I’m sure many of you are following the Gravelle case in the news. The articles I have read thus far have not been complimentary, to say the least. In fact, every article that has been published begins out horrifically and ends with a single redeeming statement or two about the parents.
I gave Sharon a call today just to see how they are holding up. Sitting in the courtroom day after day listening as the truth is distorted and lies are told is really hard for them both; I could hear it in her voice.
While I would be an idiot to believe this was a perfect family; I personally don’t know of any. I do believe the Gravelle’s had their heart in the right place, when they took in these children. The state is certainly out to persecute them.
My heart really goes out to this family. The children have all been separated and some of them can’t even understand why. These were children no one wanted and caseworkers from the state approached Mr. & Mrs. Gravelle about taking the children in, not the other way around, though you wouldn’t know that from sitting in the courtroom.
Son Testifies Against Parents
I even received a nasty letter from their son, blasting me for being supportive of the Gravelle’s. He claims the father admitted to abusing him, the father made no such claims to me and the accusations made against Mr. Gravelle by the boy and later his sister were both found to be false and without merit.
In fact, the daughter who testified at the pre-trial hearing will not be allowed to testify for the prosecution because it was learned that she intentionally falsified statements because she was mad at her father.
I have a grandson who sleeps in a “cage,” it’s painted nicely and enclosed securely because he can’t be trusted not to get up in the middle of the night and get out and wander the streets. Special restraints are sometimes to help keep him from injuring himself when he gets upset.
He eats things that mess up his bowels and has severe sensory issues. I get regular updates from his adoptive parents and they have simply had a terrible time keeping up with his medical needs. If the state can prosecute the Gravelle’s, they could certainly prosecute my grandson’s parents for doing some of the very same things the Gravelle’s are being accused of.
People who have never cared for autistic children and children with other debilitating diseases, have no idea the heartache and pain a parent goes through in providing for their care. Not to mention all the money that goes into their care and treatment. It’s no picnic.
State Seeks Caregivers
As far as I’m concerned, the only thing their guilty of is having too big of hearts. The state asked them to take in these special children the state was unable to place elsewhere; No one wanted these children, the state made huge money on these kids when they adopted them out.
The dirty little secret here is that the state can turn around and sell these same children again to the next poor soul who simply loves children and can’t say no to them, if they can convince a jury that these parents were unfit. In otherwords, the state has a vested interest in the outcome of this case and their motives are not simply altruistic.
We are talking about children who were so abused that they ran out into the street to see their father when he drove by their foster home. That is a matter of public record. Now the state has had these children in custody since March and have coached these children to testify in court about the “abuse” they have suffered. Even the judge was appalled by some of the statements they made in his chambers before they were allowed to testify in open court.
This trial is a farce and nothing good will come of it, even if the children are allowed to go back home, it will be years before the damage will be undone, if ever.
I would just like to add a public note to their son…
You should be ashamed of putting your family through this. None of us have perfect childhoods and maybe you feel your parents could have done a better job? Most adults feel that way at sometime in our lives. You don’t air your dirty laundry in public just for the attention. Please seek help.
This whole case just makes me sick.