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HI: Abandoned Infant?

August 19, 2014 in DHS, False Allegations, family court, Hawaii

I have proof they stole my baby then filed my baby as an abandoned infant at hospital. I have uncovered the details and just realized the full-scale horror and seriousness of their intervention. I can’t do this alone. We’re a secure couple, no past history or anything, great backgrounds and they took her at 2 days old. What do I do to overturn this hidden filing?

Sleeping baby

CPS illegally took our baby, complete with forged documents. We found proof that they counterfeited papers and my discharge papers were also faked. They say I left the hospital pregnant. I now realize they filed with the court, stealing my baby in secret — as an abandoned infant, to try to acquire secret custody within only a few days.

I need to end this before she goes missing. After she is temporary placed they can attempt to fabricate lies to keep me from her.

I am now filing criminal charges and reporting it to everyone I can. I would like the signatures (see petition) to take to the courthouse to demand the secret court hearing be voided. They have falsely accused me of ABANDONING INFANT at the HOSPITAL after they stole her! The doctors acted in collusion with the fabricated counterfeit doctor files, etc.

I want to bring this to light and need your help and support.

Please sign my petition so I can take this down to the courthouse and protest. I will announce that our baby newborn called the Lange baby in the maternity ward was recorded to be born 7/23/2014 by Cody Walker and Uttara Lange.

They stole both our birth certificate filings we made and now she has no name. They use her alias names for the secret court hearings. Of course, even though it is my child, I receive no notice of the hearings.

They will secretly record the custody and then charge us with abandoning our child and we will be de facto criminals and have to go to trial and I fear we will never see our baby again. This is serious and I think I only have days left.

Gunpoint Medicine

August 9, 2014 in Child Protective Services, Connecticut, corruption, DHS, family rights

If you don’t comply they’ll Take Your Child

by: Jenni Falconer

After having been involved in my own custody battle and losing some of my children to my ex-husband due to the fact that I’m disabled, I sought support for my grief. In doing so, I met other parents who had been through the nightmare of child custody loss.

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One married couple, David and Mandy, had lost custody temporarily and told me a tale so unbelievable I wouldn’t have believed it if I hadn’t had first-hand experience of state corruption. Their custody of their newly born baby son George was taken – including their right to make medical decisions – because they went against orthodox medical advice.

David and Mandy didn’t have a child until they reached their 40’s. Mandy had an aggressive type of arthritis that required immune modulating medication; because of this they had decided it was best not to have children. As the years ticked by and Mandy got closer to menopause, she inevitably changed her mind and they managed to conceive quickly after altering the medication.

They were free spirited people, who had previously lived in a narrow boat but bought a house on learning that Mandy was pregnant. They had specific ideas for how they wanted the birth to be and for how they wanted to raise their child. They wanted to experience natural childbirth, and because Mandy was afraid of hospitals due to previous negative experiences, they hired a midwife in the hope of having a home birth.

Home Birth Hostility

Child Protective Services Survival Manual for Parents

Unfortunately the birth didn’t go to plan and they had to be transferred to hospital for an assisted delivery. That is where their nightmare began. Staff at the hospital seemed to be contemptuous because they had planned a home birth and because they were older first time parents. Their attitude only got worse when Mandy refused a forceps delivery and told them if they wanted to use forceps she would have to be sedated first. Although they complied with the unusual request, they viewed her as an oppositional patient.

The Fallacy of Informed Consent

After the birth of a healthy 8 lbs. son, they informed staff they were refusing Hepatitis B vaccine for baby George because it was a sexually transmitted disease and they knew that Mandy didn’t have Hepatitis B. The couple had been married more than 20 years and were sexually faithful to each other and the only way that George could contract the disease as a newborn was by infection during childbirth. As his mother wasn’t infected, this was impossible.

They knew that all drugs have side-effects and decided the injection was unnecessary for George. Informed consent or refusal of medical interventions is supposed to be a cornerstone of modern medical practice, but in reality, over-reaching authorities class ‘medical neglect’ as ‘not following medical recommendations’. Hostile staff informed child protective services.

They were allowed to leave the hospital with their baby but on arrival home had CPS knocking their door down. Instead of being able to enjoy their new baby, they faced a lengthy interview about their unorthodox views and were accused of ‘not trusting’ medical professionals and putting their baby at risk by attempting a home birth, delaying forceps intervention and refusing a vaccination.

Social workers questioned whether Mandy’s arthritis would make her a suitable carer for baby George since David was at work during the day. They held an emergency meeting and court hearing and decided that George should be placed in the custody of the state until the parents ‘prove’ their suitability to be his parents. Tiny George – only a few days old – was taken by force from the arms of his distraught and begging mother.

Cover of "Nineteen Eighty-Four"

Nineteen Eighty-Four

Big Brother is Watching You

They were only allowed to visit him in a DFS center where they would be monitored to see how they were looking after the baby (something reminiscent of George Orwell’s ‘1984’) and they had to be accompanied to all medical visits where the final say was with the state (although they didn’t force the vaccination that the parents had declined).

Eventually, when no neglect or abuse could be found and they had no ‘spurious’ reason to keep George from his parents, they were given physical custody with medical custody remaining with the state. Social workers visited their home daily and controlled most of what they did. They were prevented from using cloth diapers, as the social workers said this was ‘unhygienic’ and when Mandy made George home cooked food with a blender, she was told she had to feed him commercial baby food.

It took David and Mandy until their baby was nearly a year old to regain medical custody of him and far longer than that to repair their strained marriage.

Theirs is by no means the only case. Medical care is purported to be free to refuse, but if you say no to a proposed treatment, openly challenge a medical professional or make a choice that is a little ‘outside the box’ (for instance, home birth) you could be red flagged by social services or have your child taken away from you.

The Story of Justina Pelletier

Teenager Justina Pelletier was taken from her parents when two hospitals that were treating her, disagreed over her care. Justina, a former ice skater with Mitochondrial disease, was admitted to Boston Children’s Hospital, where a junior doctor who said that mitochondrial disease did not exist and that their daughter really had Somatoform Disorder, a mental health disorder caused by stress.

Doctors at the hospital said she’d been misdiagnosed and falsely medicated. When her parents objected and said they would seek a second opinion from another hospital, child welfare workers were called in and the family were prevented from leaving the hospital. Custody was given to the state and Justina was locked in a psychiatric ward for 16 months.

She later told journalists that medical staff there were ‘so mean and nasty’ to her, accusing her of faking her illness. She was only allowed one hour a week to visit her parents.

Since getting her back in the ensuing court battle, Justina’s parents say that ‘it was all a mad psychiatric experiment’ and accuse Boston Children’s of experimenting on their daughter without consent. Although Justina is now home, because she was denied treatment for her mitochondrial disease during her forced detainment, she is now unable to walk and is confined to a wheelchair – a tragic example of what can happen if the state get their hands on your child.

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DHS Lies, Investigation Request!

June 25, 2014 in Child Protective Services, corruption, CPS, DHS, South Carolina, Texas

Hi my name is Nikki. My 14 year old daughter flew to Columbia, SC from Dallas, TX to visit her aunt and paternal family on April 16, 2014. She got into trouble in school for trading her iPhone for cold medication and cigarettes on May 21st. On Thursday, May 22, she was taken into state custody and immediately placed in foster care.

Not My Children: A True Story of CPS and Government Funded Kidnappers

Not My Children: A True Story of CPS and Government Funded Kidnappers

I received a text message on her aunt’s first court date stating, “Please call about Dominique Jackson.” I have placed my daughter in psychiatric care due to suicidal threats years ago but she has not had any issues since. This is my daughter, whom I have full custody, but I did not, and still have not, received a single phone call from DHS. They did not attempt to call a single family member pertaining to my daughters case either. Which to my understanding is breaking federal laws.

Her aunt says that all charges of negligence were dropped against her. Now they are placing her in a work camp! I have spoken to my daughter many times and she has told me that her case worker stated, “I don’t go chasing after grown folk. If you were my child, I would have already been up here raising hell, if your mom cares, she would have called the day you were taken into custody!”

I was not even aware until after the fact because I was not contacted. The DHS caseworker also told her aunt that she spoke with me and I said, “my daughter is not to live with any one but her aunt, and this is why she is in foster care.” I have NEVER spoken to DHS for fear they will twist my words and I will lose my temper, giving them an actual leg to stand on.

When I spoke with a man claiming to represent my daughter (court date) May 27th, he told me that I could “not come up there and bring her home. They will not release her to me.” I recorded the conversation. Now the caseworker said I could have taken her home that day! I can prove they have broken many federal laws.

They claimed they were worried about her mental state but if that is the case, why is she not in a psychiatric facility? Why is she in a foster home? I am trying to find a lawyer through legal aide but any direction you can point me in, I will be eternally grateful. This is my daughter and I want her home where she belongs right now. They are breaking the law and causing emotional stress on the entire family. Especially her little brother.

Thank you in advance for any help.

Sincerely,
Nikki

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Oregon DHS & Civil Rights

January 10, 2013 in California, corruption, DHS, Oklahoma, Oregon

Oregon Department of Human Services

Oregon Department of Human Services

I feel our civil rights have been violated by Oregon Department of Human Services (DHS), especially by the West 11th and Willamette Street Offices in Eugene, OR.

I’ve written the Governor, the Congressmen, County Officials for Lane County as well about this. DHS is making our lives hell and we’ve done nothing wrong. They are verbally assaulting us, yelling at us on the phone and in email and we’ve had enough. We are good, loving parents, and just want our kids back home where they belong. Three of our kids are special needs children, one being autistic spectrum disorder, level 50 of 60, and DHS especially Kasey Gaylon and Jordan Meyer are set on making themselves look like they are powerful and us looking like we are criminals.

I came into my fiance’s family in August of 2011. Welcomed with open arms and loving kids who adored me and my own two adult kids. Everything was going great, we decided to live together and combine two families in one. A fairy tale with hopes and aspirations.

Until that fateful day that the wicked witch of the Northwest, aka their 2nd cousin Sabrina Kinser, who calls herself their aunt started her psychophrenic rampage on our family. This woman by the way is an “escort” (prostitute), drug user, has had her own child stripped from her. You can Google her, or find her paid advertisements on backpage.com. She is now pregnant again and is trying to take our 13 year old daughter to turn her into a “mini her”, and has repeatedly asked us to adopt her from us. A little over a year ago in November, she asked for us to allow the kids to come to her house for Thanksgiving. Against our better judgment, but because of their mother who we wanted them to share the holiday with her family and get closer together, we allowed them to go spend the night with their mom’s side of the family.

Thanksgiving Holiday

BAD MISTAKE letting the kids go see their other side of the family for the Thanksgiving holiday. The “escort” went psychotic on the kids and her own family. Threw everyone out of the house, threatened to physically beat our kids and her family members, locked our 13 year old daughter in a room, told her to lie to police about things, basically kidnapped the kids. We demanded she return them home, she refused. She threatened to come kill us in our own home. We called the Lane County Sheriff’s office who would NOT assist. DHS allowed our children to stay in the home with her until they were placed with my fiance’s mother temporarily. Her own family was ringing our phone off the hook, telling us all about the rampage.

This family member wants our 13 year old daughter to start selling herself for money, telling her it’s okay, that she will make a lot of money and wouldn’t have to worry about her parents supporting her anymore. Shortly after the thanksgiving incident she had our 13 year old daughter show up at our 22 year old daughter’s home in high stripper heels, a mini skirt that barely covered, and a tube top in the middle of winter. We do NOT allow this as parents. But DHS feels it’s okay for our daughter to dress how she wants, that it’s an expression of adulthood. I’m sorry but she’s too young. That’s why we had to put her in Willamette Leadership Academy, due to grades, drug use, and peer problems in school. We made the right choices as parents, but DHS seems to disagree with us.

Not My Children: A True Story of CPS and Government Funded Kidnappers

The next morning after no sleep, we were awoken to four Lane County Sheriffs banging on our door and one case worker, Jordan Meyer . Jordan Meyer without a signed HIPAA form, accused me of things that I never did in front of my fiance. They did a search of our home without a warrant or permission by either of us, treated us like criminals and then informed us of our rights.

Charged with Molestation!

My ex-husband was arrested in Las Vegas NV and is currently serving time in Lovelock Correctional Facility in Lovelock, NV for child molestation etc. I had went to court in California at the time and gave my parents legal guardianship of my then 9 and 10 year old kids to get them away from the man, over 12 years ago! Jordan Meyer told my fiance’ without my consent or accurate information that I was the child molester, that I was a danger to kids, and that he should remove me from our home immediately.

I was a victim of my ex and so was my kids. He had tried to kill us and molested my kids from ages 1 and 2 to 9 and 10, molested his other daughter who was mentally disabled, and 8 other kids.

Why would a DHS official…

  1. Assume that without proper information.
  2. Disclose information without proper Privacy Act permissions.
  3. Threaten me and tell me to shut up when I was trying to explain that he was mistaken, even told him to look up NDOC Inmate # 1007007 to verify. He wouldn’t even allow me to get my laptop to prove it. Had an officer push me back down by my shoulders onto the couch and threatened arrest. I have spina bifoda occulta with fibromyalgia and beginning stages of arthritis from my disability. I may not look disabled but I am.

I tried telling them they were mistaken that we had called against the ex family member. They wouldn’t listen. They told us our kids weren’t coming home and that we had to be to court first thing Monday morning.

They sent the kids to my fiance’s mother’s house (I’ll get to that later about her- another horror story), and told us we could not contact or see our kids. What the hell? We were good, loving parents who kept the house clean and them well cleaned and fed and loved.

We went to court on that fateful Monday, and I was informed that my son and myself had to leave our own home, because DHS didn’t believe the CA court system that my ex was the criminal not me. I didn’t get to spend Christmas with my new family and was banned from my own home for no reason.

Allegations Founded!

Finally on January 30, 2012 right before court, they dismissed the case and I was allowed to return home to my loving fiance’ and four loving soon to be step kids. We were told by DHS they had made a mistake in regards to me, and that we had a good loving home. DHS kept their allegations FOUNDED even though the courts did not agree, and used it to open another case against us later. We were like YES its finally over. NOPE WRONG!

In May of 2012, my future mother in law coerced our 13 year old to report to DHS because she was upset that we had taken her iPod and Internet rights due to grades and bad choices she was making in her life.

West 11th DHS called us at home and informed us that they had our 13 year old and was NOT returning her home. All over a iPod and INTERNET?! For no reason they removed me from my own home again. I did nothing wrong!

My fiance’s mother had become a problem every since she moved in. She was talking to Sabrina Kinser behind our backs and making secret plans to take Jessica back to Oklahoma, and leave the boys here. We found out after the fact about all this from the other side of the family. We had exiled Sabrina from the family back in November.

We found out my fiance’s mother was behind what Jessica had told DHS, along with the cousin who had started all this turmoil in our lives. At the time, we did not know this and had asked his if things got bad with DHS, would she assume legal guardianship over the kids until this was settled. She said no, she would take Jessica and only Jessica, and let DHS take all the boys.

She was planning on kidnapping our 13 year old and going back to Oklahoma without our knowledge. When she decided to “throw our boys under the bus” but not our daughter, we told her she needed to find another place to live.

We had went to the Function for Junction that day with the boys, since our daughter was still not returned home, two days before our next court hearing, but she had wanted to stay home. We came home to a dark empty house and her gone. She went back to Oklahoma, sold her grand-kids out and abandoned them in a time of need. We had found a suitcase left behind in haste with our daughter’s clothes packed up in it but not the boys.

HIPAA Privacy Act Law

Against HIPAA Privacy Act Law, DHS worker Kasey Gaylon is allowing our kids to have contact with the escort cousin and the grandma. We never signed any paperwork allowing such contact. This cousin of the children has been seen screaming extreme vulgarities to the 5 and 4 year old and stalking our house every day all day until we were forced to move where she couldn’t hopefully find us. They are both very inappropriate people for our children to communicate with, but against our complaints, as well as the CRB, Kasey continues allowing it.

Later, In August, DHS and Lane County Sheriff showed up at our house again, arrested my fiance’ and took our 3 boys. I can’t talk about all this because it’s an on going case, but they had no reason to take the boys from their home or arrest my fiance. He is now facing criminal charges because of guess who…Jordan Meyer and District Attorney Barbara Stoll.

I was rudely talked to by Jordan, harassed by him and rudely talked to by Lane County Sheriff officers, and forced to leave my own property yet again or face being arrested also. When Jordan Meyer insisted my fiance’ to be arrested they cuffed him in front of the kids, 2 being special needs children, dragged him to the cruiser and threw him into the car.

Fighting CPS Guilty Until Proven Innocent of Child Protective Services’ Charges

In the police report, it states that they were not going to take the boys and were not going to arrest my fiance but Jordan Meyer insisted on it. My daughter, her fiance’ and two other adult members showed up and asked to keep the boys, they were refused. When he was transported to the Lane County Jail, he requested something to keep him warm, they had put him into the “fishtank” and refused to give him his seizure medication which he needed, had slammed him up against a wall, yelled at him, and told him he was a (sorry to say) piece of shit who deserved nothing.

My fiance’ stated the back of his head bounced off the cement wall. He was then thrown back into the holding tank and was given a 24 hour old sandwich to eat after 12 hours. Was told to choke on it and die because he deserved to. Is this how law enforcement is supposed to act? My fiance’ had a seizure in the holding cell and no one medically assisted him, even yelled at me on the phone when I called to tell them he needed to take Keppra 4 times a day for epilepsy. He also has a heart condition because of the seizures.

Threatened with Arrest!

Officer Gill was one of the responding officers at our house and threatened to arrest me if I didn’t leave my property immediately. He even followed my daughter to my mom’s house to make sure I was home at her house. Is this normal of the law enforcement officials? They stated our boys, who are 4 and 5 were filthy dirty and starving. This is incorrect. They had been bathed the night before and had eaten a big dinner. They did not get breakfast yet, because of them getting out of the house, which by the way was up on stilts in Marcola. The cousin who caused all this drama has been heard bragging by local Marcolians for having gotten my fiance’ arrested and that she took the boys out of their bedroom window , and that we can never prove it.

When we tell the DHS that, they call us liars and that we are delusional, making things up. There was no possible way 2 small children could have opened that heavy window on their own all the way to the top beyond their reach.

The officers waited almost 2 hours before they even went to the door, which my fiance’ did answer, thinking the boys were still in their bedroom. They yelled at him, called him a piece of shit father, etc. I had called my fiance’ every half hour from my mom’s on the home phone the night before and he had checked on the boys up until 3:00 am. I was on the phone with him when he had checked on the boys, by listening to see if they were awake yet at 7:30 and 8:30 am.

He assumed they were still asleep, but didn’t want to open the door and wake them up. Deputy Gill had stated our 5 year old autistic son had stated his genitals hurt and he had changed his diaper (which he is in diapers due to tethered cord), but instead he had forced our 12 yr old son to change his brother. He also stated wording that is not in our 5 year old’s speech usage. Our son barely speaks and mainly uses sign language as a form of communication.

Foster Care

We had went to the Serbu Juvenile Courthouse, which at the time sided with DHS and stated the kids were to be placed into foster care. Where they are currently, since May and August of last year. We were unfairly given a fact finding hearing by Judge Henry. Any and all witnesses for us were sent away, per DHS, because they were going to release the children back home and close the case, but when they sent away our witnesses, they changed their mind quickly and ruled against us, but allowed their witnesses to testify.

Even allowed my fiance’s mother to call in after we had removed her from our home prior to all this, and DHS did not notify any parties in the case that she was calling or on the phone until the last second. It was not even entered into discovery for fact finding.

Since then, everything was going fine with visits at the DHS office on 18th and Willamette. DHS worker Kasey Gaylon was moving the visits to OCP on 11th and Pearl. She had even stated if we moved to a bigger visitation room that she would consider allowing me to see the kids who I have not seen since May.

Boy did she lie! She so far has threatened us, threatened to take visitation away from my fiance’ if he served our son for a court case in regards to all this, she forced our 12 year old to leave the court house saying she wouldn’t allow him to testify, she refused them visitation with me, double dosed them on vaccinations, won’t allow our autistic son to have the surgery he needs for a tethered cord, which keeps him from feeling his bowel movements, yelled at my fiance’ both on the phone and in emails, has told me I have to move my car to the back of the building (which sorry I’m not going to do). I don’t have to move my car, it’s a parking lot and I have a handicap placard.

Isn’t that discrimination? A violation of my rights? She stated that it’s not good for the kids to see me and makes the foster parents uneasy. WRONG. The kids make hand hearts, wave to me, blow me kisses and smile when they see me. DHS admitted they were wrong about me by supervisor Nicole Sims, what the hell is their problem?

We even have a signed agreement by DHS stating they would not ever bring up my California history, or use it against me ever again, yet Kasey Gaylon violated that agreement, so did Trina who was our previous worker. Trina was corrected by Nicole Sims in a meeting about not using that against me. Still to this day they are. The signed agreement also stated that any workers are to verify with us any reports prior to opening a case, and not allow contact with the other family, which includes the cousin.

They have violated this as well, telling us that the agreement is now null and void per Kasey. DHS also in that agreement agreed to work with me as a member of this family, and to date, has not done so. I get glared at by Kasey, she talks down to my fiance’ about me, and does not allow the kids to mention me. She has exiled me from the children’s lives. Mr. Singh , one of your DHS workers, had come to our home before all this started in May, and closed the previous case against us from November, stating our home was safe and we were good parents.

Kids Playing at Childrens Playground Ship

Kids Playing at Childrens Playground

DHS worker Kasey Gaylon has stated she wants to work on reunification with the family, we have done everything that she has requested. We had to force her to give the referrals to go to CAFA, she only gives my fiance’ one hour a week, for four kids, we drive an hour to the visit and an hour back, but she has made no efforts for reunification. No updated case plans, no meetings with us BOTH to make sure the kids have a good home where we live, etc. Normal protocol is to have the kids home usually within 6 months if not less.

Inappropriate Behavior!

Our 13 year old has been out of the home since May. The CRB (Citizen’s Review Board), has told DHS Worker Kasey Gaylon that they want her to basically get off her ass and start working on reunification. Since in foster care our 13 year old daughter shoplifted from Valley River Center, something she has never done before, subsequently getting her banned from the mall, Kasey had placed her in a home with 8 other foster kids, with a family who was only doing it for the money, per them.

She allowed our 13 year old daughter to engage in inappropriate relationships with both boys and girls, which we were not allowing her to date yet, because we felt she was too young still and was still making wrong choices in her life. Kasey Gaylon also allowed the foster parents to let our daughter stay out all hours of the night and dress in clothes we did not approve of, like jeans with a hole in the crotch, low cut tank tops, etc.

She also allowed the foster parents to let our 13 year old pour bleach on her head and ruin her hair. She refused to listen to us about the children’s Dr, who we had recently switched, and gave our children shots that they had just received, causing our two younger children to become sick from the vaccinations. She refused to give our 12 year old severe ADHD son the medication he needed in order to function in school and to get along with his peers. It took calling his psychiatrist and having him call her and demand it.

She is still allowing contact with the paternal grandmother and the maternal cousin, both are bad news. Since then, Kasey has moved our 13 year old to a home with a 16 year old boy who our daughter states likes her in that way. Kasey denies this at the CRB, and stated that there was nothing she could do, it was the biological son of the foster parents. At the CRB she stated our daughter was doing well in school, but was corrected by OCP stating this was false information, that in fact our daughter’s grades were poor. She has moved our two younger special needs children three times since August.

Our last visit, DHS worker Kasey Gaylon was at OCP. She had their visitation monitored and watched my fiance like a hawk, forcing the OCP lady to sit in the room with him and the kids which made it very awkward, she was within inches of him when he took our autistic son to the bathroom or when our 4 year old wanted a book.

She (visitation supervisor ordered by Kasey Gaylon) refused to allow him to walk the boys (who are special needs btw) to the foster parent’s car to put them in car seats, and yelled at our 12 year old and my fiance’ while I was watching in the car for him to LEAVE NOW and told our 12 year old he couldn’t hug his mom or say bye to me he had to get inside NOW.

They even refused to let the children see their family dog who comes with us to the visits. Force me to sit in a cold car, not allowed to go inside and use the facilities, and glare at me when they come out of the visit to place our kids into the foster parents cars. Kasey was retaliating against my fiance because she did not want him to serve our 12 yr old, but per our legal counsel, was ordered to allow it. Previous to moving to OCP for visitation, my fiance’ was allowed with the visitation supervisor, to escort the boys out to the cars and load them into their car seats.

DHS worker Kasey Gaylon was confronted by the kids’ mom about her license which DHS was supposed to be working on getting for her. DHS worker Kasey Gaylon then yelled at her and questioned their mom as to why she was in our car talking to me. Um let’s see…We are FRIENDS, We are their parents, WE work together as a team on the parenting, and it was 29 degrees outside? I was being nice giving her a warm place to sit, allowing her to smoke, and was going to give her a ride to where she needed to go after my fiance was done with his visit.

DHS Controls Families!

Oregon DHS needs to stop trying to control families and work on their policies. They are terrible. Quit accusing people of things that they didn’t do. Especially in regards to myself and my fiance’. Kids belong home with their parents, especially when the parents are loving, caring, don’t hit them, etc. I could understand it if it was a drug home, but we are good Christian people who DHS has a bulls-eye on both our backs. Enough is enough. We want our kids home and we want them home now. We were cleared by DHS official Mr. Singh in 2012 by him stating our home was safe, we were good parents and he closed the previous case.

Children Playing

Children Playing

Now we are still fighting to get our kids back home where they belong. I seriously think something needs to be done about the DHS system especially Jordan Meyer and Kasey Gaylon. We have filed grievances against them both to no avail and also against Kelly Burns who was caught in a lie on a recording device accidentally. Our civil rights are being violated, I’m being discriminated because of being told I cannot park in a handicap spot up front of the building, when I have a legal handicap placard, and my fiance’ is being treated like a criminal and bad father. He’s not. I’m being accused of domestic violence against the kids, which never happened, DHS supposedly founded it, and they are treating me like a leper when I’ve done nothing wrong.

Kasey is going on the basis of a phone call made by my fiance’s mother, who was attempting to get me out of our home, so she could continue to live there. There was no police report filed, the boys were asleep in their room, and she is the one who brought our 13 year old daughter out of her room, into a verbal argument, which we both calmly asked Jessica to go back to her room, because we did not want her to have to be subjected to us talking about my fiance’s mother and her lack of responsibility and we were discussing visitations with the kids mom. My fiance’s mom was interjecting in the conversation, yelling at my fiance’ and then called the police.

His mother has a history of making bad choices in her life, by allowing her then 12 year old daughter to attempt sexually touching our then 5 year old daughter several years ago, and defended her 12 year old daughter by stating the 5 year old (Jessica) wanted it. Also against our wishes she has allowed them to talk to their cousin in our home behind our backs, feeding her information about what was going on in our home, after we removed her from our home, due to her lack of grand parenting skills.

We had also exiled the cousin from our home previously due to being inappropriate and discussing her “customers” with our then 12 year old. The cousin was removed from our home that day, with us in shock over her comments and told to never contact our family again or come on our property. The only contact the children are to have is with their mother, no other family members on her side of the family or my fiance’s mother is to have contact with the children because of their history. Why is Kasey still allowing them to talk to them?

We would like the in-home service plan drawn up that Kasey Gaylon has been promising, and for it to include the children coming home, for them and us to continue counseling like we did before. If she wants Maplestar or Options to come out, we do not have a problem with that, we have already completed her Options and Maplestar programs and home visits with positive results. We are also attending CAFA and are looking into counseling services etc out here in Sweet Home, which is where we reside. Court had ordered parenting classes and anger management, which we are taking together, a psych eval, and to maintain a safe home. We have done that.

Court Ordered Counseling

Now Kasey, with it not being court ordered is demanding that my fiance take counseling, per his psych evaluation, which has not even been read to him yet, due to weather conditions and rescheduling by Kasey. It was not court ordered why is she demanding it? Only to delay the children coming home longer. Kasey was placed onto this case after we had requested Trina removed from it, due to the personality issues she had and the way she was treating our daughter. We do not have a problem with them coming out once a month to do their in home visits, etc. Never had a problem with it before. We have made all efforts to do so, but Kasey chooses to ignore them. Previously to all this, we had the children in counseling at OCP, weekly visits with mentors, and family counseling with my fiance and I there. Again counselors supported us as good parents.

She does not allow us to discuss our home, the kids’ rooms, their animals, nothing. Only demands that we give her the clothes etc that they request. At Christmas time ordered us to only give our kids one gift each, and that it had to be under $50.00, refused to allow me to give the kids a gift, and refused visitation to me as well. This is ongoing with her. Her answer is I don’t want to talk about it or her.

She has deemed me unsafe in her personal opinion to be around the kids, but in a service plan it states per DHS discretion, and again in one prior it stated that I was not to be exiled from this. I’ve done nothing to the kids or to the family to warrant a founded allegation against me for domestic violence. She has one founded against me with all 4 kids. Based on hear say from my fiance’s mother. Like I said prior, I’ve been in domestic violence/anger management classes and parenting classes with my fiance’. Her evidence is still non-existent, and the courts did not agree with the founded allegation, but it is still founded.

Usually by now, parents have more than 1 day 1 hr visits, the worker is usually by now working on reunification with the family, has a In Home Service Plan drawn up , which she has told us she refuses to do, and the kids are working on coming home, but she doesn’t foresee that in the near future. If we have been doing everything the courts have ordered why not? please tell me why this is not being done by Kasey Gaylon? If her harassment and treating us like children, alienating me from the visits, etc continues, we would like to request another worker. One that has not thrown herself into the case and made it personal like she has.

My fiance’ has told her numerous times, I am part of this family, DHS has acknowledged that they are to work with me as well, and this has been ignored. “I’m not party to the case” is what we are told. I’ve been in this family almost 2 years, the children think of me as their step mom and I will continue to be part of their lives as a loving mother figure. Their biological mother agrees as well.

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Kinship care vs Fostering

October 15, 2011 in California, DCF, DCFS, DHS, family rights, foster parents, grandparents rights, Idaho, Michigan

I’ve had several people in the past few weeks tell me that they wish to care for their own family members – as opposed to having them placed in foster care, with strangers. These grandparents, aunts, uncles and other close relatives are being told they must become certified foster parents.

Advocating for Children in Foster and Kinship Care: A Guide to Getting the Best out of the System for Caregivers and Practitioners Federal law requires that state social workers attempt to find suitable placement for “at risk” children, who are removed from their home. In many cases the state is merely paying lip-service and doesn’t actually follow the law.

This is a violation of federal law and the state can lose their federal funding. You should always report such violations of federal law to your U.S. House Representation. Call and request an investigation. You will need to provide them with a legal release form, along with the facts and any supporting documents.

Just today the Idaho Press-Tribune ran an interesting article:

In Idaho, more grandparents still in parental role

Many grandparents who take in grandchildren qualify for a $300 Temporary Assistance for Needy Families grant. The amount is the same regardless of the number of children in a family.

Grandparents also can become certified as foster parents, and take in their own grandchildren through the state system. That means more financial support. Monthly foster payments per child in Idaho range from $274 to $431 based on age; payments increase if children have special needs. Foster children get Medicaid cards and other benefits.

But many families don’t want to do that, Perry said. Some bristle at the idea of giving the state that much control over their families, even temporarily.

“They feel taking care of their own family is their responsibility,” he said.

Tracee Crawford, one of the leaders of the Grandparents as Parents of the Treasure Valley, a Southwest Idaho support group, said grandparents sometimes hesitate to ask for help of any kind, afraid that if they make trouble, their children will take the grandchildren away.

Becoming a legal guardian, another option, comes with its own complications, including steep legal costs, said Crawford.

She became part of a kin-care family when her daughter had cancer. Crawford cared for her and her grandson until her daughter died. She’s been in long legal battles with her former son-in-law over visitation rights with her grandson.

“To become a legal guardian, you have to prove a parent — your child — is unfit,” she said. “That’s really hard to do” — factually and emotionally.

Each state is different, which makes it difficult to know exactly what the law is your own state.

In my own case, I was shocked to find that while I was getting monthly kinship care checks from the State of California of ($357 – back in 2002), at the same time, another relative had a sibling to my grandson. The only difference was that they lived in Michigan; her checks from the State of Michigan – $123.  I felt bad for her because this child has autism and even in Michigan $123. doesn’t go far.

Be sure you check into your own states law, make a few phone calls, talk to an attorney and check out a few state websites before you sign anything. The choice you make could make a big difference in just how much help you are entitled to.

On that note, let me just remind you that if you accept money from the state, you accept all the strings that go along with that money, but it’s better than starving — maybe. We didn’t like giving up so much of our privacy, so we stopped received state funds many years ago – as soon as we could stand on our own two feet.

Knowledge is Power! Exercise your brain.

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