourselves as righteous, noble, honorable, and ethical, with dignity and self respect. But, in cases where there is no abuse/neglect, or where indications of abuse/neglect are quite questionable, how do you sleep at night. How do you live with yourself knowing that, earlier in the day you tore a family apart? How do you look at yourself in the mirror in the morning, knowing that you apprehended a child(ren), taken them away from their parents, and left a family devastated, and maybe you really didn’t need to?

Think for a moment…

Whether you are a religious person or not, this is a pretty good Personal Rule, “Do onto others as you would have done onto you.” With that in mind, how would you feel if someone came along and hurt your children, your spouse, and your family, without good reason, even though they may have thought they had good reason?

In many or our planet’s animal species, the mother will die trying to protect her offspring from would-be predators. I know there are cases where children need to be taken into custody to protect them. 

But what about all of those children who’ve been apprehended who don’t need to be?

  • Are you a narcissist?
  • Are you a sociopath?
  • Do you take delight in causing someone else pain?
  • Or is it that you just don’t think about it?
  • Or is it that you really don’t care?

I know many people who got into the field of social work because they wanted to help others. That is a very noble sentiment. But how does unnecessarily devastating a family and tearing it apart, help? How does dragging parents into court and through a long and drawn out bureaucratic process help? Certainly if a child is being seriously abused/neglected- then they need your help, and the important thing here is to try and help them.

But many foster homes are either inadequate or run by people I wouldn’t trust to care for my pet rock. [Continue Reading…]

Whether you mail it, email it or hand deliver it, doesn’t matter. What matters is getting CPS Agents to examine their own motives. I’ve personally spoken with caseworkers, investigators, even supervisors who staff child protective service offices and many of them are feeling guilty about the work they do. Any worker worth their salt knows she is causing more harm than good.

Perhaps, we can give them a little shove in the right direction. This is not about simply collecting a paycheck. We are dealing with the lives of millions of children. The entire makeup of the country is being changed – hardly a single life has been left untouched by the vultures at the Department of Health and Human Services. The family unit is being destroyed and our nation will never be the same.

We should refer to this generation as The Lost Generation. You don’t have to be a statistician to realize the significance of the numbers. I am involved with family rights issues on a daily basis. I consider myself very informed on the issues and these numbers even freaked me out. I’m devastated by these numbers. I’ll let you draw your own conclusions.

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Please Help!

July 28, 2008 in Adoption, DSS, foster care, Kidjacked

An Open Letter To President Bush

Mr. President:

All across our great nation there are millions of grieving parents — they have lost their children and our government, in what was an original effort to help children, is stealing them for money! Unfortunately, this all revolves around the “Improved Adoption Incentives and Relative Guardianship Support Act of 2008” — S.3038. We are asking that S.3038 be allowed to sunset and that the Departments of Social Services across the nation be thoroughly reviewed and reformed. We are the people and we are hurting.

The problem is readily apparent in the title of this act. As this act currently stands it stresses adoption and minimizes helping families in need. Because it is more economically feasible for DSS to adopt (and thus receive federal funding), than it is to maintain a family that is either under severe stress or simply has problems that can be easily remedied with proper interventions. Unfortunately, the act provides little, or substantially less, financial support to the states to help sustain the family.

What is more unfortunate is that most of the families suffering are not affluent or well spoken, exist from paycheck to paycheck, are usually not well educated, and are easily victimized by an All-Powerful Department of Social Services. They are trusting families who understand that Social Services are “there to help” are “honest and caring”, only to find out that frequently they are guilty as soon as DSS knocks on their door and, because they are “guilty”, DSS “needs” to adopt out their child[ren] as soon as possible.

They come from many diverse areas of this country, from the cities, suburbs, and rural areas, but one thing they all have in common is the unfailing love they have for their children. Perfect they are not, but loving, caring parents they are.

There are of course real cases of abuse and some of those require foster care and adoption. However, the American Public Welfare Association (APWA) conducted a special survey of child welfare agencies in 1986 and “actual percentage of ‘founded’ cases was 26 percent.” That means one in four cases actually result in a ‘conviction’ of some sort. Considering that for a ‘founded’ case, the only thing required for a ‘conviction’ is a ‘preponderance of evidence’. Simply put; there is a bruise, someone put it there, it can’t be easily and readily explained as caused by anything else, so it is [substantiated] abuse.”

Even when the child is an actual victim of abuse, according to a study highlighted by the National Coalition for Child Protection Reform, “many children … in foster care would be far better off if they remained with their own families even if those families got only the typical help … commonly offered by child welfare agencies.”

Please, we need you to help us to save our children. We are imploring you to call for and appoint a commission to hear from the people and review the practices of DSS. The impact of the wrongs of the IRS is nothing compared to the impact of a society where legalized kidnapping for money ruins families and children. This was highlighted by Georgia State Senator, Nancy Schaefer, in her address to the Senate on December 5, 2006.

Feel free to peruse Kidjacked.com for some very heartbreaking stories. Child abuse is real, but with the incentives this bill provides, real child abuse will never be prevented. Recent news stories are replete with stories of children dying from the lack of DSS action. Yet, our children are being taken and the funding is unlimited to keep them and adopt them out.

One recent post to kidjacked put it very well.

“In this county [in Arizona] social workers get $10,000 bonus for every adopted child, so instead of reunification, they push adoption, with a 90% adoption rate in the whole court, 100% in our courtroom. Another judge ordered that we could see our children and speak to them as often as we wanted, however the social worker again has threaten to remove the children for [another] reason if we [try] to see them.”

All I am asking is that you help us to help ourselves, please, help us to save our children and the integrity of the family.

C. Hampton,
Manassas, VA

Yadkin Advocate Needed

October 16, 2007 in DSS, foster care, grandparents rights, North Carolina

I have two grandsons, one is 16-months-old, and the baby is 2-months-old. Both of these babies were removed from the hospital when they were born. The oldest one was placed in kinship foster care. The people that have him are not blood related. Both parents want both babies placed with my husband and myself.

But the Yadkin County, NC Department of Social Services are totally against us. They did not want to do the home study, though they were ordered by two separate judges to perform one. Of course they are saying we didn’t pass, but no reason was given as to why.

The social worker that was over the case was replaced by a "new" social worker. The older worker was taken off the case when she abused my son’s girlfriend’s oldest child. There were never any charges or sanctions brought against her.

They want to let this man and woman adopt the 16-month-old and we are totally against it. The man has had a massive heart attack. He is a diabetic, and does not try to control it – he is also severely obese.

He takes baths with the baby and smokes around him constantly. The baby was born four weeks premature and has had lung problems all of his life. The foster parents live in an old mobile home with a closed in porch that serves as my grandson’s "room". It’s not bad enough that he blows smoke in his face everyday, now he has to live in an old drafty room.

I have discussed my concerns with the social worker, supervisor, and director all to no avail. The woman has lost custody of her own biological daughter, but Yadkin County doesn’t care as long as they get the adoption money! There is no reason why this child and his little brother are not returned to their parents. The two-month-old is in foster care, fortunately, it appears like the people that have him are taking good care of him.

I was going every Tuesday to the DSS office for visitation with both grandsons, but DSS doesn’t want me to “bond” with the baby, so they stopped my visitation about a month ago. I know the oldest one is missing me because he and I are very close.

My husband and I are on Social Security and cannot afford an attorney, but I’m looking for any help that I can get in order to bring these two babies home where they belong!

Thank you,

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